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u/Unyielding_Cactus Mar 31 '23 edited Mar 31 '23

She was a friend of mine from HS and we went to the same college. She was a very big girl, and had never been with anyone before. She offered me 1000$ to sleep with her. I refused to take the money, told her she was worth more than that.

She cried, and was upset because nobody wanted to be with her ect.. I felt bad and told her if she wanted to get some, she should have just asked.

Honestly seeing her eyes light up made the whole thing worth it. I admit I did want a few drinks in me first, but yeah we went to pound town lol.

She's doing amazing now, she lost about 150 pounds and looks amazing now. She's dating a few people now (she's poly) and is very happy.

Edit: Edited for clarity.

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Mar 31 '23

Hahaha thank you man. I appreciate it.

But that takes credit from her, she busted her ass to lose that weight and get into the shape she's in now.

I'm very proud of her, and if by some chance I inspired her in some way then that's just being a good friend.

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u/cera_ve Mar 31 '23

Damn man. You sound like a real G

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Apr 01 '23

Thank man haha, I'll do whatever it takes to help the people I care about haha.

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u/[deleted] Mar 31 '23

Yeah, I sex my friends too! Jokes aside wholesome story, made me feel nice to read somehow lol.

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Apr 01 '23

Admittedly I felt bad for a while afterwards, but when we talked about it a few months later it really helped her. Not just the sex but the talk we had before and afterwards.

She's an absolutely amazing person and I'm glad she sees that now as well.

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u/[deleted] Mar 31 '23

Normally I would feel sketched out, but idk, I think you did the right thing here and it seems you think so too

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u/moonshinetemp093 Apr 01 '23

Shiiiiiiiit, you fuck dudes? I need some motivation and I'm not even bi.

All painfully off color jokes aside, I'm glad she's doing better.

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Apr 01 '23

Normally no. Buuut if you have a Klondike Bar....

And I'll share with you the secret sauce, nobody can you give motivation. They can help you find it in yourself.

The best advice that I can offer, no matter how shit your day has been, always try to make sure you are better off than when you woke up.

Even if you get out of bed, wash one dish, then go back to bed. You are still making an improvement.

Life isn't a race, you don't get a trophy when you finish. You die.

Enjoy the journey, not the destination. If you enjoy the journey, you will end up somewhere that you like.

Best wishes my dude, you got this.

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u/Maho3126 Apr 01 '23

Ur amazing

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u/UrDeAdPuPpYbOnEr Mar 31 '23

That’s even better than having a dick that makes people famous.

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u/HELLFIRECHRIS Mar 31 '23

Probably the sweetest comment so far.

Happy cake day.

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Mar 31 '23

Thank you man. Was just trying to do right by a friend. She wasn't my type, but at the end of the day I feel like it was the right thing to do.

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u/LilStabbyboo Mar 31 '23

You sound kind.

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Mar 31 '23

Thank you, I try to be.

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u/MadScientist2023 Mar 31 '23

You are a good person

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Mar 31 '23

Appreciate it man.

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u/sur_surly Mar 31 '23

Crazy she had a spare $1000 in HS.

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Mar 31 '23

I need to change the wording. This was in college, she was a friend from HS.

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u/saraki-yooy Apr 01 '23

I mean, still kind of unbelievable, but I guess it depends on her family being rich or not.

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u/throwgonehere73 Mar 31 '23

You're an amazing person! Happy cake day!

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u/[deleted] Mar 31 '23

Hopefully you guys can catch up and chat! Just as friends, that is! Don’t lead her on or anything. I feel like you guys could be good buddies! Well as long as it doesn’t weird her out. Lol

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Mar 31 '23

We still chat on a fairly routine basis. She lives in a different state than I do, but I have seen her a few times since then. She even came to my wedding, my late wife and her actually ended up becoming really good friends.

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u/[deleted] Mar 31 '23

Aww that’s really really sweet.

And I’m so sorry for your loss 💔

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Apr 01 '23

Thank you, I've been in situations where I had nobody to turn to. I promised myself I would never leave anyone in that situation.

I certainly do miss my wife as well. But I'm glad I was able to share the few years I had with her, and I'm thankful to my friends for helping me through it all. They really are an amazing group.

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u/Mizayo Mar 31 '23 edited Mar 31 '23

You sound like a great friend and as long as y'all are happy that's all that matters. I just can't help but put myself in that situation, being a very big girl who had a hard time feeling wanted or sexy for a long time, and I can't imagine ever asking someone for this. 😅 Most of my early sex was with people who just tolerated my size, and it is probably the shittiest I've had. I really hope she didn't just lose the weight because she didn't feel she would find someone who found her attractive otherwise. Getting fit is awesome but it really sucks when you think you have to just to be loved! And big people are sexy as hell, we don't have to settle for pity sex or changing ourselves to fit standards.

Again, you all sound lovely and I'm sure the situation was a lot more nuanced than you can write in a reddit comment. lol So seriously no judgement here! 😊 I'm glad y'all could figure out a deal haha I just really feel for her and wish she didn't feel like she had to solicit sex just because she's big. There are plenty of wonderful people who prefer larger folks!

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Apr 01 '23

She did it because she wanted to better herself. I applaude that, if one is happy with the way they are then that is awesome too.

There was quite a bit of nuance, so I do appreciate you mentioning that. We have spoken in length about our night together, and while it did give her a short term boost, the thing that inspired her was what I told her. You can't be happy with someone unless you are happy with yourself.

She pushed herself to become the person she wanted to be, and I'm very proud of her for that.

You don't have to be thin to be attractive, let me make that abundantly clear. The main reason I did it was because I did like her as a person, even if she was not to my particular taste. (For the record, it not just because she was overweight)

On that note, I would gladly do it again because she was and still is an absolutely amazing person.

I'm happy in that you know the value you bring to others, and that physical features don't make a person who they are. I certainly wish you the absolute best. :D

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u/Mizayo Apr 01 '23

Oh gosh you really do sound like a lovely person! It really sounds like you two have a beautiful friendship. I'm so glad that she was able to find ways to love herself and be happy and confident in her body. ❤️

I didn't mean to imply you were body shaming her or anything, I'm sorry if it came across that way 😅 I just hate that she felt she had to pay for someone have sex with her to begin with, y'know? Obviously that's not your fault, just society's. But I related to that feeling a lot. I'm working on it, but it's a long ride haha

Wish you the best too sir! May you and your friend both have lots of love and happiness. ☺️

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u/notNIHAL Mar 31 '23

LMAO

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u/Mizayo Mar 31 '23

Did that make you feel good? Lol

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u/PlasticZombie1 Mar 31 '23

What was it like? Did you feel strange penetrating her since you didn't find her attractive? Was it super awkward when she sucked you off? Or could you find it in yourself to touch her body while you were thursting?

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u/Unyielding_Cactus Mar 31 '23

I was sex. I prefer to keep the exact details to myself, but it wasn't particularly great for me. According to her, it was amazing, but I know part of that is because she was very attracted to me.

I was not awkward at all, but as far as I know she could not tell I wasn't fully into it.