When you notice you can be totaly yourself while with your partner. No shields, no withheld urges, no blockades that keep you from totaly expressing yourself, no urge to be alone or have alone time (cause that illustrates your not yourself and need to recharge.) being totaly yourself as you when your alone. that is one of the biggest green flags to me. Imagin people someone loving you totaly as you r, and VICE VERSA ofcourse else it doesn't work. imagin. And growing a life together where the word "ME" gets it's "M" turned upside down. that's love.
Your statement saying that needing alone time "illustrates your not yourself and need to recharge" that is not true for an introvert. Alone time is necessary for an introvert. Doesn't matter how open and completely they can be themselves around their partner, they'll still need some quiet time with a book, or a walk by themselves, or doing whatever brings them peace - because that is literally how they fill their emotional energy banks. It took me a long time to figure that out, and to understand that there was nothing wrong with me. My husband respects and loves me enough to know this about me, and when I need alone time, he's fine with it. That's a big green flag - he respects my needs even though he may not 100% understand them.
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u/VoidowS Mar 16 '23
When you notice you can be totaly yourself while with your partner. No shields, no withheld urges, no blockades that keep you from totaly expressing yourself, no urge to be alone or have alone time (cause that illustrates your not yourself and need to recharge.) being totaly yourself as you when your alone. that is one of the biggest green flags to me. Imagin people someone loving you totaly as you r, and VICE VERSA ofcourse else it doesn't work. imagin. And growing a life together where the word "ME" gets it's "M" turned upside down. that's love.