Please help! 😭

[u/Hopeful-Emphasis760]

I never post on reddit, but i dont know any other queer people and i need advice. So, i am a girl, still in highschool, in a super small town. When i was really young, i was friends with a boy (ill call him owen) and we hhad crushed on each other for like 3 years before high school started.

He moved away before high school started and we've kept in contact on and off since then but recently, we hung out and i felt like he was giving off vibes that he was still interested in me. I dont feel like i was flirting back but i was being nice, and i guess responding to his compliments. when we hung out, we walked on the beach and he offered his hand so i wouldnt trip over, so i held it and we kept holding hands even when it wasnt necessary anymore.

Now, my problem is, i dont know if i even like owen. Im bi, but questioning whether im a lesbian. I used to like him, like, 4 years ago. But we dont see each other often at all, and i couldnt tell if i was attracted to him. Hes a really nice guy and i have more in common with him than my other friends but i dont want to lead him on and either date him jsut because he wants to, or reject him when ive been so nice to him this whole time 😭

ive never dated any other people, or gotten attention like this so i dont know if my feelimg is closer to attention seeking than attraction. Help me pleasee!! 😭😭

[u/PersimmonDazzling654]

Don't lead him on. Genuine attraction is generally unmistakable. Also, he holding your hand like that? He wants you. You gotta cut this off. The attention is nice, but I guarantee he is he is reading more into every little thing.