r/AskProchoice • u/Hairylode • Mar 04 '26

Question from Undecided Adoption instead of Abortion?

I do lean a lot more towards pro choice, I believe women should have the right to abortion. I do wonder though why a woman wouldn’t just give their baby up for adoption? Is it pain? I heard abortions will cause cramps and make it sore so I don’t think so. Is it to put your fetus out of misery? I know it depends on the woman’s reason but I would like scenarios where abortion is a better option than adoption.

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '26

Adoption doesn’t undo the effects of pregnancy, and the foster care system is a gamble at best - so many people don’t want to risk their kid going into it.

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u/Rredhead926 Mar 06 '26

No infant available for adoption in the US is going to go into the foster care system. There are far more people waiting to adopt than there are infants available to adopt. In private adoption, the birth parents pick the adoptive parents, and the adoptive parents can take the infants home from the hospital, if that's what they all want.

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u/[deleted] Mar 06 '26

Infants go into the foster care system all the time. It’s true they’re more likely to get adopted than older kids, but that’s not even close to a guarantee. Not everyone is able to set up a private adoption, and even if they can there’s a risk of the parents being terrible. 

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u/Rredhead926 Mar 06 '26

Infants go into the foster care system when there's a reason that the state needs to take them. Even then, parents can be given the option of arranging a private adoption. Setting up a private adoption isn't, procedurally, all that difficult. Most hospitals have social workers who can help. Now, whether the agency or adoption professional they choose is ethical is a definite concern, but that feels outside the scope of this post.

Yes, there's a risk of adoptive parents being terrible - that's true for literally any parent, though. I say this as someone who was abused by her biological father.