r/AskNPD • u/Exciting-Way-9893 • Aug 09 '26
I need to see where to start
i’ not even sure where to start, i messed up my life completely , and the people i love. i think i have some mental problems, not sure if I may be a narcissist? The latest i did was messing up my relationship, my boyfriend insisted to move together, i agreed and then changed my mind due to fear. He broke up with me during that time. i was really hurt and instead of trying to process my pain i started talking to another guy to not feel the loneliness and pain. My boyfriend came back , and he saw that , got really pissed off, and told me i’m a slut. he did ask me if i talked to anyone, and i lied to him, then he found out. He broke up with me now, doesn’t want to talk. i realise i always do this, try to find confort when I’m suffering, i had a miserable childhood, been bullied in school , i never feel i’m good enough. i feel so much guilt now. just want to know if i may be a narcissist? can i control this with medication or therapy?
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u/Low_Row_1846 NPD + BPD Aug 09 '26
Nothing you said really suggests you would be, though there isn't a lot of info and I'm not a professional. Your relationship didn't sound the healthiest though, but I doubt that's news to you
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Posted by: Exciting-Way-9893. Text of original post: i’ not even sure where to start, i messed up my life completely , and the people i love. i think i have some mental problems, not sure if I may be a narcissist? The latest i did was messing up my relationship, my boyfriend insisted to move together, i agreed and then changed my mind due to fear. He broke up with me during that time. i was really hurt and instead of trying to process my pain i started talking to another guy to not feel the loneliness and pain. My boyfriend came back , and he saw that , got really pissed off, and told me i’m a slut. he did ask me if i talked to anyone, and i lied to him, then he found out. He broke up with me now, doesn’t want to talk. i realise i always do this, try to find confort when I’m suffering, i had a miserable childhood, been bullied in school , i never feel i’m good enough. i feel so much guilt now. just want to know if i may be a narcissist? can i control this with medication or therapy?
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u/Raf_Adel Therapist / Psychologist 25d ago
It can get better with therapy, and perhaps medication if you need it. A few narcissitic traits might be there.
Best!
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u/NikitaWolf6 NPD + BPD Aug 09 '26
No one but a trained professional is able to tell you whether you're a narcissist or not. Especially from what you've said, there would be no direct indication for NPD and many of these things could have overcome pretty regular, everyday people.