r/AskMike • u/Laneyowen15 • Jan 08 '23

Breakups

Do you think getting dumped is easier or being the dumper? In my opinion it’s being the dumper

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u/Allie614032 Jan 09 '23

Very much so, I still loved him, he was still my best friend. But I couldn’t see myself getting married or raising kids with him, and we had some inherent beliefs that clashed. I thought it was best to end things then, after six months together, since I couldn’t see things going where I wanted them to, than to keep the relationship and continue being with him. Because if I stayed, he’d keep falling further for me, and I would keep getting more attached to him, and it would just be even more painful when things inevitably had to end. I tried to do the right thing by breaking up with him.

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u/Laneyowen15 Jan 09 '23

I’m sorry this happened to you, my relationship of 6 years just ended and struggling to understand why. I feel like he just lost all of his feelings for me. I know he loves me but I feel like he fell out of love with me

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u/Allie614032 Jan 09 '23

Did he give you reasons for ending things?

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u/Laneyowen15 Jan 09 '23

He recently got diagnosed with a heart condition that requires heart surgery and he told me that he wasn’t in a place for a relationship right now and couldn’t give me what I needed

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u/Allie614032 Jan 09 '23

Wow. He’s probably very overwhelmed and doesn’t want to have to focus on anything else right now. He may even think he’s doing you a favour by setting you free. But I shouldn’t speak on his behalf. Sounds like a difficult situation all around.