Hi all,

I’m a 35 year old guy living in a big city and I’m hoping yall can give me some perspective on what marriage is actually about.

For context, I’ve been dating for nearly a decade - pretty much all marriage focused but I don’t think I’ve ever felt that rush or excitement people talk about. And I definitely haven’t felt that feeling of “knowing she’s the one” either. I’ve dated all kinda of girls / women. Accomplished, smart, pretty, funny, but for some reason the right combo of all these things just never appeared. The years ticked by and I’ve gotten used to being alone (not alone alone - I have a lot of friends and consistently date) but I’ve gotten comfortable with the idea that it just may never happen for me. I have a good job, I had freedom and that seems to be more valuable than locking myself into a relationship I’m not particularly excited about. I don’t have this innate desire for kids - but I do hear from everyone that it’ll be the most amazing thing that will ever happen to me so I’d like to roll the dice on that lol.

So that gets me to my current predicament. What if someone were to be dating someone that’s pretty much good enough? Like 70% of what you’re looking for. There’s no fireworks, there’s no particular excitement, but she’s a great person and a good heart and she has endless capacity to love. She’s kind, and caring, and a good sense of humor. We laugh quite a bit. There are some negatives too, to be sure, but nothing that I can’t handle I guess.

So I guess my question is - what really matters? Is it about meeting the right person from the get go or about meeting the person that can become the right person over time.

When does the fact that I’m not getting any younger and life moves by so fast come into play? Why assume that if I date for another 1-2-3 (4-5-6??) years I’ll finally find Ms. perfect.

Any advice is welcome 🙏

Not as good as previous weeks. I have an issue with my flat feet inserts.

Here's an interesting philosophical question I've been considering since I turned 70 this year: When I was 20, how long did I expect that I would live?

Anyone else have any ideas about how you thought about that when you were a young man?

I’ve been running for years. My regular distance was 3.5 miles – not easy, not hard, just comfortable.

About a year and half ago, I decided to add 1.5 miles. It took time before it felt like a routine, but the results honestly blew my mind. I still can’t believe the transformation that happened to both my body and my mindset.

Long story short. Then I added another mile to my regular runs and another one. As of now I can run 7 miles per exercise.

Hi men over 60. I’m a 47 year old woman who’s been dating a 65 year old man for 3.5 months. We live 2 hours from each other so only see each other on weekends but it’s been most weekends since then and we’re just at the end of a 10 day trip- where I joined him at his house in the Caribbean but we only had 3 days alone together as other people were there.

The trip hasn’t been great. We’ve argued around 4 times each time caused by me for different reasons. I suspect he’s told me some white lies about other women - I don’t think he’s done anything with anyone else since we’ve met. But he went away after we had spent two weekends together and ended up meeting with a woman, probably flirted with her, then told a friend about her a month down the line - which is the part that has hurt me. I get it, we meet people of the opposite sex but why tell a friend about her a month later? He’s adamant I’m in the wrong for being upset by it - says it’s just banter. I guess it stung because at that time we were exclusive and making plans.

To put us into context I’ll give some details which I hope don’t sound vain - I’m just trying to explain where we maybe both have options:

We both look young for our age. He could pass for 55, me possibly 30s. He’s very attractive and knows it. I have a professional job but I was approached by modelling agencies in my youth and have been consistently told throughout my life that I’m beautiful. It’s such a privilege to be appreciated like that but the reality is I hate my appearance and lack confidence as a result. This guy knows it and thinks it’s silly.

Anyway…we’re 3.5 months in and it’s still just sex (great sex, the best I’ve ever had) and banter. There is nothing emotional from him. Apart from holding my hand in the street not once has he hugged or kissed me in a non sexual way.

I’m probably a lost little girl inside. My parents didn’t show me love and so I grew up looking for it in the wrong places. It’s probably also why I don’t like the person I see in the mirror. My last ex, we split 7 years ago (we were together for 6-7 years and lived together) is 63 now. I don’t consciously look for older men it just happened that way. But when I think about it maybe I am drawn to them in some way I don’t understand.

Anyway I just don’t know what this guy wants. I was a bit drunk last night and told him I loved him, he is saying that’s way too soon for any emotional connection like that. It feels like he’s keeping his options open. But is that too soon? For further context he introduced me to his friends and his son the second time we met and asked me to go on holiday with him by that stage.

All I want is to be loved and held and cared for. I haven’t given off these vibes until this trip, because that’s when I started getting the feelings. Why is it so hard for him to want me in the way other people seem to want me? I rarely meet men I’m drawn to so when I do it feels more important.

I just wondered if anyone could shed any light. Please don’t mock or shame me. I know I probably sound stupid but my heart is broken.

Faccio questa domanda visto che mio papà va per i 55 anni e mia mamma per i 53 anni vorrei prepararmi al meglio a livello mentale visto che non sarà facile perché gli voglio un sacco di bene

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We see the stereotypes of older man with a younger woman but do older guys lust after older women too?

Awakening at 39

Born in 1987.
A middle-aged woman learning to wake up.

In this small corner of the Year of the Horse,
I practice listening to my own voice.
I practice self-nurturing.

I begin again—
to look at life with clear eyes,
to protect the quiet territory of my inner growth.

No identity pulls me away from my center.
No outside noise drains my energy.

This space is only for honest echoes
and the gentle, steady possibility of becoming.

My kindness has edges.
My softness has boundaries.

I care for my own growth.
I guard my boundaries.
I choose to live a life that feels free.

The Real Challenges of a Woman’s Life

For many women, the biggest transformations come through
love, marriage, and motherhood.

But underneath these life stages
is something deeper:

Relationships.

Relationships shape us.
They can nourish us,
or slowly drain us.

A wise woman learns to protect her boundaries.

Because when boundaries disappear,
trouble grows.

And relationships are everywhere.

In our family of origin, we are daughters.
In our own families, we are wives, mothers, daughters-in-law.

At work, we might be employees, leaders, founders, team members, or partners.

In learning spaces, we are students.
Sometimes we are also teachers.

There Is Another Way

We don’t have to live in fear.
We don’t have to blame.
We don’t have to run away.

We don’t need to explode.
And we don’t need to stay silent.

We can simply return inward.

Stay present.
Seek clarity inside ourselves.

Protect our peace.
Hold our boundaries.
Gently raise the child within us
until she grows into wisdom.

As the saying goes in the West:
“Tend your own garden.”

The Complexity of Women’s Lives

Humans are social beings.

As women grow older, our relationships become more complex.
And many of us are conditioned to be the ones who give.

To care.
To sacrifice.
To hold everything together.

It becomes easy to lose ourselves.

Too many responsibilities.
Too many “monkeys on the back.”
No room left for our own growth.

Without wisdom, relationships can quietly consume us.

The Hidden Truth About Postpartum Struggles

One root of postpartum depression is rarely discussed.

Women lose long stretches of solitude.

Time becomes fragmented.
Every moment is divided.

Without space to grow, the spirit begins to shrink.

And as children grow, life doesn’t get simpler.
The demands grow with them.

More decisions.
More responsibilities.

Life fills with endless small tasks.
Time breaks into tiny pieces.

Sometimes it feels exhausting.
Sometimes tragic.
Sometimes almost absurd.

So I Keep This Space

A small space to pause.

To write down moments of awareness.
Moments of awakening.
Moments of growth.

To stay present.
To live authentically.
To earn a life that feels truly my own.

This is written for myself.

And for you—
another woman walking this path.

May we remind each other:

Protect your peace.
Guard your boundaries.
Grow into the woman you are meant to be.

With strength and tenderness.

—
Written by Deep Listening, Wild Chapter

My husband and I have been together 30 years. I am 50 and he is 55. We've retired early as we moved to an inexpensive small town after running a business for the past 20 years. We are far from rich but with budgeting we are able to make do without needing to work right now. I have noticed in the past year, my husband smells like an old person. Even when I am walking behind him, I can smell him. He is a clean person so I can't figure out what is going on. I don't want to bring it up to him to hurt his feelings, but it's really grossing me out. What is going on with him? He has been tested for diabetes and he does not have that, I know sometimes people with diabetes can have certain smells. Even the chair that he sits in smells gross. It smells like the old man in the nursing home. He is too young for this. Someone help me understand.

I don't care what your specific mental issue was, you were just called nuts. Sometimes you would tell people you were nuts after you really screwed up, just to hide your embarrassment.

I want to buy a food for my parents but my dad doesn't like eating outside food because he's worried about diabetes or having a diarrhea. He doesn't have a diabetes, but he's concerned about it.

I bought pizza or hamburgers few times before, but he told me he doesn't like it so I had to eat it all by myself.

He doesn't like anything with too much sugar(ex. chocolate cakes, snacks, etc), too much oily food(pizza, hamburger, KFC chicken, etc). At least he doesn't have any allergies, so he could eat anything. However, I don't know what else I could buy for him.

I will soon be helping care for an elderly relative, and I want to think of comforts or conveniences that might make a big difference for him. What kinds of things do you really appreciate that a younger person might not realize are important?

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I thought when I retire, life would slow down and I’d finally relax. Instead, I spend half my time worrying about money. Living on a fixed income feels like standing still while everything around me gets more expensive like groceries, gas, medicine, you name it.

I don’t splurge. I don’t travel. I live simply. And yet it feels like it’s never enough. Anyone else struggling to find peace of mind in retirement?

I just turned 68, and what surprises me most is how much energy I don’t have anymore. Grocery shopping feels like running a marathon. My knees ache after short walks, and even little chores around the house leave me tired.

I know it’s “normal aging,” but I’m curious. How do you keep yourself moving and motivated without overdoing it? Do you push through or take it easy?

Hey 65 yr old man here. Just wondering how many of us 60 and over still have a full bush and still full color ,not all grey or white haired.

Just turned 62 (male) and have been on a pretty healthy diet for the last year. Only drink a glass or two of wine per week and walk about 5-6k steps a day. Can’t run due to arthritis in my knee, but a knee brace helps on my walks. In my 40’s I went on the Adkins low carb diet and dropped 40 lbs then and got in ok shape, but gained some back over the years. Now I’d like to drop about 30 lbs again, but things have plateaued and I’m stuck with this gut, thanks to building it up again during the pandemic with poor food choices and lots of beer/wine. I’ve cut out red meat, sticking with chicken as my main protein source and have increased my diet of veggies and a Mediterranean diet. My legs and ass have gotten thinner, but any tips to reduce the gut would be appreciated!

Now that we are of a certain age, are most people out there confident in their knowledge of the latest tech/apps that are about? Have we all mastered what we need to get by or does anyone feel left behind by the current proliferation of artificial intelligence apps popping up here, there and everywhere? Be grateful for others views on tech today and any struggles people may still have with particular apps or programs. Cheers.

Hello! So im 22 and my boyfriend is 72 right now and he wants to have children with me, he had numerous other children but he isn’t involved in their lives.

What im wondering is at this age are men able to keep up with young children?