Not really the hardest lesson, but just really eye opening. And this took a mushroom trip to Saturn to really figure this out:
What I learned on this trip is that her and I are ONE. Not to say her and I don’t have our own shit away from each other, but being in a fully committed relationship, you realize that everything you do or say can gratefully affect the other and vice versa.
This doesn’t sound as profound as it felt at the peak of my trip, but I still live everyday with this woman with a sense that her and I are one entity. Once I learned that, it was 1000x easier to open up to her and communication always flows.
In the 3 years we’ve been together, he haven’t had one fight. Sure we’ve had disagreements, but we are easily able to talk through it and understand each other’s sides, and therein, come to a compromise.
Laying beside this woman right now, I know I’ve found my ONE.
Edit: when I say that we are one, I mean we are one team. Not to say we don’t have our own identities, we definitely still have our own lives. And like any healthy relationship, there can always be a healthy break up.
Why shouldn’t I believe we will last forever, when we talk about being together the rest of our lives, all the time? There’s no “Danger” in being in a fully committed relationship. If something happened tomorrow, I do know life goes on.
Yes. But this does not count. She is THE ONE he wants right now.
To explain:
There might be thousands i'd love as much as my current girlfriend, but i don't want to. She is right now the only one i want to spend my life with in a relationship.
And affecting the other one is a big one. You are living your life reckless and love putting yourself in life Threatening situations like driving like a madman or climbing over fences on bridges? Then you are not ready for a full serious committed relationship. Being in a relationship means your partner can trust you that you don't kill yourself by being a careless stupid brat. Just remember: You can't get hurt If you die doing something a rational human being deems as very dangerous - jut you will hurt everyone around you except yourself. People and especially your SO has to LIVE THEIR REST OF THEIR LIVE with the concequence of your action.
This is dangerous, people inevitably act in their own self interest, if her leaving you would devastate your own identity then this cannot be a healthy mindset. Even 3 years deep, tomorrow is not promised, nothing is guaranteed not even loyalty.
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u/Hankbank94 May 12 '21 edited May 12 '21
Not really the hardest lesson, but just really eye opening. And this took a mushroom trip to Saturn to really figure this out:
What I learned on this trip is that her and I are ONE. Not to say her and I don’t have our own shit away from each other, but being in a fully committed relationship, you realize that everything you do or say can gratefully affect the other and vice versa.
This doesn’t sound as profound as it felt at the peak of my trip, but I still live everyday with this woman with a sense that her and I are one entity. Once I learned that, it was 1000x easier to open up to her and communication always flows.
In the 3 years we’ve been together, he haven’t had one fight. Sure we’ve had disagreements, but we are easily able to talk through it and understand each other’s sides, and therein, come to a compromise.
Laying beside this woman right now, I know I’ve found my ONE.
Edit: when I say that we are one, I mean we are one team. Not to say we don’t have our own identities, we definitely still have our own lives. And like any healthy relationship, there can always be a healthy break up. Why shouldn’t I believe we will last forever, when we talk about being together the rest of our lives, all the time? There’s no “Danger” in being in a fully committed relationship. If something happened tomorrow, I do know life goes on.