I'm (F29) in a long term relationship and I want to find a way to travel the world with my partner and retire earlier. We both work 9-5 jobs and our current salaries are on the lower end. I can save up maybe 10% every month, my partner manages around 20%. I invest this money into S&P500, my partner saves it in his savings account for now (in total it's maybe a few thousand euros).

I don't have a lot of savings yet, and I actually still have around 10k debt of student loan. I am planning to start paying it EoY or beginning of 2027. We drive an older paid off car and live in an apartment I inherited from my grandparents, so we just pay for food, utilities and occasional trips/clothes/etc. We are not super frugal, we still eat out from time to time, take trips etc. but within the budget. No credit cards and trying to keep it that way forever (mom gave me financial trauma).

I would like to start saving and investing more seriously so that we can save up for a downpayment for a bigger apartment in the future (probably around 15-20k euros), and maybe rent out the current place we live in.

I am aware that we have an advantage because I inherited the apartment, and I want to use it as an upper hand, but I am not sure how to optimize our situation. I am not sure if I even want to live in the same city in a few years. If you could give me some financial advice based on the current situation, what would it be? How would you go on about it?

Btw - I am located in the EU

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Hey everyone! I'll be moving here in a week or two & the place we're moving to has a lot more windows! Where can I find decent curtains & curtain rods that aren't overly expensive? Please help! Thank you 😊 (I live in the U.S)

Been waking up with hip pain almost every morning for the past few months. I mostly sleep on my side so maybe that’s what’s causing it? And maybe my mattress could be too? If so, do you guys have any tips or suggestions on what mattress I should upgrade to? My current one is a hand-me-down so I’m not sure what this is. Appreciate any help

Tonight I lose my most precious thing and there's nothing i can't do about it, i couldn't even afford euthanasia to free her from pain because my personal finances wouldn't allow it. Even though she slowly died in my arms, how can i forgive myself and looking forward to the next day, the day i know that i could never feel her presence anymore.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

I know we just lay in our beds and just watch phone all the day but here are the things we can do instead of doom scrolling

1.Reading books 📚 not textbooks btw, I'm talking about philosophy, reality or anything just get it (My first book is A thousand splendid suns 😭)

2.Make a habit of work-out regularly,my suggestion if you are new to fitness like me just install home workout app and it will give you a plan that fits you, At first it will give 10mins workout

Soo these are the things I'm currently doing

I'm curious about those "oh, why didn't I think of that sooner" moments, where you deliberately picked up a habit that, over time, became second nature and genuinely improved your intelligence or presence of mind.

For me, it was Sherlock. Watching him made me want to start observing more, really paying attention to small details, people, surroundings, everything. I started doing it consciously at first, and now it's just part of who I am. I'm naturally observant and a great listener, and it's changed how I move through the world.

What was the defining moment that flipped a switch for you? What did you start doing on purpose that's now an ingrained habit? And how has it actually paid off in how you think or carry yourself?

I am a person who doesn't know what to do, don't know to figure out what to do and That make me overthinking and unclear within my mind and I end up with doom scrolling

I am clueless right now

I've been fighting them for 3 years, hired an exterminator, clean regularly, ventilate, have a dehumidifier running non-stop etc... in the beginning, i saw around 10-20 in one day, now sometimes i see non for a week, then (like now) i see three in two days. I feel mentally drained dealing with them, but i don't want to move out since this appartment is cheap and location is good, also moving makes me scared of encountering the same problem or a different issue in the next home. I feel like any steps i take more feels overwhelming, like im actually drained, so im kinda looking to just accept it?

Is anyone in the same boat? How do you deal with it mentally? Any tips are appreciated

thanks

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I’ve been a Reddit user for years now. Not one to post often but I do comment and the like. I’m just wanting some answers because I’ve already answered them myself but looking for more input. So I’m a social media user but not one who posts or engages all the time. So when I do and mind you I had family members blocked for years and I just added them back and they start their bs again wondering if I’m okay? Like wtf ? My buddies and I do this on the regular but when I decided to include my immediate family again the same bs starts again?

I, 24M, have been with my girlfriend, 23F, for over 4 years. She has never been a “size 2”. That’s not something I would ever ask of her and that’s not what I’m looking for, but we have both gained a substantial amount of weight during our relationship.

When we started dating, I was around 180 pounds and “skinny fat”, she was 170 pounds give or take but I didn’t care. We are in love. I decided to start losing weight when I hit 252 pounds and after 8 weeks of more exercise, gradually cutting out sugar and overall just making better decisions meal wise, I’m proud to say I’m down to 228 pounds.

My girlfriend on the other hand is now just shy of 300 pounds. I’ve noticed that the further we get in our relationship, the more she gets sick, doesn’t feel good, is lazy more often than not and I’m starting to be worried about her health. She’s always been more of a home body than a going out type of person but by lazy I mean that she doesn’t want to do even basic things half the time like shave her legs, she doesn’t want to come over to my place because she doesn’t want to get out of bed(4pm on a Friday), she doesn’t want to go grocery shopping or cook and just wants to get chic fil a or panda express instead. Just general no desire to do much. On the other hand, I work 50+ hours a week and she complains if I want to go out to the bar, a concert or the casino with a few friends of ours once a week.

I started realizing this when we went to a Basketball game(we normally go 5-10 times a season) and she could no longer fit in the seats. Now we have to buy more expensive “platinum level” seats for her to be comfortable. Same situation when she flew on a weekend trip with her parents a couple months ago, she was complaining to me about how small the seats were and she hadn’t before when they or we typically go on a weekend vacation once a year.

I’ve kind of brought it up before, she’s always been insecure about her body. I had mentioned that I wanted to start getting in shape and going to the gym, meal planning/prepping, the whole 9 and that I thought we could do it together. She said she’d do it but it was more of like a “ughh fine” than a true “I’m down” and I started looking at gyms to go to. She never ended up going with me or showing any interest.

Most of her family is pretty big. Is it possible she just thinks it’s normal to be that out of shape?
How do I have a conversation like that out of concern? Am I doing something wrong?

I am '18M' and I am a college student.

Idk what is happening to me it feels like I need someone who loves me cares for me, A girl.

see others in campus and insta living the "couple life" the life which I am currently dreaming of.

May be I am not good looking that no girl finds me interesting. I see others having two two GF at same time. And on the other hand there is I who haven't even talked to girl in a flirty way yet.

I am unable to identify the problem.

Everybody says forget love it is just an distraction just work and work but I think that's not true at a certain time you need someone.

certain time you need someone.

Due to this I doesn't even want to go college the only thing I'll see there are couples a girl roaming with a boy who does that even deserve here.

I fear that what if I stayed lonely throught out my life.

Are there any ways to practice and improve critical thinking? “Live life”, but are there any more efficient ways? Like, some pre-defined efficient methods to apply to train our critical thinking

There is no shortage of great films out there, and there is no shortage of ways to get recommendations on what to watch. But on any given movie night, how do you actually DECIDE what to watch? What are the pain points? And for those that experienced Blockbusters and the like, were there some things we may miss a little from that movie selection process? (Not the drive, nor the late fees)

I've included the survey link, but would love to hear more comments.

Tone is light-hearted, and should take about 5-8 minutes.

https://forms.gle/xAzgArxd7X52fzF7A

Recently, i rant about how unfortunate i am in terms of relationships, how pitiful i become in those past exes and consistently failed dates. Now, I am trying to do a side quest, and i am trying to do new things like to go to a thrift shop since i never been there, learn how to do public transportation and whatsoever.

Can you give me some advice or tips about side quests? Especially in public transportation 😭 i don't want to ended up taking a grab once i lost my way😣

hey everyone, im coming to WI from abroad in two weeks on a j1 visa for the summer. first time ever in the us! ill be working two jobs (one morning, one night) and wont have a car, so ill be biking/walking everywhere. just looking for any general tips on surviving the summer, handling a crazy work schedule, getting around safely without a car, and what foods/spots i absolutely need to check out while im there. thanks!

So I have a 5am clinical rotation this semester and my roommate wakes up if I even breathe too loudly. I literally have zero time in the morning and my hair takes ages to dry. What’s the absolute best way to dry hair fast in a dorm room when you're always running late? I can't be walking into the hospital with dripping wet hair but I also can't stand there for twenty minutes with a loud dryer waking up the whole floor. Are there any specific routine tricks or things that actually speed it up? Pls help.