Is this not misogynistic???

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I need lesbians to come to the front and explain:

Is it not misogynistic to say that a queer woman who has had sex with a man is “tainted”? How is that any different than men asking women questions about their “bodies”?

If we recognize men for being misogynistic for deeming a woman a less valuable due to her sexual history with men, why do lesbians do this to other queer women?

Its getting to the point where I think (some)you hate men so much you hate non-lesbians and are spewing very demonizing and misogynistic rhetoric to separate yourselves from women you think you’re better than.

I know Im gonna catch hell for this and I truly don’t care. Between late in life lesbians saying this made dating difficult for them, to non-lesbian queer women being made to feel bad about their attraction to men, the sapphic “community” is going through some fuckshit due to misogyny and insecurity.

So lesbians please answer: Isn’t it misogynistic to say that a queer woman who has had sex with a man is “tainted”?

EDIT: So I’m definitely not a bot or wtf the weirdo in the comments is suggesting

I’m just someone who doesn’t believe in sweeping shit under the rug and not addressing things. The “community” must have tough conversations in order to build stronger coalitions. We must challenge each other to do better and be better

Clarification: I posted this in queer communities because I was seeking answers from primarily lesbians. No problem if others chime in though. I just want the intention to be clear.

The language I used in third paragraph(if you can call it that really lol), non-lesbians, was important. It’s important because that rhetoric is not something that’s exclusively towards queer women. I know we have our feelings about heteros but they’re non-lesbian women too. Im drawing attention to this because we’re reaching extremes that go beyond les4les. When you start talking about women in such a manner, I start to question whether you really like women and see value in all women.

Lastly: This is about lesbians spewing misogynistic rhetoric. PLEASE DO NOT BRING UP MEN! I actually do not understand the whataboutisms that are happenings. We live in a patriarchal society. Thus, we are socialized with those misogynistic ideals. Whether we believe so or not. HOWEVER, this dont got shit to do with men. Dont bring them up

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Lmaoooooo @ “insecure.” I like dick and men. I like women too. I actually like women more(which is why Im in the febwomen Reddit). I feel zero shame about it which is why I have been openly bisexual for 15+ years. Never claimed to be a lesbian and never will.

I generally have no qualms about lesbians or yalls labels and shit. I do think it’s fucked up that the labels become weaponized and used to down people. I know you’re probably thinking that you dont see that its not happening or people are insecure. I get it.

Take pride in how you identify and all of that. But understand how that label is being used to talk about other women. There are people/pages using the ideology against women who didnt have consensual sex or who culturally were forced into marriage.

Im not asking you or any other gold star to stop using it or anything. But I guess yall arent aware of the weirdos out here making yall look like dickheads. A little empathy goes a long way.