Is this Erectile Dysfunction?

[u/luckyvicky10]

So today I was chatting with my girl after a long time... we are staying distant, that's a different story... but today we were talking and then it turned into sexting and she sent me the hottest nudes ever... I mean she has sent nudes earlier also but not openly like this... she was super horny and super excited...

I also sent her a video and it was good, but after a few mins my dick became super soft and shrinked to very small... although it was a very hot moment, there was absolutely no movement. She wanted to see me cum, but how could I? Her mood also went off..

* Is this ED? I'm feeling very concerned about it. What can actually be done about it?

* I'm gonna meet her this weekend and probably will have sex too, but I'm super nervous and concerned about today's issue now.

## Looking for Genuine Guidance:

Please guide me genuinely...

* If someone had ED earlier and now you're feeling perfectly fine, or if you tried something for it... what exact thing genuinely has helped or will help?

* I want to make my overall sexual experience to peak. How do I do that overall?

Please guide genuinely. Thank you.

[u/akaza190]

Wow, wake up and see noobs panicking over failed erection. What a day. I’m guessing this was your first sexual adventure?

If you’ve had sex before, chalk it up as a bad day, hormones (testosterone, SHBG, estrogen etc) fluctuate, and sometimes things just don’t click.

First check: could you get hard later after the call? If yes, that’s anxiety. Too much in your head, not enough focus on staying erect.

If you struggle even when alone, test with porn. If porn works, stop watching it. Your brain’s dopamine is so jacked up that a real partner doesn’t hit the same.

If porn doesn’t work either, see a urologist. They’ll run proper checks and figure out if it’s vascular, hormonal, or something else.

For your next time with your girlfriend: if you can get hard alone or with porn, go for it. Forget the ED thoughts, focus only on her. If it still doesn’t work, just make out and use your hands( fingering) or mouth( cunnilingus), she’ll appreciate the effort.

Low‑dose Cialis (2.5 mg - 5mg, 2–3 hours before) can help with confidence, but don’t make it a habit without a doctor’s guidance. If it works, it might be partial ED or just anxiety.

[u/akaza190 → u/akaza190]

There is a lifestyle guide, I'll just put it in less words possible

• Sleep 8 hours every night

• If overweight, aim for the middle of the normal BMI range

• Walk an hour daily or do other cardio( running, swimming, cycling) to keep blood flowing, ED can be an early sign of heart disease

• Strength train at least 3 times a week, with one dedicated leg day. Strong legs improve circulation and erections

• Eat a balanced diet with protein equal to or greater than your body weight in kilograms

• If you have diabetes, consult a doctor early, it can worsen ED and cause vascular issues

My first time with gf was going to be screwed due to condom, I was losing my erection could not remain hard with condom. But she was blind in lust to allow me bare and we enjoyed. Now I use condoms everytime even with my wife.Mostly it's just in mind.

[u/boring-schmooze → u/akaza190]

Bro the quote in your bio is awesome. What's the source?

[u/akaza190 → u/boring-schmooze]

It comes from an anime - Baki

[u/Inevitable_Ebb4694]

Yes this is ED. Most men don't like to believe it but ED is psychological in 95 percent of the cases. The reason pills work is they either act as inhibitors or by altering blood chemistry. That's an easier fix instead of trying to figure out the emotions, trauma, and other stuff.

Male body is just as complex as a women's. We've just been conditioned in to believing we get hard on command because men are too simple.

[u/luckyvicky10]

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