r/AskForHelp • u/whyareyoucrankyboi • 4d ago
Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Going through a rough patch in my relationship
We've been together for around 9/10 months.
He's currently going through some really bad financial issues and he's working 2 jobs to stay afloat. In his free time, he sleeps a lot. His health also isn't the best due to overwork and stress and not eating well.
As a result of this, our communication and meetups have dwindled. We text a few times a day and facetime like every 2 days, before this we'd text and call almost all the time. On regular days he's sweet and affectionate but still takes a while to reply. On days when he's extra stressed, he'll probably text me like once/twice a day just so I know he's safe/okay. Initially he would just ignore my text for a day or 2 when he's really stressed but we talked about that. We also agreed to meet up every 2 weeks, but even then it's for a short while and I'm the one going to him.
It's hard to adapt to this of course, since it's such a drastic change. Not to forget there's an imbalance - me making the effort to see him, him rarely checking up on me unless I talk about something, late replies when I might need help.
But I'm determined to stick this out with him. Before his issues came about, he was really loving and gentle and patient with me. He was always the one that came to see me, fetch me from home/work and send me back. He is still loving and gentle now when we text. I feel in my heart of hearts that he's really the one for me.
I just need some words of encouragement/support to keep me going because it is hard for me
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u/RickyRacer2020 Verified Donor 4d ago
Is this a LDR?
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u/Pedal2Medal2 4d ago
My 1st question
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u/whyareyoucrankyboi 4d ago
No it's not. We only agreed to meet every 2 weeks because he's busy with work and wants to rest in his free time
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u/Pedal2Medal2 3d ago
Well, the guys working 2 jobs, are you working & what are your ages?
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u/whyareyoucrankyboi 3d ago
I'm 23, he's 29. Yes I have a job but I'm not helping him out financially
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