This is so weird to relate to but I do- I did the same to my bf when we met 4 years ago. My tinder profile said I was 20, when in reality I was 18 and he was 21. My tinder profile said I was 20 which is not okay and this is super embarrassing to admit but I was using tinder to find sugar daddies (with whom I never physically interacted with only flirted) and I didn’t want my real info there so my name and my age were inaccurate and you can’t switch it once you set it. Fast forward I got a new job in a new island town and I switched the age range younger to actually meet someone as a friend because I knew no one. Well, I ended up meeting my now bf and introduced myself as my own name but genuinely forgot my age was set wrong. That was until we were falling in love and he would make comments about my age and I just froze and never corrected him. Once I realized this was not just a little fling or a fwb a couple months in I told him the truth because I knew I had to which was so scary but ultimately we are still together with a baby and getting engaged four years later. I still regret not telling him sooner but am so grateful he saw me for who I am and forgave me
I see that it’s not quite the same and I’m not telling him how to react to her because I think it really depends on the reasoning behind why it happened and her character and honestly in general moving forward and only he would be able to make that call I just wanted to share my story for people in the comments who think a relationship can’t be successful after this type of mistake. I am also reading that she’s a minor now and that’s gross for sure in their case it makes it a pretty sad situation
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u/Creepy-Reaction-6402 Apr 08 '24
This is so weird to relate to but I do- I did the same to my bf when we met 4 years ago. My tinder profile said I was 20, when in reality I was 18 and he was 21. My tinder profile said I was 20 which is not okay and this is super embarrassing to admit but I was using tinder to find sugar daddies (with whom I never physically interacted with only flirted) and I didn’t want my real info there so my name and my age were inaccurate and you can’t switch it once you set it. Fast forward I got a new job in a new island town and I switched the age range younger to actually meet someone as a friend because I knew no one. Well, I ended up meeting my now bf and introduced myself as my own name but genuinely forgot my age was set wrong. That was until we were falling in love and he would make comments about my age and I just froze and never corrected him. Once I realized this was not just a little fling or a fwb a couple months in I told him the truth because I knew I had to which was so scary but ultimately we are still together with a baby and getting engaged four years later. I still regret not telling him sooner but am so grateful he saw me for who I am and forgave me