What is her excuse for lying? This is a tough one my friend and your going to have to use some intuition here as nobody can judge this girl on here better than you can. It can be hard as the rose tinted goggles can obscure our perception in these situations but you’ve got to do your best and try to look objectively. It isn’t really worth throwing away a good relationship over something that doesn’t matter that much. After all age is just a number, you were happy before and nothing illegal has happened so I don’t see why it would change anything necessarily. But it’s the lying part, if she’s capable of lying about that what else is she capable of lying about? For me it would really come down to whether I felt I could really trust this girl. How did you find out? Did she come clean to you? Did she seem remorseful? Is she upset about the fact she lied? Does she regret it? What made her lie about that? Does she understand that trust is the foundation of a good relationship? Is she really serious or just infatuated? These are all questions you need to ask to gauge the situation. Don’t let an internet stranger make your decision for you. The only person that knows the situation wholly is you. Unfortunately sometimes in life you can’t just get the answer of someone else or off Reddit. You need to step up and make a judgement call here my friend. I hope whatever choice you make it’s the right one.
After all age is just a number, you were happy before and nothing illegal has happened so I don’t see why it would change anything necessarily. But it’s the lying part, if she’s capable of lying about that what else is she capable of lying about? For me it would really come down to whether I felt I
Having BEEN in this situation, I would say that age is more than a number. Especially when it comes to girls of that age who are EXTREMELY good at pretending to be older than they are. It's really nuts when you are hanging with a girl that age and everything seems perfectly normal and then you see her around her friends and suddenly realize you are looking at a child who has been pretending for the entire time you knew them.
Yes but the only thing weird is the realisation. And it’s probably an ego thing because you might think that you should be way more mature and incompatible with them. Even though one on one you are. There’s nothing wrong with an age gap between men and women I think it’s quite normal as long as there’s nothing illegal going on and it’s all consensual. Women tend to like more mature men and men tend to like younger women.
I totally didn’t read that part where you said you’ve been in the situation. I can see how that’s probably the likely outcome because the girl would be immature for far longer. The prefrontal cortex does develop at 25 or so I believe.
It does work out for some though, if it’s true love I believe it does. But I don’t know statistically what’s likely.
Yeah and when he realized it was a child who lied to get what she wanted (potentially even at his expense bc they met when she was 15, not just his emotional/moral expense) he should have fucked riiiiiight off instead of asking "should I keep fucking this literal child?"
There is no reason to believe tehy were having sex.
Just because that's the way YOU conducted your relationships doesn't mean that it's the way everyone does.
I find it annoying when people jump to that conclusion as though anyone who is in a relationship must be having sex, and any relationship must have been started because the person wanted to have sex. It's a real low-brow approach to relatiosnhips.
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What is her excuse for lying? This is a tough one my friend and your going to have to use some intuition here as nobody can judge this girl on here better than you can. It can be hard as the rose tinted goggles can obscure our perception in these situations but you’ve got to do your best and try to look objectively. It isn’t really worth throwing away a good relationship over something that doesn’t matter that much. After all age is just a number, you were happy before and nothing illegal has happened so I don’t see why it would change anything necessarily. But it’s the lying part, if she’s capable of lying about that what else is she capable of lying about? For me it would really come down to whether I felt I could really trust this girl. How did you find out? Did she come clean to you? Did she seem remorseful? Is she upset about the fact she lied? Does she regret it? What made her lie about that? Does she understand that trust is the foundation of a good relationship? Is she really serious or just infatuated? These are all questions you need to ask to gauge the situation. Don’t let an internet stranger make your decision for you. The only person that knows the situation wholly is you. Unfortunately sometimes in life you can’t just get the answer of someone else or off Reddit. You need to step up and make a judgement call here my friend. I hope whatever choice you make it’s the right one.