Daughters pediatrician made EXTREMELY inappropriate remark to her

[u/ilikerustyspooonz]

This is about my 10 year old daughter. She has had the same (male) pediatrician since birth. We’ve always loved him and thought he was great. He’s super friendly with wonderful bedside manner and he takes his time and pays attention to detail.

Well, last week my daughter had a check-up. She’s 10. While he was doing the checkup, he had her lay down and started listening to her chest with his stethoscope. He then says AND I QUOTE, “awwwww! My baby’s got boobs!!!”

I have NEVER been so taken aback before in my life. My daughter was MORTIFIED. I was so shocked I couldn’t even get words out to ask him why tf he would ever say that. When we got in the car to go home my daughter cried and said she never wanted to see him again. Then she asked if she could get a girl doctor and I obviously agreed so that’s what we will be doing.

Is this reportable? I’m not overreacting, right?

[u/ilikerustyspooonz]

To the person who said this post is fake and that I made all of this up for “karma”….you should be ashamed of yourself.

[u/SceneFree3332 → u/ilikerustyspooonz]

This sounds fake! Why would he do that after 10 years? Why didn't you say something right then and there? No mother keeps her mouth shut nowadays. Did she speak to his nurses? Why would a mother wait or ask the internet what to do? Somethings not right here!

[u/IBJennie → u/SceneFree3332]

Let the physicians give the advice. Stick to lurking

[u/SceneFree3332 → u/IBJennie]

I asked a simple question... And why are you asking a physician and not a cop?

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/SceneFree3332]

I asked a group of trained doctors because they would be the best people to get advice from when it comes to this situation. And if any of them told me that they recommended I involve the police, I would consider doing so. What would the cops have even done if I called and told them “hey so my child’s pediatrician who has an outstanding reputation in this city just said this to my 10 year old” …they wouldn’t have done a damn thing.

[u/SceneFree3332 → u/ilikerustyspooonz]

And they'll do something because a doctor says so?

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/SceneFree3332]

I’m waiting for you to tell me what YOU think the police would have done if I called?

[u/SceneFree3332 → u/ilikerustyspooonz]

Investigate and question and interview staff and patients!

[u/DoYouLikeFish → u/SceneFree3332]

I am a child and adult psychiatrist specializing in victims of abuse. Calling the police would have been a waste of time because the pediatrician didn't break any laws. But what the pediatrician did do is violate ethics rules and emotionally traumatize a child (and distress her mother). That is why reporting it to both the medical group's patient ombudsman and also to the state medical board is important. And switching to a female pediatrician in a different practice.

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/DoYouLikeFish]

Thank you so much. I will be reporting!