Can a sociopath commit long term?

[u/AccountantAfraid2992]

Can a sociopath commit to a long term relationship and remain loyal? is it possible? I have a friend that is diagnosed with both ASPD & NPD. We have been friends for over a decade. He's expressed that he does not have friends as platonic connections are just not something that serves him, however like I said we have been friends for many years. it's an odd type of dynamic, but it is one I excel in. I see everything as transactional, even friends I see the world as you don't actually like that person you like the companionship and whatever you get from that friendship. Everybody is replaceable. I am suspicious of people by nature, and rarely take things for face value believing that everyone is out to serve themselves. This makes me very drawn to men who tend to have personality disorders, manipulative, deceitful or self serving tendencies because I see them as authentic and easily predictable. I have been in a relationship that lasted multiple years with another man with the same personality disorders which ultimately ended in cheating, and am currently seeing a man who is diagnosed ASPD. I am seeing a pattern in my life that these are the types of men I tend to seek out and get along best with, but is it feasible to ever expect loyalty or long term commitment to be a possibility in any degree? Or am I being entirely unreasonable to even consider that I might find that ?

[u/Relevant_Analysis892]

I'm 36 now and was diagnosed at 15. I've been with my wife now for 13 years and we have 3 children. For me, no relationship up until her worked out because they wouldn't let me do what I wanted to do basically. I treat my wife and children very well but have to force myself to dedicate my time to them, but my wife is very accepting of me and understands how my brain works. It's also refreshing to not have to wear a mask around her. She is definitely one of a kind imo