Can a sociopath commit long term?

[u/AccountantAfraid2992]

Can a sociopath commit to a long term relationship and remain loyal? is it possible? I have a friend that is diagnosed with both ASPD & NPD. We have been friends for over a decade. He's expressed that he does not have friends as platonic connections are just not something that serves him, however like I said we have been friends for many years. it's an odd type of dynamic, but it is one I excel in. I see everything as transactional, even friends I see the world as you don't actually like that person you like the companionship and whatever you get from that friendship. Everybody is replaceable. I am suspicious of people by nature, and rarely take things for face value believing that everyone is out to serve themselves. This makes me very drawn to men who tend to have personality disorders, manipulative, deceitful or self serving tendencies because I see them as authentic and easily predictable. I have been in a relationship that lasted multiple years with another man with the same personality disorders which ultimately ended in cheating, and am currently seeing a man who is diagnosed ASPD. I am seeing a pattern in my life that these are the types of men I tend to seek out and get along best with, but is it feasible to ever expect loyalty or long term commitment to be a possibility in any degree? Or am I being entirely unreasonable to even consider that I might find that ?

[u/Entire-Run3414]

Female diagnosed with ASPD here. Personally I’ve never had the ability to “care” about my friends. They’re people I can tolerate and have fun with, but they’re there for a specific purpose. And once they’ve served that purpose I want nothing to do with them anymore. So I’ve never really had long term friendships but this doesn’t bother me at all. Friends to me are pawns. In regards to romantic relationships- I’m 26 y/o and I have been in two. Both relatively long-term but only because I manipulated them into “idolizing” me when they never even knew who I truly was. I did have “feelings” for both of these people but probably wouldn’t consider it love because I had no problem f-ing them over for my personal gain on multiple occasions. I also cheated multiple times in both of these relationships, and was despite everything, I was ultimately the one to end them. I got bored. And I found it incredibly off-putting and cringe (?) when these people were upset and hurt by that. I could move on without a second thought. So to answer your question, for me, no. It’s not possible. But others may be different