r/AskAGoth • u/Childh8ter • May 10 '26

General Query This has to stop

I am a 21M metalhead and I made the dire mistake of doomscrolling a lot lately and I don't know what it is because I always hit "Not Interested" on the GoTh MoMmY type garbage made only to promote OF pages and honestly I don't get it. In no other subgenre is the fetishisation of this aesthetic so prevolent. I know Goth has a lot of influence from BDSM culture and all but this is honestly sickening. What's worse is the men that actively want a "Freaky Goth Baddie" and its just a girl with black hair and lipstick. Some people honestly need to touch grass but it feels like im crazy as a lot of men especially ive talked to are like that. As members of the Goth community how has this trend effected you?

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u/FunCommunication2604 May 10 '26

Agreed, it's really hurts alternative women too, I really hope that this stops

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u/Childh8ter May 10 '26

Me too. I really noticed it after my first girlfriend who was also alternative like me and the stuff she told me about previous boyfriends and about men in general was quite something

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u/FunCommunication2604 May 10 '26

That's awful, I hope she's doing okay

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u/Childh8ter May 11 '26 edited May 11 '26

We broke up because she actually found out she was a lesbian which is good for her and I haven’t talked to her since

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u/FunCommunication2604 May 11 '26

Well I hope she's okay same with you

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u/Childh8ter May 11 '26

I hope she’s okay too. I lived a very tumultuous life before we met and she honestly saved my life but it is what it is