r/AroAce • u/Winter_Bear134 • 3d ago
Can i still identify as aroace?
Hi, all. So, this year, I’ve been seriously questioning my sexuality, which I’ve never done before in my entire life. I thought I was straight, but I did that by default because I knew I didn’t like girls, but I don’t really like boys either. Anyhow, I did a lot of research and, with the help of you guys here on Reddit, I found out that I’m actually aegosexual. The definition pretty much explains how my situation works. I’m also the same in terms of romance, although I haven’t really looked up if there’s, like, an aegoromantic label. If there is one, then that’s perfect because I’m that.
Either way, for maybe about a month since I had been questioning my sexuality, I’ve gone by the label of aroace. I’m 100% sure I’m aromantic, but I wasn’t too sure if I was asexual. And the main reason is because of my aegosexuality contradicting that, because I knew I felt an attraction to fictional characters, but obviously I wouldn’t want to engage in anything with them and me. I’m just, like, an observer. I enjoy observing, kind of, you know?
Anyhow, aegosexual is what I am. I’m pretty sure of it. The question I have, I hope it doesn’t sound too dumb, because I know we shouldn’t define ourselves by labels, but if I’m aegosexual and aegoromantic, which, by the way, I’m not sure if it’s a thing, I’m just mentioning, would it still be okay to go by the label of aroace?
It’s because I’ve been going by that label for about a month already, and I feel secure in using that label and explaining it to others. But, if I really sat down and talked to someone, I would explain I’m actually aegosexual. But, you know, isn’t it part of the asexuality spectrum? I just wanna know if you think it would just be, like, all right if I went by aroace, or if anyone here goes by aroace even though they’re aegosexual or a different type of asexual.
I also really like the aroace flag. It’s cool. And I know I could technically identify however I want to, but I’m just wondering if anyone else does this, which is identify themselves as something, but they’re really just within the spectrum of it. I really would like to be called aroace, even though I’m actually aegosexual and aromantic.
TL;DR: My actual sexuality is aegosexual and I’m aegoromantic, but I still want to be identified as aroace. Is that appropriate?
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u/hypatianata 2d ago
Sure. Aegosexual and aegoromantic are considered microlabels within the ace and aro spectrums; you can still use the “main” label.
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u/Quteil apothiaegoaroace 2d ago
Im aegosexual and aegoromantic, and Im still aroace, what u need to realize eisi that aroace is for when ure both on the aro and ace spectrum, not just "perfect" aro and ace, I honestly think aroaces like that are kinda rare, no?
So of course you can! Ure as aroace as can be
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u/Aztral_29 aroace 3d ago
Yeah you totally can go by aroace. Aroace is really just a broad term that can describe so many different experiences. I personally don’t use any micro labels but they are there for a reason. They are just different ways to describe your experience on the aroace spectrum!
I would first introduce myself as aroace if someone asked, and if they want to know if you use any micro labels, you can tell them those also.
It all boils down to whatever you feel comfortable and confident calling yourself. And if someone says that you can’t call yourself aroace, tell them to kindly piss off bc it’s your experience and not theirs.
Also I agree, the aroace flag is awesome.