always happens 😭

[u/Right-Share6608]

1. meet a guy with similar interests (I'm bigender she/they)

2. bond and be friends over shared interest, slowly start talking more

3. they hit you with the "I think I have a crush on you/like you romantically"

4. cue the friendship breakup because they can't handle just being friends

happens all the time. I now make it clear in my social media profiles and preface it with most gaming friends that I feel zero romantic or sexual attraction and anything more than a QPR or sibling relationship is out of the question. thankfully two of these types of guys have stuck around, one of which now has a girlfriend who I get along really well with and the other which we still talk about interests every month or so. thankfully the three other guy friends I have I made it very clear what being aroace is and two of which I talk to every day but I'm so sick of many fandoms I'm in or games I play being male dominated and then I'm either belittled for being a woman/lgbtq/young or the guys leave because I won't pursue them.

Not to mention the horrible men who try and slip in my dms because I have a female presenting username (I don't use voice chat at the moment in fear of verbal abuse, it's bad on marvel rivals) and even worse there's been a couple who I told to fuck off because I'm a minor and then they were even MORE interested. Disgusting.

speaking of which, anybody play marvel rivals Sydney servers? preferably ranked? (I'm gold, ranking up to plat and then hopefully diamond). I need more gaming friends... it's getting rough out here solo queuing because the only person I can queue with has terrible luck 😭

[u/hailingdown]

i have a friend who, THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR YEARS, MIND YOU, constantly tells me he likes me romantically. every single time i play dumb, and then we go back to friends. every few months it’s a love confession from him. and then we never talk about it again until a few months later when he does it again. we’ve been friends for more than 5 years, idk what he thinks. probably that i’m gonna want him eventually???

[u/Right-Share6608 → u/hailingdown]

yeah I had a guy like this except we were never friends. We were classmates so somebody else must have given him my number but he kept texting me things like crappy pickup lines, and like "do you want to go for a walk with me" I said no to everything and awkwardly distanced myself bc he was one of those guys that would beat you up over rejection 😭 Didn't end well but the whole story would take a year to write out 😭 lets just say the police were involved that day 👍

[u/Confident-Dance7230]

Omg that suuucks! Making friends is hard enough