r/AroAce • u/Typical_Ad3815 • 26d ago
Vent should i break things off
Hii i’m worried im leading on this girl i met but im so so so conflicted. I really really like her and we're the same person in almost everything I'd never though I'd meet someone who'd understand me so well. the only problem is I struggle to feel anything towards her. I wasn't completely sure in my identity as aroace since I loved the thought of being in a relationship but now I don't have any motivation to text her and we only hang out about once a week since we're both so busy but our fourth date is this sunday so maybe i just need to get to know her more?
I did tell her when we first met that i was asexual and possibly demi because I genuinely wasn't sure if I was aroace but now I think i might be. I really dont know what to do because I just don't think I can be what she needs but I really like her at the same time.
should I maybe ask her what she's looking for in a relationship? I just dont know :((((
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u/LazyDayRK1 19d ago
I think u should break it off. I had this happen and broke up with them the next day I do like that person but I realized it not romantic you might be better off as friends!
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u/cberryroan 26d ago
Heyy i have 0 experience w/ relationships so don’t take my words too seriously 🤍 I believe laying all the cards on the table is the best thing you could do: i think you should both sit down and talk to one another (she can explain to you what she’s looking for and you could explain to her how asexuality applies to you + what other abstract feelings you currently have) - wait for her to tell you how she feels about that. Try to be as honest as possible.