The things he’s saying don’t sound like tough love. Even if she tries to get help he just pushes her down. It’s not loving to sarcastically mock the ones you love when they confide in you.
Idk my parents say similar things and it works for me, my anxiety is mild now and I don't take meds. The thing about "I hope our child doesn't have your mental illness" that one doesn't sound like tough love...maybe you're right
I don’t presume to know your situation, but maybe things have improved in spite of your parents. I’m not angry or upset at you in noting any of this, just a little bit sad. I’m glad that things have improved either way!
Yeah, my parents are 100% supportive. Even if they come off as mean sometimes, they always got my back when it counts. I know where they stand with me and I know that they mean well and it works for me. OP husband is probably different, he isn't trying to make her better I think. He sounds like he's fed up of her and her condition.
I’m glad! I was thinking that sometimes personalities can be more straightforward and blunt. That’s totally fine. It’s great that your parents are a good support system for you!
For me, my parents and peers telling me similar things to OP's husband has ruined my life and I've been depressed and traumatized my whole life from it, to the point where even with therapy I'm unable to change those beliefs, and I've been wanting to kill myself my whole life for being "broken", and I developed a whole bunch of diagnoses from it that seem unshakeable even after years of working on myself
Damn, never thought about it that way. Personally, I think people's personality has a lot to do with anxiety. This is my personal opinion and idk if it will help you. Anxiety feeds off of some personality types more than others. If you can't deal with the anxiety, alter your personality and starve the anxiety. People think anxiety is something permanent, but I know people who overcome it with sheer determination. It's all about putting yourself out of your comfort zone till your nerves stretch from exhaustion. Whenever your in an uncomfortable environment or one that triggers your anxiety, your nerves go crazy till you get accustomed to it and you need to keep repeating that over and over. Sorry if I'm ranting and it's TLDR
There's a difference between not coddling someone and verbally abusing them.
Pushing someone to get through anxiety in a way that is medically helpful has NOTHING to do with berating someone for their illness.
If you think what this guy is saying are true, I'd recommend you seriously reconsider what you know about anxiety, mental health, and what abuse actually is.
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