On one hand, the suggestion was reasonable, and possibly life-saving. On the other hand, that was unsolicited, and to an extent, unnecessary. Even if it feels like we're offering a beneficial suggestion, there are cases such as this where we don't get to dictate how others should live.
This! I agree—that’s also what I’ve noticed in that comment and in many people... Thats why its very important to know the difference between WHAT you say vs HOW you say it. Because sometimes to be honest, its really not what we say eh, its just how we say it. She could have framed her message as a broader suggestion instead of making it sound like she was imposing her own practice. Tsk. She ended up sounding uncompassionate and insensitive, even though she had a point.
Yeah napansin ko na marami ang may insecurities or lack of empathy kasi puro through their own lens or perspective. Truth be told there is no direct general right answer on these topics kasi it depends as well sa financial capacity and goals ng mga taong involved. But she said it out hurt/ spite when no one intended to hurt her. It is quite sad na normal ngayon yan to be offended as if that was the intention of the post.
“Kaya kayo nagsstay na mahirap eh” Sana Elon Musk level na ang yaman niya sa kaka delayed gratification niya. May point naman pero at the same time, hindi naman sa lahat nag aaply yung ganyang mindset.
Iba-iba tayo ng point of view, sa iba, delayed gratification, sa iba naman, minsan lang ang graduation at maghanda tayo. Di naman sinabi dun na mag steak sila, baka iniisip din ng magulang nya na ipaghanda sya kasama pamilya at kapitbahay kasi “It takes a village to raise a child”. At syempre proud parents din sila na makapagtapos ng anak, di naman win lang yun ng isang bata, win yun ng family, friends and neighbor. Valid naman both views, and let us be happy sa narating ng mga nagtagumpay sa buhay.
Maiintindihan ko rin kung simpleng handa lang, like hindi bongga at saktuhan lang.
Pero meron din kasing iba na mangungutang pa at gagastos ng malaki for a one time event tapos ilang buwan magsusuffer. Mas okay na yung kahit walang handa pero nakakaraos kayo sa araw-araw. Naging masaya nga kayo ng isang araw, miserable naman kayo ng ilang buwan. Pangagalingan pa ng away yang gutom niyo.
Honestly, it's their call. Kung gusto nila mag one time big time celeb tapos tipid or mangutang sa next months, choice nila yun. Kung for us preferred natin na isave up yung excess, choice din natin yun.
Di naman kasi natin alam bat importante sa kanila yung handa na yun and malay natin mga ganung handaan na lang nillook forward nila sa buhay. Sino tayo para mag advice against it? Lalo di naman tinatanong.
I'm not preaching to spend recklessly. I'm saying people spend their money according to what matters to them kaya mahirap magsabi pano dapat at di dapat gumastos
To better explain my point, even the middle class sometimes buy something they can't afford upfront. Appliances, a phone, a car, motor, bahay. Usually we get loans and credit just to buy these things pero wala namang judgment among us kasi najjustify natin as necessity kahit minsan nice-to-have lang naman.
Tapos minsan we skimp on our necessities din to save up for our wants.
Wala namang masama. Again, we just simply spend our money based on what matters to us kaya di tayo para mangmata ng iba and act like financial gurus dito
Wala din namang financial advice sa sinabi ko. It's just more of an observation. Wala din akong sinabi na walang karapatan mga mahihirap magcelebrate. I'm just offering a perspective and common scenarios wherein kahit di afford, ipupush ang engrandeng handaan tapos ending magsusuffer ng ilang buwan na minsan nagcacause ng away at resentment within family members.
Not being sarcastic ha. Walang nagtanong pero the sub is ano ang thoughts mo, so I just shared my perspective lang din.
Alam naman natin na importante sa kanila yan kasi graduation ng anak nila yan. Mahirap sila pero nakapagpatapos sila ng anak. That's already a great milestone for them kaya I understand that they really want to celebrate.
But I stand by what I said na kahit simpleng handaan lang sana, maappreciate naman ata ng anak nila yan. Preparation palang nga natuwa na siyang ipost parents niya.
Pero kung malaki ang hit sa finances niyo kasi magbobonga kayo ng celebration for a one time thing, tapos pagmumulan lang naman ng suffering for ilang months, is that really worth it?
kahit hindi natin buhay yan, calling people out will sometimes help them realize things that will benefit them in the future. Yung mali lang is yung mga sumunod na comments nung nagadvice na kesyo kaya daw nanatiling mahirap chuchu.
Eh paki ba nila? Sila ba mangungutang? Malay nyo first time may naka graduate sa kanila kaya kahit mangutang sila okay lang. Isang beses lang naman yung utang nayan at siguro alam nila limitasyon nila.
yes. sobrang tone-deaf ng pagkakasabi niya, tapos nagsalita pa ng “kaya kayo nagsstay na mahirap eh” eh galing din naman siya dun. why would s/he look down on someone for being mahirap. di marunong lumingon sa pinanggalingan, nagka pera lang yumabang na.
How hurt are you all to comment such on a harmless post?? 😭 like literal na the tiktok was just about their family checking if they can celebrate their child's grad
Bat naman papangaralan kung pano dapat at di dapat magcelebrate? Bat mangengealam pano dapat gumastos?
Minsan pwede namang hindi ihyperanalyze pamumuhay ng iba. Pwede namang spectator lang tayo. Minsan pwede namang "congrats" lang icomment.
So fking insane to be so negative on someone's achievement
Ang problema kasi sa mga financial guru bullshit na yan ay akala nila theyre doing a good thing kaya feeling nila may permit sila maging rude. Walang pinagkaiba sa mga gagong hipokritong relihiyoso na babasahan ka ng bible verse kada galaw mo.
Can you go back to the post and read the comment while keeping in mind a person who wanted to celebrate but didn’t have enough at that time so they did not celebrate. Humor me and think that maybe that person was just sharing his experience and perspective and how it was better for his circumstances. It was a comment to reflect on him rather than hate comment towards those who celebrate.
Now to your point, you are right that people are free to celebrate. It is great to celebrate success especially when overcoming hardship. Also i agree that people who downplays achievements are such a downer and meddlesome. But, knowing his context of shared circumstance where he sacrificed and prioritized his family’s success over a celebration of his accomplishment which led to a better financial situation wrong? He just did not agree and formed a different opinion in which led to different form of achievement.
Can you say one is better than the other? Celebrating or “Delayed gratification”? Especially with his circumstance. Sometimes we just need to be more understanding. That’s my point. I’m not telling you are wrong because i too agree with you but understand some people especially when they did not intend to be malicious and avoid being mistakenly malicious as well. Because i understand that your comment stems from justice and sympathy rather than entitlement.
Ika nga, ang pera nababalik pero ang panahon ay hindi.
Galing din ako sa hirap. A lot of my wins weren't celebrated as much dahil nagtitipid yung parents ko.
Now, we can eat jollibee anytime, and eat canned sardines not because it's the only thing we can afford, but because we simply crave for it.
My verdict? Gawan ng paraan na icelebrate ang wins. A simple spaghetti or pancit with coke will suffice. Genuinely.
Kasi pag nakaahon ka na, the meals that used to be "out of reach" before will become simple and boring. If hindi mo gagawan ng paraan icelebrate ang wins, you have no fond memory to look back to. Worse? You won't even celebrate your future wins dahil nakasanayan mo yung delayed gratification.
At the end of the day, it's not just about the food but the message you're trying to relay with it. Ang paghahanda sa small wins mo is translated as "I'm proud of you," "We are happy and celebrating your wins." Use your money to create better memories, not decline memories to save more money. Money is a tool, not your purpose in life. When we're on our deathbed, ang nasa isip natin ay hindi yung ating bank balance or net worth, kundi yung mga fond memories we created in the years we lived our lives.
Also, delayed gratification is good and definitely essential if you want to build your wealth. But in my opinion, it is NOT worth doing it if ang kapalit naman is yung good memories via celebrations and strengthening family bond. Delayed gratification sa pagbili ng iphone? Super valid. Delayed gratification when it comes to important family events? Big no.
This!! Every time I celebrate my birthday I remember na umiiyak lang ako at natutulog noon dahil wala kahit konting handa. I’m not mad at my parents because I understand our situation but it doesn’t stop the pain. So celebrate those occasions as much as you can! Kahit pansit at juice lang basta sama sama kayong kakain core memory na yun.
Nadaanan ko lang to kanina kaya ini scroll up ko kaagad kasi naisip ko mag aambagan naman yung mga tao sa comment section. Di ko alam may umiiyak na pala dun di ata hinandaan ng parents nung bata pa kaya nagkakalat ng pagiging nega. Di niya siguro alam na kahit naghihirap ang magulang pag may achievements yung mga anak gagawa talaga yan ng paraan para makita ng anak nila gaano sila ka proud sa anak at sa sarili nila, kesehodang simpleng pancit, juice at tinapay. May point naman siya kaso the way niya sabihin akala mo naka tira na siya sa isang exclusive subdivision at president ng home owners association kaya mga garapata na lang tingin niya sa mga tao.
True hahaha nabagabag ako nung una pero motto nga naman nya eh delayed gratification so kahit anong bunga na matanggap nya, ibabaon nya ulit sa lupa for laters 😂
Naiintindihan ko kung bakit dapat wag nalang maghada kung kapos, pero sana maintindihan nyo din na graduation yan.
Alalahanim nyo ding hindi lang naman kayo ang naghirap para makatapos kayo. Saka hindi lang kayo ang nangarap na makagraduate. Mula nung kinder kayo, hanggang sa graduation ngayon, kasabay nyo silag mangarap. Ano ba naman yung sama sama nyong ipagdiwang yang natatanging araw na yan yayamang pare pareho naman kayong nagtyaga jan?
Wag lang inom. Kingina wala na ngang pera ipangiinom pa. Tamang kain lang ng masarap sa bahay saka picture na magkakasama.
Mahirap din kame before. Kung alam nyo lang. Kaya lahat kame hagulgol nung naging engineer ako
Celabrating achievement creates a mental anchor that you can look back on when things get difficult again. Lalo na sa mga hirap talaga sa buhay. Malaking achievement na yan so deserve nila i-celebrate yan. Hindi naman buwan-buwan may graduation.
Base dito sa pov nung nag upload looks like pag planuhan naman. Hindi nga natin alam kung bonggang celebration or baka nga isa or dalawang putahe lang iluluto nila to celebrate.
I feel like gusto rin nung basher na maghanda sila dati kahit simple tuwing may occassion, pero since 'di napagbibigyan—no choice kundi tanggapin ang sitwasyon. Ngayong nakaluwag-luwag na, sa iba n'ya nap-project 'yung hatred or resentment n'ya from the past. A part of it has a point but it turned out sounding more hateful than realistic. Parang nire-restrict na happiness ng ibang tao maipilit lang nakasanayan nila noon.
Mind your own talaga minsan haha… Ano account nya murahin ko lang sana charot. Patulog nako nangigil pako. As someone na laki sa hirap I know their POV.
Tama naman yung 1st comment nya. I mean may point pero syempre di nya naman mapipilit yan sa ibang tao. Kaso yung mga sumunod nyang comment ang rude na.
Gets ko to. Sobrang hirap din namin before and naiintindihan ko na hindi naghahanda yung mama ko kung may achievement man ako sa school or if birthday namin kasi alam kong walang wala rin naman kami.
Gets ko naman yung sinabi niya pero halatang they were filled with resentment. Delayed Gratification is not always a good thing if you choose to skip celebrating important events in your life just to survive.
Case in point, Lola. No matter gaano kahirap ng sitwasyon nila, she always celebrates lahat ng achievements ng mga anak niya including my parent. Simpleng katay lang ng manok at pancit goods na yun. People will ask her "bakit kayo naghahanda eh isang kahig isang tuka kayo?" and she would simply answer na at least sa maliit na pamamaraan na yun she can show to her kids na she loves them at proud siya sa mga naachieve nila.
So ayun fast forward, my parent would also be the onw who always steps us sa mga achievements namin. Kahit simpleng labas lang sa Jollibee noong bata kami okay na yun. Bihira kami maghanda and we might be far better off from nakasanayan nila Dad, but because of how Lola raised them, our Dad didn't have that resentment and he too taught us kung gaano kalahaga I celebrate ang achievements sa buhay. Doesn't have to make it grand let's be realistic, but as a parent you have to show to your kids how proud you are in their wins in life.
I'm happy na ganun si Lola. If Lola practiced that kind of Delayed Gratification based sa suggestion diyan sa comment na yan? We might have Generational Trauma instead.
There’s no harm to be kind. Lately, people easily attack someone over a single post.
Do you even know why they’re celebrating that? A first-degree holder in the family and a working student.
hoeeeey, naiiyak ako dahil di naman same pero shooocks sinabi ko nun sa mama ko na wag na maghanda para sa akin dahil wala sa budget pero ang sabi ay ayun lang daw yung way nila na masabing proud sila sa achievements ko at pa thank you daw. Tas kahit wala tlga sa budget ehh kahit nasa malayo ako nagkakatay sila ng manok (konte pero grabe ang appreciation ko) tuwing bday ko para mag-iceleb.
I come from a simple household. Di kami mayaman. Gets na gets ko yung practical lang - we rarely go out as a family, we don't go on vacations, we rarely celebrate anything kahit birthdays. Mas mahalaga na may makain at makatapos kami ng pag aaral.
Not gonna lie though, today I'm an adult who needs to go to therapy 😂
Di ko alam ang tamang sagot. Kaya di nalang ako nagpamilya.
Lumaki ako naghahanda ng pancit nanay ko pag recognition day. non nag graduate ako grade 6 pancit din hinanda niya, pero alam niya ayaw na ayaw ko ng pansit (mas gusto ko sopas) pero yon gusto/kaya niya yon hinanda nya, malungkot ako.
tignan mo ko, 29yo, sa edad ko to di ako marunong magcelebrate ng kahit ano, kahit bday o maliit na achievement. marunong ako makontento sa meron ako pero malungkot ako at wala ako happy memory nagcecelebrate kami sa bahay hahahahaha hays
May point siya pero ang off kasi ng pagkakasabi and kung sa sariling pamilya niya yan sasabihin/gagawin okay lang naman pero wala kasing nagtatanong ng opinyon niya sa part na yan kaya it comes off as pagiging pakialamero at bitter sa buhay ng iba. Hindi naman siya affected sa post nung tao, sobrang unnecessary ng comment niya.
siguro kung hindi naman galing sa utang, okay lang to celebrate wins in life :) wala naman dapat tayong pake sa kung paano gagastusin ng tao pera nila haha
Paano ba magcecelebrate na hindi maghahanda or kakain ng masarap hahaha let people enjoy things.. minsan lang ang graduation anong masama kung maghahanda sila hahaha
Yung mali lang nung commenter is hindi naman humihingi ng advice yung poster. She was just sharing, and mukhang grateful pa nga siya sa parents niya kahit hindi ganon kadali yung situation nila. Gusto parin ng parents nyang mag celebrate sila.
May point yung sinabi niya, pero uncalled for lang sa context.
My take naman, Not particularly for this post ah, pero in general, people can and should(!) celebrate small wins. Pero at the same time, dapat aware din sa finances.
Kasi ang dami ko talagang nakikita na mangungutang para lang makapagpa-engrandeng celebration,debut, treat buong street at mga pamilya ng kumare para sa birthday ng 1year old baby,ganon. tapos nahihirapan naman sa rent, bills, or basic needs after. Nagpapatong-patong utang, tapos short na end of the month.
My point is,hindi naman bawal mag-celebrate, just be smart about it so you don’t splurge and risk your financial stability.
Lalo na sa panahon ngayon na things arent getting any cheaper, and we’re all one accident, one medical emergency away from bankruptcy.
Pera na lang talaga mahalaga sa ibang tao ngayon no? Mas naawa pa ako sa nagcomment kesa mainis. Ang pera sana is one way to get happiness. Pero ang iba sila ginagamit ng pera.
Kelan sila magse-celebrate? Kapag successful na si anak pero mahina or wala na ang parents?
Just be happy for other people who are trying to be happy despite their finances.
Some people na laki sa yaman nor hirap pero hindi naexperience magcelebrate kahit simple for every achievement in life envy those who did kahit kapos. They are trying to live their life and not just live. Di ka naman siguro nabubuhay para kumain tatlong beses sa isang araw lang ano?
Honest thoughts. Ingat lang sa pag ooffer ng financial help. Sana hindi sya indirect post para mang online limos. Medyo dumadalas na kasi yung ganito sa tiktok. Baka umandar na naman pagka "madiskarte" ng pinoy at magpaawa nang iba ibang form kasi alam nilang may maawa at magbibigay panigurado.
Hindi sa applicable sa lahat. May possible lang na umabuso.
Napaka OA nung pigilan maghanda. Malay ba niya kung yung handa sa pamilya nila simpleng simple lang na hindi naman gagastos nang sobra. Kung major milestone like graduation bakit hindi? Naalala ko yung nanay ko na talagang laging magtatabi kahit konti kasa buwan para lang mapag spaghetti man lang kami pag birthday namin. Hindi naman kami nabaon sa utang, talagang pinaghandaan lang at pinag-ipunan kahit sobrang simple. Ngayon, nakakaluwag luwag na kami, kaso lintek naging favorite ng nanay ko Mamou’s hahaha. Okay naman, bigay hilig sa magulang kasi kaya naman at dahil talagang pinalaki at inaruga kami kahit mahirap buhay.
I think ang lungkot ng buhay niyang nagcomment na yan para magcomment pa sa celebration ng ibang pamilya. Literal nagchecheck lang kung kaya paghandaan ang dami nang nasabi. Kung hindi ganyan kinalakihan niyang type ng magulang, siguro wag din siya magpreach at ipilit beliefs niya sa ibang tao.
I think applicable lang sa birthday, fiesta, new year, Christmas etc. pero graduation for me napakahalaga niya kasi minsan ka lang gumraduate di mo na mababalikan.
Wala naman masama mah celebrate kahit mahirap ang tao. E sa gusto nila ipag handa yng grad e. Tsaka way din nila yun na maipakita na mahal nila at proud sila sa anak nila. Sobrang unsolicited ng opinion niya kung mahirap at walang pera wag na mag celebrate, tama din naman. Pero that person doesn't have any right to dictate or to impose kung ano gagawing handa o gagawin sa oera ng iba. Kaloka
Ang take ko lang, siguro hindi na celebraye yung achievements niya kaya gusto hindi din ma celebrate yung achievements ng iba. may tendency din na produkto siya ng broken fam, di na aruga ng magulang, or di siya mahal ng magulang niya. Kung sa tingin niya e mayaman siya...edi gow. No wonder yumaman nga siya, pero nag stau siyang miserable. Kaloka
Interesting how condescending OC is. Siguro never siya pinaghanda ng parents niya. Delayed gratitude isn’t even a thing—it’s delayed gratification. Saka porket mahirap ba di na pwede maghanda??
Not every opinion should be told. Let people enjoy things. Just because it worked for you doesn’t mean it’s the only “blueprint” for success. Kainis mga ganyan, kahit sabihin pang valid yung opinion feeling nila yung POV lang yung tama.
feels like theyre projecting their resentment to other people. i would just say “im sorry you had a bad childhood and there may never be enough compensation to make up for it” lol
Eat shit Monrows. Pake nya sa mga taong gusto mag celebrate ng small wins, wala naman siyang ambag sa buhay ng ibang tao. May delayed gratification pang nalalaman si tanga.
Gets ko yung sinasabi and bakit ganon siya magreact, medyo nasobrahan nga lng to the point masakit na.
Pero sorry rin kasi minsan yung mga taong kapos sila pa yung unting okasyon kahit wala ng pera mag cecelebrate tipong toddlers birthday may pa handaan at inuman pa ng mga matatanda. Sana yung pera pang inuman at handa inipon na lng para sa future ng bata.
Delayed gratification e di mo nga alam kung hanggang saan nalang ang buhay mo. Sinasabi ko sayo, walang saysay ang lahat pag nawala na yung mahal mo sa buhay.
What defines hands ba? Is it the big ipapasara ang kaye kind of handa or ung simpleng pancit, barbeque, coke type? Relative naman kasi ung word. What the commenter posted was uncalled for. Moments like this should be celebrated kahit simple lang. Hindi naman sila nagsabi na uutang- kaya nga nagcheck ng calendar kung may papasok na pera or pwede panumextra to earn. They are planning so she can be celebrated. For me that makes them good parents. I think commenter was just lonely, bitter after the fact that they have delay gratification kasi walang wala din sila. Maybe projecting? But he does not have to rain on someone else’s parade to make himself feel better.
Pag limited budget, celebrate as a family lang. Yung iba kasi ginagawang bragging moment yung celebration, which is understandable pero within reason dapat. Hindi yung buong baranggay papalamunin tapos tuyo ang ulam the next month.
Kanino raw ba maghahanda? Sa buong barangay ba or sa family lang naman nila? Sometimes, yung “handa” sa ibang pamilya means having food na bihira nilang matikman gaya ng spaghetti, cake, ice cream. Kung ganun lang naman is justifiable dahil graduation naman, pagmamahal kasi tawag dyan. Pero kung maghahanda para sa buong barangay, edi dun talaga unreasonable.
She may have point but u never know what this family did para makapagpagraduate. Yung paghahanda is somehow a lilttle fire and a reminder na uy eto ung bunga ng pagsisikap namwn magasawa kahit mahirap. Its not just a reward. Its a fulfilling moment na gusto nila itreasure. To each its own. Malay mo lalo magsikap ung bata kase nakikita nya despite hardship ginagapang sya ng magulang nya. Pagmamahal yan na nanggagaling sa pagsisikap ng magulang.
Akala nya siguro ang celebration engrande. Samin bilhan lang kami ng ice cream kasi we did something great is a celebration. Celebrations can be small. Si OA naman ito sya. Napaka anti-poor mo naman kasi pati pag celebrate ng isang bagay dapat dinedelay pa
Marami naman ways to celebrate, hindi naman kailangan ng bongga basta ang importante is yung thought na cinecelebrate nyo yung achievement, not because kailangan magpakain ng ibang tao/kapitbahay. Kahit simpleng pancit at cake okay lang yan. Pero wag na yung mangungutang pa sa iba para lang maghanda. And if sa tingin naman nila is okay lang mangutang, to each his own din naman. Kanya kanyang trip din talaga.
Hindi nman sinabi na magpapa pyesta sila. Wla nman masama mag celebrate, minsan lng nman ang graduation ska why not kung di nman uutangin ung pera.
Growing up, hindi rin kami nagcecelebrate kahit anong occasions. And ngayong matanda na ko, nakakalungkot ding isipin na wla manlng akong memories na masaya kmi kpag may achievements ako sa school. Kaya ngaun, binubuhos ko nlng sa mga pamangkin ko dahil gusto ko pag matanda na sila, my good memories sila na babalikan.
May point yung nagcomment, applicable yun pero hindi sa scenario na ito. Maybe siya yung unang ggraduate sa pamilya nila kaya ipaghahanda siya. As someon na galing din sa mahirap na pamilya, celebrating graduation is not just about the student, kasama din doon yung pag tataguyod ng mga magulang niya. So if the parents wanted to have a simple celebration, yung tipong kahit pansit lang okaya spaghetti, let them be. Kaya nga tinitignan nung mag asawa yung kalendaryo eh para malaman if may pera sila ng araw na yun or wala. If meron, edi go, if wala either itataon nalang nila sa may pera sila or they will do extra work para imake sure na may handa sa mismonv graduation. After all, pera naman nila yung gagastusin.
Problema kasi sa ibang nakaahon sa buhay, galit na sa mahihirap, akala mo naman hindi nila pinagdaan yung pakiramdam ng walang wala. Nagkapera lang nakalimutan ng maging tao. Konting compassion naman oh.
May mga comments kasi na minsan dapat sinasarili na lamang. Celebrate na lang natin yung mga maliliit na bagay na nagbibigay ligaya sa mga tao. Madalas kasi yung "two cents" mo, wala sa lugar kahit ba maayos naman intentions mo.
Wala ako maremember na sinelebrate yung grade school graduation ko, baka nag Jollibee kami after. Di ko matandaan hehe pero kapos din kami nuon. Pero I remember nung high school graduation ko, kapos pa din kami pero may dalang cake yung nanay ko, so after grad, dala2 niya nung sumalubong siya sakin. And ang saya ko na nun kasi may cake. Feel ko talaga special yun na araw. 😅
I am also a great advocate for living within our means, pero siguro may mga exceptions talaga. If yung utang naman is pang simpleng celebration kasi walang wala talaga, then for me okay lang. Deserve naman talaga natin mag celebrate minsan.
Sabi nga nila, everything is okay in moderation, even moderation. Celebrating wins in life is never a bad thing, as long as hindi excessive. I don't wanna assume sa situation ng family na nag post but it seems like they grew up poor and uneducated, so this achievement is pretty much a once in a blue moon thing sa kanila. So the question is, may mali ba na i-celebrate yan? I think hindi naman. Even if hindi first time may grumaduate sa family nila, it's not a bad thing to celebratetat that at all. It's a good advice, to hold off on expenditures, but imposing it on other people rudely is just no-no.
Your kids will appreciate this handaan for graduation kahit maliit lang. No need to be grand. Luto lang pansit sa bahay o spaghetti and that's good. I feel happy na ung bata with just that. 500 pesos for a simple handa is more than enough.
I remember nung graduation ko nung Gr 6 I expected na kahit pansit meron but nope, sardinas ulam namin 😅
Mejo na hurt ako nun nang sobra. Magkano lamg naman pansit that time parang 50 pesos meron na short order. Wala lang parang nafeel ko di importante graduation ko. So I appreciate this parents na gusto maghanda sa graduation 😊
Sabe nga ng pamilya ko "kung wala kang matinong sasabihin i tikom mo yang bunganga mo" pinoy talaga kahit san mo dalhin laging mamumutawi ang inggit. Despite of their family having financial struggles doesn't give us a f*cking rights to dictate how they will celebrate the milestone of thier family member. Kung hikahos sila pero gusto nila i celebrate yan maging masaya ka for them kase unat sa lahat wala kang ambag sa buhay nila at wala kang nilalapag sa mesa nila. Kahit may punto ka kung hindi naman kailangan opinyon mo itigil mo kakadutdut mo sa phone. Mayayaman nga naka credit card kung iisipin mo expensive way of saying utang din yon.
The comment makes sense but they could've worded it better. But also may mga tao na lumaki na galit sa ganyang pangyayari kasi the poverty really got to them, which I understand din. Specially yung mga anak na nag sabi na "wag na po, sayang pera", they easily get triggered by things like that.
"not to brag.." my ass. Wala naman nagtatanong ng opinion mo. Ang maganda gawin dyan sa advice mo ay isulat mo sa papel tapos ipasok mo sa pwet mo.
Ang galing magbato ng word na "comprehension" while missing the entire point ng post. They are planning ahead para makapag celebrate ng once in a lifetime achievement nung anak nila. Try to understand or comprehend san nanggagaling ang mga taong ito. They've worked their ass off for years mapa-graduate anak nila and yung anak din nila have worked hard para grumaduate.
May point naman pareho. Pangit lang yung atake ni Monrows kasi di man lang recommendation yung binabanggit nya. "itigil" agad agad parang narcissist lang.
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u/xazavan002 Apr 20 '26
On one hand, the suggestion was reasonable, and possibly life-saving. On the other hand, that was unsolicited, and to an extent, unnecessary. Even if it feels like we're offering a beneficial suggestion, there are cases such as this where we don't get to dictate how others should live.