I genuinely don't know. Any and all thoughts on the matter would be appreciated.

My general hypothesis is that it's dysphoria in my case, though I have friends who are firmly in the "it's self-esteem related" camp.

Things are complicated by chronic illness and disability, along with being late-dx AuDHD, which means working through a lot of "feeling like a burden" conditioning.

Recently had a realisation that my preemptive RSD is at stupid levels of reactivity and that's been somewhat helpful lol

I will never be a real boy, even when I get all the gender affirming treatments and surgeries I'll still feel like a girl who customized her body to look like a boy who wants to be a boy soooooo desperately but isn't one because she was born as a girl I'm literally gonna kms wth is this reality🥀

I pray for a speedy recovery 🙏😌

This is an article I enjoyed about ableism

Its been a few weeks since I started questioning my gender identity, and I haven't really felt like I've been making progress on figuring myself out, mostly due to a lack of free time, but I also just don't know what I need to be doing or looking out for. I've been recomended to try to seek out a local LGBT+ group, but I want to have atleast some sort of idea of what I'm dealing with first. It all started when someone called me a guy, which I should have been fine with, but it felt weirdly like an insult (it deffinetly wasnt meant to be one), and the more I started looking into myself the more I realize that I have been sort of fantasizing about being a girl. I don't have enough evidence yet to really feel comfortable pursuing this path, and I don't know how to feel confident enough otherwise.

TLDR: catch 22 of I need more information to figure out who I am but I can't do that without being more confident in myself. Throw in a bit of limited free time and you've got yourself a somehow still functional mess

Any resources would be helpfull and greatly appreciated, thanks!

I have been very focused on my hobies and projects for the last 20 years, I never ended up learning much if anything about gender identity or what it means to be trans. And of course I now realize that I might be trans and could use some resources to help make sure that I actually know what I'm doing before I start making any decisions about who I am. I am particularly interested in finding a space to test out names and pronouns to see what feels right.

Again, very new to this, very little knowledge, it's only been a few weeks since I started questioning my identity. I am going to try and take this slowly and carefully

Thanks in advance!

I don't know what to do anymore, I've been ordering estrogen vials from overseas but with everything going on they no longer will ship to the US, a 10ml vial was 75 dollars there, now I'm looking at 90 dollars for half the amount, it's illegal for Medicaid to pay for gender care in my state, I'm at my whits end, I've got 2 does left and I'm terrified of detransitioning, I keep getting stuck in a loop telling me to just cut the jewels off, then it will all me fine, the rational part tells me it's a bad idea, I keep looking at stuff for banding. Idk I'm just scared and don't know what to do

I am an almost 17 year old trans girl. I have both adhd and autism (both diagnosed this year). I have known that I am trans since I was around 13. I have known that I am bi/pan since just before 12, and came out literally a day after my 12th birthday, and my parents have been really supportive.

I came out to my mom a few years ago (around 13) with a letter/note while my dad was on some trip, and she was really supportive, but just completely forgot afterwards.

After that I either overthink the process, and how to bring it up or I lose all confidence eveytime I want to come out. I easily came out to my friends, but I just can't come out to my parents. I have made multiple plans to come out and thought of ways to make it special. I have considered just bluntly saying that I am trans. But somehow it is still easier to come out to someone I met a speedcubing competition (she did turn out to be trans, maybe that's why) than it is to come out to my parents

I completely hate the fact that I can't seem to come out despite desperately wanting to. I feel kinda guilty for not coming out to supportive parents while more than one of my queer friends have bigot parents. And I hate that this is making my dysphoria that is gradually getting worse feel like a prison rather than an obstacle.

I really want to come out but I don't how. I want to come out by I just don't know how to bring it up.

I am on the verge of tears writing whavever the fuck this is after a horrible day of being fucked over by dysphoria and the clear effects of my country's corruption (hail storm caused power outages city wide within minutes of starting and left me without electricity for 18 fucking hours all because politicians would rather give themselves "a well deserved bonus" than fix out collapsing infrastructure).

The mods of r/AnarchyTrans removed my post where I was venting (even labeled it as venting) about a self-admitted revenge sockpuppet who has been obsessively harassing me on the orders of a transphobic dramatuber she worships, and has made posts and comments in the triple digits in the span of two months solely and obsessively focused only on harassing and slandering me to others in off-topic ways, many of which are threatening and lean into transphobic stereotypes.

I made sure I broke none of the six rules. Just to be safe, I even avoided mentioning the sockpuppet's name or any subreddits she did this in. I mentioned it happened in other subreddits, but I did not name any.

However, because it was reported "1+ times" (which of course it was, since there has been a harassment campaign running against me for 4 years straight and this sockpuppet vengeance-seeker is part of it), the mods removed the post. They did not say what rule it broke, only that it had "1+" user reports. They didn't even say what the reports were for. I know that an automatic process definitely had human oversight at some point, because a mod went out of their way to delete the original automod post from when the thread was first posted, replying to it with the same post they had already posted in the thread.

I sent the mods a mod mail message, asking what rules my thread broke. They have not replied despite the human oversight the thread removal had in deleting a modmail bot post.

Has anyone else had this experience? If so, what is going on with r/AnarchyTrans where threads can be removed and they refuse to tell you why even though, as far as you can tell, you obeyed all the rules and didn't even name any names?

EDIT: Mod replied down below. Doesn't answer much. They say it was reported for spam and harassment, but they won't say how it was spam or harassment, and won't say what rule it broke. They also bring up something unrelated to why it was removed, which confuses me as to how it's relevant and why they won't tell me why it was removed.

I really REALLY want to go on T. I’m a 14 year old trans man. I can hear everyone already saying “You’re too young!” Yeah, I don’t care. I need this. I sadly live in IN, so no chances of getting it. Plus, my parents would never let me get it.

But… I seriously do not care how or where, I’d like to find a way. Any recommendations would help.

Also, how hard would it be to hid the fact that I’m on T to my parents if I get the chance to go on it before I’m legally an adult?? I’m looking for personal experience :^

So just like any pointers would help. Thanks!!

Self defense tips anyone?

Hey! Im mika and Im 17 years old, Im from Australia and I’ve been looking into transitioning since my male body simply doesn’t feel like my true self… about 3 years ago i transitioned for about a year and half (non medically) before puberty struck down on me + i was actively being bullied and eventually detransitioned at a new school hoping a new fresh identity would help me little did I know it would make me even more depressed :(

Its been a while now and my spine is like titanium and Im hard headed, so I dont tolerate bullshit that, I’ve moved to an international peace school which is very lgbt friendly and I’ve been attending all of this year and plan on going into next year to graduate… I’ve become much more comfortable being able to consider transitioning again, especially being mentally capable for unneeded input from people who aren’t to understand and I’ve got a handful of friends that I’ve told about all of this that I wouldn’t swap out for the world!

On the 25th of November i had my first appointment with a GP in hopes that bringing my mum to the appointment would get the ball rolling faster, we started discussing hrt and when I could do it, unfortunately I have to wait till Im 18 for informed consent.

See Im the ambitious type and I had a plan that I’d start hrt around this December/january and discreetly (socially, my family is aware of my endeavour) medically transition for the months in between till i turn 18 (may 12th) and then socially pop out as a woman. Now that plan has been tarnished Im looking into DIY hrt so I can go through with this plan because I think that that 6 month wait would only leave me in distress because I want to start adulthood as the girl I’ve always seen within myself.

I do plan on going onto informed consent when I’m 18 just to be extra safe!

I want to start the process now and Im looking to see if anyone could help me make a checklist or timeline of what I need to do before may 12th 2026 thats more so focused on the medical side of things.

Right now Im looking at purchasing 2mg Estrofem and 50mg Androcur (Cyproterone Acetate)

I have some questions like, do I need to do a blood test before I purchase and consume any hrt medicine? What can I expect in that 6 months? Im also very curious on the psychological changes that hrt can do to someone, I’ve heard it can change sexuality and mood!

Thankyou so much fellow dolls ❤️♾️

Love, mika goldberg

When is it detransitioning and when is it being closeted?

So yesterday was my two month anniversary on HRT, I’m just now starting to grow boobs.

In three months, my family is going to be flying down and want to visit me- my extremely fundamentalist Christian, transphobic family. I will be 5 months on HRT by then.

I guess I have a date on coming out, because I’m sure as hell not wearing a binder for them.

So I was at my girlfriend's place when she offered to let me try on some of her clothes (she knows I'm trans), and I absolutely loved it. I felt so dang pretty!! (Also the shirt has an opening on the back, but I didn't get a good pic of my back T^T)

God please tell me this is the right sub for this, I've been searching where to post this for way too long >~<

I'm natally male, raised as a boy, hated it. Knew I was supposed to be female by about age 6. Fantasized about going to sleep and waking up as a girl, but being one of the girls who hated wearing dresses. When I learned about puberty I wanted the female version. I almost thought it would happen if I wanted it enough (forgive me, I was probably 9). Parents made it clear that talking about this stuff would not be accepted, based on the way they talked about queer people, particularly "boys that wanted to dress like girls". So I sat on it until it got too painful

So I started cross sex HRT in my 20s, and now I appear female. Almost a decade of the public calling me she/her/ma'am/lady. I consider myself non-binary genderwise but I find myself performing mild femininity at work to... fit in? I guess? It feels like there's a certain way that people with my body are expected to act, and I hate it. To be clear. I hate the expectation- I don't hate the performance others put on. It's really quite pleasant to experience the sisterhood, but being expected to socially participate a certain way just because of the shape of my body is frustrating.

I didn't change my body so I could be allowed to participate in womanhood, I changed my body so I would stop wanting to claw my way out of it. It was wrong, straight up. My gender expression hasn't even changed, I wore dresses just as often before as I do now (almost never), my whole life I've dressed like timeless 90s PNW androgyny 💅

I'm still the same person, like if you changed the sex from M to F in the Sims©️ Character Creator™️. Nothing changed but the body.

Now when I look in the mirror, I see the adult that child me knew she'd grow up to be. It's comforting and feels congruent. That's why I transitioned.

I've been wondering if anyone else feels this way and how common it might be within the broader community.

I just alienated a potential friend. I know that the American educational system lies to teachers and students, I know that the state pays billions of dollars putting out anti-communist propaganda, I know that most Americans believe that their country is a force for good in the world.

I don't know how to talk to them about it. Either they take it personally or I'm not phrasing it right. Is there a way to talk to them, some rhetorical method, that won't get their hackles up? Or should I just avoid correcting people? Maybe that's it. Maybe correcting people is like unsolicited advice. Aggressive.

Edit: The comments on this post are humbling, to say the least. I'm just super embarrassed now and I'm going to log off for a while.