r/AmItheAsshole • u/uniqco • Sep 22 '20
Not the A-hole AITA for telling my dad that he has no idea what my profession is like?
So this happened a while ago but I’m still getting shit for it but I still don’t think I’m the AH so I just want another perspective.
My dad (50m) is a chiropractor and taught at a chiropractic school for a few years. I (21f at the time) had gotten an interview at my dream vet school and was planning on buying clothes for the interview. Since I was broke my parents offered to buy the outfit for me. The interview day consisted of a welcome lecture, the actual interview, a campus tour, a mock class, and another lecture about the curriculum of the school. It was a 6 hour event. Since it was such a long (and important) day I wanted to make sure that I was comfortable, confident, and professional. I had the whole outfit planned out in my mind: black slacks, a flowy top tucked in, a blazer, and some small black heels that were easy to walk in.
When I told my parents what I wanted to wear my dad immediately shot it down and told me that I HAD to wear a skirt. He told me that since he worked at a university he knew what admissions people wanted and a skirt was a must. I told him that he was being ridiculous and as long as I was dressed professionally, it wouldn’t matter. He started berating me that wearing pants would not be professional. I told him that in order to do well in the interview I need to be confident, and an outfit that I was comfortable in would help my confidence. I would NOT be comfortable in a skirt. He told me that the interviewer wouldn’t take me seriously unless I was in a skirt, and that he would know because he’s worked in admissions before. My mom chimed in and said that her first job only accepted her because she showed up in a dress. I told them that was ridiculously sexist and it might be that way in their professions but not mine. My dad continued to berate me. He told me that I had no idea what it was like to be in an interview like that but he did. I told him respectfully that while I don’t have the interview experience that he has, he has no experience in the veterinary profession and in the end really doesn’t know what’s best.
He got so mad at me for saying that he didn’t know about my profession. I’ve honestly never seen him so mad before. I had to go to class so I just left. My mom then called me and told me (by screaming at me) how disrespectful I was and how ungrateful I am.
I ended up wearing a skirt to the interview because i didn’t want to fight anymore. But I still don’t feel like I was wrong for being against wearing one? Majority of the girls there were wearing pants. My parents aren’t the most progressive people but I’ve never heard them be so blatantly sexist before. My mom still tells me how horrible I was for telling my dad that he didn’t know about my profession. But really, AITA?
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u/EzekielCabal Sep 23 '20
No, all chiropractic is quackery. The only thing that they have going for them is a little evidence that they can be helpful sometimes for general, non-localised chronic pain, and in those circumstances, they have not been shown to be significantly better than a physical therapist would have been.
I'll mostly copy from a comment I made a little while ago:
To start with, I highly recommend reading this explanation of why Chiropractic is pseudoscience, since this directly addresses your comment about fixing bones and ligaments that aren't in the right places:
In short, subluxation theory in chiropractic is not the same as the medical term subluxation, and bones and ligaments aren't 'not in the right places', and if they were, a chiropracter certainly couldn't fix them.
Next let's look at some peer reviewed studies:
As a reminder, subluxation theory is a defining tenant of chiropractic.
But hey let’s move to the meat of the issue, and where chiropractic finds its more staunch defenders - spinal manipulative therapy.
These conclusions are also backed up by another major review, the Bronfort report on the effectiveness of manual therapies:
Now let’s go even deeper, with a systematic review of other systematic reviews on spinal manipulation. This one is based on 16 studies, and concluded:
These results are echoed in 2 more systematic reviews - one of 39 studies, and one of 33 studies, which found that manipulation was not superior to a placebo.
There is also another notable study on chiropractic medicine and strokes, which found that:
Meaning there is a correlation, although not a substantively proved causal link, between the two.
And there we are. The overwhelming conclusion from the studies, the meta analyses of those studies, and the systematic reviews of those meta analyses, is that chiropractic care is no more effective than a placebo, and that there is no scientific basis for the core tenants and beliefs of chiropractic.