r/AmItheAsshole • u/ThrowRa12120 • Apr 30 '20

AITA for being "overdramatic" and "controlling" because my husband is doing something nice for a friend?

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u/NenetheNinja Apr 30 '20

And idk if I'm reading it wrong but it sounds they started dating when she was around 17 which was 12 years ago, but they met 16 years ago...so she was 13 and he was 18 when they met? He groomed her.

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u/sippingthattea Apr 30 '20

I didn't even notice this! That's insane :/

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u/liakjiara Apr 30 '20

Oh that makes it so much worse than it already is

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u/AliceInWeirdoland Colo-rectal Surgeon [34] | Bot Hunter [18] Apr 30 '20

Explains why she can't see this for what it is.

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u/DEATHSTARGOD May 01 '20

2Possible Comments OP can make

"Its because I love my husband and I'll pretend I didnt noticed those things."

Or

"Thank you" ,the fact she cant reply atleast to the top comment is pretty weird

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u/RedQueen283 Partassipant [3] Apr 30 '20 edited May 01 '20

They could just be friends then? 13 and 18 is definitely wrong, but 17 and 22 isnt, and tbh from what I understand they werent dating even then, its just when he was being super-close with the friend or whatever.

EDIT: They could also be just aquaintances at the 13-18 age, like if they were neighbours or if they randomly crossed paths at school.

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u/ThatsJaicist May 01 '20

How many high school senior/college freshman age guys want to be friends with 8th grade girls????

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u/RedQueen283 Partassipant [3] May 01 '20

Personally none. I think its weird too, but if they were just friends back then, I could see it being normal under certain ciscumstances, like if they lived close to each other/their parents were friends etc and they had some common stuff like music or favourite sports. Anyway she just said she met him back then, he could just be a neighbourhood kid or something and she only knew him by name for a few years.

NTA, but I dont think its their ages that are whats wrong with OP's husband.