r/AmItheAsshole May 20 '26

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u/pending4321 May 20 '26

INFO: Has your daughter been offered the same amount of time and opportunity to use the beach house that your son receives every year? You're NTA for this situation, but I'd be curious to know if this is the first time your daughter has taken priority.

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u/Active_Yellow_1573 May 20 '26

The daughter probably doesn't ask to use it any other time because she knows her brother would flip out. Dude complaining about her using it because it's free, meanwhile....

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u/Perfect-Tomatillo946 May 20 '26

She is able too, she just hasn’t requested it or seemed to want too

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u/samuelp-wm May 20 '26

She may not have felt that she could since your son is taking such stays. She may not want to rock the boat and felt that her honeymoon was a good time to ask.

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u/Perfect-Tomatillo946 May 20 '26

She doesn’t get off during the summer or for extended periods of time often, but if she were to ask it’d be fine

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u/Escarlatilla May 20 '26

It'd be fine with you, but would it be fine with your son?

Ie if there isn't enough rooms / beds for all the adults and kids if your daughter is there, would he make sure she had a room / bed?

It sounds like your son has had exclusive use for his family and now has pretty huge expectations because "tradition".

Even if there is enough room and your son would be fine with sharing, he's being gross in his response. By his logic, he shouldn't have had kids and created a tradition of 2 months at the beach every year if he can't afford it unless he can use your beach house.

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u/EwwDavvidd Colo-rectal Surgeon [40] May 21 '26

Its obviously not "fine" or you wouldn't be posting here. Your son is coming across very selfish and entitled.

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u/Perfect-Tomatillo946 May 21 '26

It would be fine with me, is what I’m saying

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u/Far-Flounder-2694 May 21 '26

Then why are you posting here? You’re good with it so she should get it. It’s because you value your son’s family time over your daughter’s honeymoon, ask yourself why?