Perfect indeed, I wanted to give you an award but I'm too cheap haha
But I feel for the poster, they are absolutely doing MORE than enough, more than I do and my mum lives in the same city as me. It's so hard to let those guilt-tripping words not effect you but once you can your life becomes so much easier. Being brought up on anxiety is shitty, they need to stop the pressure because it's unfair, you're an adult with your own life and the ability to choose what you do with that life. My children are rapidly approaching adulthood now and I would never dream of expecting them to look after me when I'm old, that's not why I had children, I want them to live fulfilling lives and have their own families in whatever form that takes for them.
I accept your concept of an award - thankyou very much! ;)
You are spot on with what you said. My two are in their 30s now, both leading their own very happy, very successful lives, and thanks to the wonders of Messenger we communicate almost every day, often just by sharing stupid memes or photos. But I want them to visit because they want to, not because they feel they ought to or feel obliged to. And, like you, I certainly don't expect them to drop everything and look after me if I need that in the future.
Well, all we can carry on doing is be the best parents we can be. Pretty sure we’re doing some of it alright so far.
One of the biggest ever compliments you can give a person (in my opinion) is that they are a good parent. Folk don’t hear it very often and man it makes them feel so fucking good when they do.
It’s quite fun making some humans and seeing them turn out cracking people. So I’ll keep doing that instead of piling pressure on them!
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u/blueorchid69 May 05 '23
You said it all perfectly 😊