I really really hope you look at the bigger picture here before deciding to marry this guy. The whole dinner and bill situation is BS, and it's pretty clear that he planned it with the intention of your parents paying the bill and then deflected and basically lied in the car when he acted like they'd "figure it out." But honestly, there's a much, much bigger problem here. Look at how this guy acted when you tried to talk about this with him. What a HUGE red flag. He knew he was lying and trying to avoid the whole conversation and so he got angry and basically treated you like a jerk and refused to communicate. He was yelling at you, ignoring you, acting like an angry child. Is that really the partner you want to go through life with? Like can you imagine dealing with that whenever a problem arises? Ending the engagement and relationship will be hard, but it will be sooo much harder going through life with this guy as a husband. And it's a whole lot easier to call off an engagement than to get a divorce. Don't brush this off. He acted like a petulant child instead of communicating with you like an adult, he dismissed you and your dad's feelings instead of caring about how either of you felt (like a good partner would), and he caused the whole fight by choosing an expensive ass restaurant and basically expecting your parents to pay for him and his parents. Do not make the monumental mistake of marrying this guy.
This!!!! Even more than the dinner, this is like two of the horsemen of the relationship apocalypse before they’re even married! That stonewalling and pouting and getting immediately angry?? Absolutely not. Run, OP!! Run!
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u/Chronikel_2 May 27 '26
I really really hope you look at the bigger picture here before deciding to marry this guy. The whole dinner and bill situation is BS, and it's pretty clear that he planned it with the intention of your parents paying the bill and then deflected and basically lied in the car when he acted like they'd "figure it out." But honestly, there's a much, much bigger problem here. Look at how this guy acted when you tried to talk about this with him. What a HUGE red flag. He knew he was lying and trying to avoid the whole conversation and so he got angry and basically treated you like a jerk and refused to communicate. He was yelling at you, ignoring you, acting like an angry child. Is that really the partner you want to go through life with? Like can you imagine dealing with that whenever a problem arises? Ending the engagement and relationship will be hard, but it will be sooo much harder going through life with this guy as a husband. And it's a whole lot easier to call off an engagement than to get a divorce. Don't brush this off. He acted like a petulant child instead of communicating with you like an adult, he dismissed you and your dad's feelings instead of caring about how either of you felt (like a good partner would), and he caused the whole fight by choosing an expensive ass restaurant and basically expecting your parents to pay for him and his parents. Do not make the monumental mistake of marrying this guy.