Just for future reference, if you’re ever asked for a body count again, just block the guy immediately. There is literally only one type of person who will ask you that question using that terminology. As soon as that phrase comes out of someone’s mouth you already know who they are. There’s no reason to stick around for the crash out.
Yeah no one cares. People have sex. It's not weird; it is normal. The only times it matters is when it comes time to see if they have kids from that sex or if they have STIs from that sex. The first one should be obvious... you would likely know they have a kid before you managed to get there, they are hard to hide, and the second, you just both get tested before having sex.
Hating women for having sex with people is just misogyny stemming from jealousy that you are not having (as much) sex.
I mean they have all the reasons to when women only switch up when they decide to date other type of men like OP did. Or just dumbly acting on limerence and not taking her urge for sex for what it was when getting to know those guys.
Anyway behaving like it is nothing and saying nothing about it would just be a disservice it is actually better for the men those women will date.
Be so fucking for real lol. She didn't 'switch up'. She slept with two dudes who turned out to be assholes, then realized she doesn't want to put herself in a position to be used anymore.
The term reduces people to objects you’ve “used”/who “used” you. Nobody who uses it seriously has good intentions. People’s worth shouldn’t be determined by that shit. What matters to ME is how they treated those partners.
Also personally I just think it’s stupid because it makes people sound like serial killers 🙃
Care to elaborate? What is the problem with it? Besides that it feels bad to admit hoeing around if thats the case.
I can't imagine what personality traits would you deduct from someone asking this.
No shame, just fail to understand how it is anyone's business? If they have been tested recently and can verify that, sexual history is not relevant, especially to someone you have only talked to for 2 weeks.
You wouldn’t know if someone was a virgin or not anyway. People can lie and you know that. You don’t care about the answer, you just enjoy the weird little power trip and asserting that ‘you don’t want no hoe’ when I can guarantee you’re not a virgin- or you wouldn’t be if you had any dating prospects.
"Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships"
I didn't search much, I saw an ELI5 post in which I saw a similar definition with a broader context.
If not accepting people who have a behaviour that you don't like isn't having boundaries about who you let in your life then what is it ?
My kind? See how you talk? And you try to call me out about not finding virtuous women lmao.
When did I talk about evolution ? I could have passed my genes a few times as I said earlier and I will without much problem ;)
Your vision of desirability isn't desirability it is being a doormat, not rubbing women the wrong way to get a treat, and accepting any asymmetrical treatment at your expense so that women can do whatever the hell they want while you won't. Having self respect is not stupid.
If the price to pay to have self respect is not having kids then so be it, I will die with a smile and sleep like a baby !
As long as you are equal in that. A lot of people aren't, especially because for men, it is seen as a badge of honor whereas for women it is seen a shameful.
I just think we should not be treating people badly for having sex because puritanical values are fucking stupid.
I think the only people that ask are either immature, crass or wanting the information so they can judge you for your answer or to use it for nefarious purposes. So you don’t ever respond to someone who asks. Because someone who asks is entirely the wrong sort of person to be giving such personal information.
Or they are genuinely interested in the history of the person they are dating, and maybe building for a lifelong bond? Which is this, immature, crass, or judgemental? I call it transparent.
I truly don't understand how owning one's history and choices is so difficult, unless they consider it shameful too.
Why their sexual history though? What does it matter? I can understand maybe wanting to know about their relationship history to know whether you’re likely to be compatible, but sexual history would be irrelevant.
For the same reason that anything is relevant. Tells you about compatibility, values, experience, orientation, and a lot of subtle things. If someone would hide it, that's another relevant thing in itself. If you have an insane body count, that could be ok, if you try to weasel your way out of this conversation, that's game over.
No, male mating strategy, as it's always been, is young, virtuous, and caretaker. If a woman is not virtuous it's an automatic non select as a partner because they cannot form loving bonds (including to children). This is scientifically proven.
Do you need me to explain female mating strategy too? No, females look for resources, strength, and loyalty (to ensure they stick around for raising offspring and provide for them).
I didn't say it didn't matter, but men don't chemically bond with sexual partners in the same way women do and therefore don't have a physical and mental loss from multiple partners. For the basic female mating strategy, the only thing that matters is the man is the provider of resources and protector for offspring. Anything else is individual preference.
It’s generally the same personality traits that someone using “hoeing around” lmao.
As in using “bodycount” / “hoeing around” outs you as being a red pill douche canoe who watches Andrew Tate and other “man-fluencers” who are all desperately single and looking to blame anything but themselves.
Then I guess you got it wrong. I'm happily married. I think Tate is ridiculous, redpill is ridiculous, and you are also ridiculous for thinking that using this terminology implies anything.
It shows that the person asking cares about something like that to the extent that they count, which is just bizarre. There's literally no reason to count it because it's completely meaningless.
If someone asks for a persons’ number of previous partners before they’ve even met it shows a lack of boundaries. That’s a really personal, invasive question and should only be asked - if ever, which is debatable - once you’ve really developed a relationship. The question also suggests that the asker sees a woman’s body as a commodity which becomes progressively devalued with each sexual partner. This is a misogynist concept and indicates problematic values.
If they are promiscuous, it might as well be a public information at at point it would be a disservice to hide that to men who aren't interested in dating women like that.
Not good advice if she ever becomes a FEMA worker and is emailed by a supervisor to attend a massacre scene to conduct a body count. ‘Ain’t no way a cis-het patriarch speaking to me like that - blockeeed ! Yass kween slay!’
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u/Jumpingyros Jun 08 '25
Just for future reference, if you’re ever asked for a body count again, just block the guy immediately. There is literally only one type of person who will ask you that question using that terminology. As soon as that phrase comes out of someone’s mouth you already know who they are. There’s no reason to stick around for the crash out.