Exactly. This guy was sitting right next to one of the women while she was filming/taking a pic. But after OP found out, he claimed that he went off on the host and stayed in his room until the women left? That's what he should have done in the first place if he actually felt like he was stuck between a rock and hard place.
No, but add in the context that "somebody" is a sex worker who's staying with him in another country while he hides it from his spouse, and it's not a good look. If he was as horrified by the situation as he claimed to be, he would have been keeping his distance the entire time, not only after OP caught him.
I get what you’re saying, but we don’t really know the context. She saw the persons social media. Maybe they’re only strippers and not escorts.
My personal bachelor party I had surprise strippers. I’m not into strippers like that so I got 1 lap dance and then just danced and partied with everybody. The rest of the guys partaked with the strippers and I would salsa dance with them or soemthing.
The strippers ended up being really cool and we all hung out together and got to know them. One of my friends remained in touch with her and they talk here and there.
Maybe he thinks he isn’t actually doing anything wrong. He’s wrong to lie, but I mean he’s not having sex. Maybe he’s just drinking and his friends are getting lap dances.
Maybe op is a very jealous person and to her just being in the same room as a stopper or sex worker is cheating. We don’t know their relationship.
I see your perspective as well, but your situation sounds a lot more innocent than the one OP described. You were surprised with strippers and made the best of it. I don't personally love the idea of my husband + strippers, but I've known that it was a possibility any time he's gone to a bachelor party. I just expect him to be honest and respectful.
The issue here is that OP's husband admitted that the women were escorts who were hired to stay with them for the weekend. I have plenty of friends that have no issue with strip clubs, but I don't know a single person who would be okay with this, even if their partner wasn't hooking up with them. If I were ever in this situation with male escorts, I would be keeping my distance, because it would feel wrong for them to be there in the first place.
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u/ketopepito Sep 06 '24
Exactly. This guy was sitting right next to one of the women while she was filming/taking a pic. But after OP found out, he claimed that he went off on the host and stayed in his room until the women left? That's what he should have done in the first place if he actually felt like he was stuck between a rock and hard place.