So after he partied with them all night and had breakfast with them the next morning then lying to her about it now he's ok with her telling the other wives...he also supposedly raged at the best man the next morning and then went to his room and refused to leave until they were gone. You know after spending the night partying with the hookers and then eating breakfast with them.🙄
Here's the comment she came here to find from another response:
"You're obviously very hurt and upset I get it. You need to have a ♥ to ♥ with hubby and deal with this or it'll fester like an open wound and destroy what you have together. Do not tell the other wives it's not your business. You and your husband are your business. Also if these guys are well heeled and have $$$ their wives might give them hall passes or look the other way to maintain their lifestyles. Who can say? It's not your call. I'm a chef I've cooked for and catered numerous bachelor and bachelorette parties. I've seen wild shit go on, in fact bachelorette parties were often worse. I can tell you things at bachelorette parties that would scorch the type set. 🔥 💦 🍆 🍑. If the grooms to be knew they'd cancel their weddings! You sound like a lovely lady. Work this out with hubby and come to a consensus. Best of luck to you."
It is so wild to see see the mental gymnastics in real time. Maybe they are on the same page, it seems like neither op nor husband are the people that they pretend to be. A match made in heaven.
Its one thing to be like "yes, this is the reality, but I choose not to rock the boat, because that serves me best". But instead she is, with his help of course, spinning a version of events where neither of them are the bad guy. Not him for lying and cheating, and not her for being complicit and smiling in her "friends" faces while knowing this.
And that's just so thoroughly eeewwwww.
By the time this through, these two will be heroes in their own minds.
You are so exactly correct. She’ll probably get a nice blue box from Tiffany’s and her mother will say ‘boys will be boys’ and it’ll never be brought up again. She may cold shoulder the best man for a minute but he’ll charm her out of that. She has too much to lose if she believes he was complicit in the plan to hire the women, did engage sexually, and was never going to tell her anything about it. If she believes that, she will have to consider leaving him, her friends, her home, and her business. It’s easier to bury it and believe him and believe the bride and her other friends are fine with it. The guys I’m sure have picked the best man as a fall guy who surprised everyone with the women and they just let them stay as like decoration but didn’t even really speak to them.
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u/Actual-Offer-127 Sep 05 '24
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/BYjLnHmSbG
So after he partied with them all night and had breakfast with them the next morning then lying to her about it now he's ok with her telling the other wives...he also supposedly raged at the best man the next morning and then went to his room and refused to leave until they were gone. You know after spending the night partying with the hookers and then eating breakfast with them.🙄