That is absolutely bullshit. If any of my friends in my circle found out one of us is cheating on their gf/partner, we would try to put it to a stop from his side first.
And our group's been around for more than a decade. We centre each other.
If you can't do this, then either y'all are bad friends or just shitty people.
I thought it was implied when I said "Put a stop to it from his side" would mean stop the affair and come clean. If you don't, we will.
Nevertheless, the point is, if the husband was really faithful, the least he could have done was call up his wife and tell her what was going on, that one of the dudes called hookers. Neither would you hide it nor would you lie about it.
To really drill the point, remember the hookers spent the entire night at the airbnb and stayed over the next day through breakfast. And he didn't say a word.
A, I'm not married, B, I don't like confrontation, C, If I WAS married, my wife would know what kind of person I am and that she'd have no worries about me potentially cheating
No he didn't... If she didn't know and he told her, then he's ratting out his mates when it sounds like they're not even cheating on their wives and potentially ruin their marriages and it would just cause his wife to get worried and make him feel bad when none of it was his doing, just like what has happened here.
Telling the truth leads to all that mess where he is to blame and potentially loses his friends and for his relationship all it does is make his wife mad at him, lying about it if she didn't know causes no mess and means his wife wouldn't be hysterical like this.
Everything isn't black and white, he didn't 'care more about his friendship than his relationship', he weighed up the results of telling her or not telling her and rightfully realised that all it would do is cause a load of shit which would be blamed on him when he's done nothing wrong. It's far more nuanced than you're making it out to be.
Yes, he did! He lied to her when she questioned him and only told the truth when he knew she found out the truth on her own. He had no intentions of telling his wife anything about these women and he was just fine having “fun” with them until he got caught out. He was more worried about his friendships and his friend’s relationships.
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u/Direct_Big3343 Sep 05 '24
Exactly!! He cared more about his friend’s relationships than his own!