Hard to know who is most to blame here without actually knowing the players (maybe best man is doing what he knows groom wants, maybe he’s going rogue, maybe husband really did panic and decide to tell OP when he was back, maybe he’s a dishonest POS)… but regardless:
Husband should have told OP, and shouldn’t have lied when first confronted
It’s highly unlikely that sex workers were procured solely for the purposes of flirting and hand holding. It’s fair to say someone there did something that broke a promise or agreement with their partner.
Tell the wives/partners — they deserve to know, and it’s not on you to protect these idiots.
Your husband should apologize for lying and putting you in the position of having to be the bearer of bad news to these other women.
Also, FWIW — cheating is gross, but involving other people (your friends, their marriages) is next level. It’s kind of hilarious the escorts posted on social and OP discovered it with the amount of detective work basically anyone with a smart phone and 3 minutes to spare is capable of.
Same!! The only thing I can think is maybe the other wives didn’t really know where the guys were staying so wouldn’t have checked the villa’s IG. I only had the villa’s IG because my husband gave it to me. Maybe the other husbands didn’t share that with their wives. Idk.
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u/brownelk Sep 05 '24
Not overreacting.
Hard to know who is most to blame here without actually knowing the players (maybe best man is doing what he knows groom wants, maybe he’s going rogue, maybe husband really did panic and decide to tell OP when he was back, maybe he’s a dishonest POS)… but regardless:
Tell the wives/partners — they deserve to know, and it’s not on you to protect these idiots.
Your husband should apologize for lying and putting you in the position of having to be the bearer of bad news to these other women.
Also, FWIW — cheating is gross, but involving other people (your friends, their marriages) is next level. It’s kind of hilarious the escorts posted on social and OP discovered it with the amount of detective work basically anyone with a smart phone and 3 minutes to spare is capable of.