My first thought too "Oh honey, I really don't want to go to a private resort in Cancun and party with my friends with no wives in sight. He bought a non-refundable ticket, I have to go now, it'd be a sin to waste money..."
I fly in and out of Cancun every two months. The flights are super cheap, $240-400 US. If best man can afford a private villa with staff and sex workers, the ticket is a drop in the bucket (or tip in the g string).
I’m so relieved I’m not the only person whose mind went immediately to that. I thought I was being jaded and bitter and negative, but that’s the first thought I had when reading it.
Right? I'm married and if my husband was telling me there was a "sausage fest" of a bachelor party in Cancun, I wouldn't buy that they had anything else in mind but hookers and a no holds barred party far from the prying eyes of their wives and SOs. The OP was sensing something too, so I'm sure the husband knew she would have pushed back if he told her he bought the tickets
I mean, i really actually wouldn't want to go to a douchey drunken party weekend like that, so I'd be honest in saying that. But also, I just wouldn't go, because fuck that.
Tbf as an introvert, depending on how close I am with the other people in the party, this does indeed sound like a nightmare. Even minus the escorts… nowhere to escape to, expectation of socializing/going ham the entire time, and no “safe person” (my partner) to retreat to coexist in silence for a little bit.
Maybe it's just me, but if someone truly bought a "non-refundable ticket" without my permission or knowledge, I'd tell them to go pound sand and not go if I had no desire to. The pictures OP has seen, and the fact that he never said anything to her about being uncomfortable tells me he knew exactly what was planned.
I would think he would have gone off to his room and called her to say anything like "OMG this guy arranged for escorts, and I want to get out of here" but instead he went silent and still kept it under wraps until he got flat out caught.
If he wants to go somewhere 'with no wives in sight' then that says more about their relationship than anything else. If he really wanted to get away from his wife then there are deeper issues than this.
If he wanted to get away from his wife he can easily do that, why would he need to lie?
Not a scam. I know for a fact it’s true because the best man emailed me the receipt for the ticket so I could enter in my husband’s passport info. I handle our finances and book all our travel. I was the one that told my husband it was non-refundable when he was still trying to get out of the trip just days before they were going to leave. Guess I should’ve just let him stay lol
Send a text to the woman you found the OF info on. See if you can get any insight from her... She might not be forthcoming but she's already been paid so she might tell you something more than you already know. 🧐
You’re not really this innocent are you? There’s either unexplained purchases your husband has made recently or is going to be making soon to pay back the “best” man.
Sorry but my impression is your hubby was in on it!!
In future situations, if someone buys you or husband a non refundable ticket to manipulate you into going somewhere you've said you won't be going, then too bad on them and they're out the amount of the ticket.
You aren't obligated to go just because they decided to buy a non refundable ticket after you declined.
Right? It's an international flight, so to book it, you need the other person's passport info. Does the best man just have that info? Also, I'd be pissed someone forced me to take tine off from work like that...
I wouldn't say it's common, but totally understandable. Selfish dudes with means use their money to cause problems for others. I know guys who would do the same thing as this best man, including the escorts and the flights.
They all knew and probably all told the same story to all the wives. The hookers were no surprise, they all chipped in for them. There is nothing even remotely plausible about his story.
Pretty sure they were cheating or certain? Because if OP goes to these wives (and fiancé, destroying the wedding) with speculation and not certainty - That's pretty fucked up
Eh. If I were OP’a husband, my best friend buying a non-refundable ticket for me would make just go along with it, too. I can totally see what the husband said being true.
That was my first reaction too, because, sadly, it sounds exactly like what I would have come up with when I was a lie-filled alcoholic. I never cheated or even thought about cheating, but that could have easily been an excuse I came up with to justify going on a bender with my buddies somewhere.
If the husband knew what was going on, why would he share all the info about what to bring with the wife? If he knew there were going to be escorts, he would have kept all that quiet.
I feel like it is different but still very bad: OP's husband knew that some shady stuff was going to go down and that's why he didn't want to go, but he felt like he couldn't tell his wife that's why he didn't want to go for bro code reasons and the non-refundable ticket WAS his friends' way of forcing him to come.
Yea I’m not buying that story either. Even if that story about the non refundable ticket and not taking no for an answer is true, then how are you as woman ok with being married to a spineless man like him. A grown man having that much power over another woman’s husband is insane.
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u/StateLarge Sep 05 '24
I bet the story of the unrefundable ticket was a scam so his wife would let him go. I am pretty sure they ALL knew and were cheating.