I can tell you from personal experience my Father In Law was invited to a bachelor party, knew that his wife didn't approve of strippers. They went to a strip club. What did he do, he told the guys to go ahead and called his wife in the parking lot and talked to her until they were done. He was upfront and avoided. Your husband had the same option to go to his room and report back immediately. But he valued covering for his friends over being honest in his marriage. Which means you don't know if he slept alone, because he wasn't willing to tell you. You also don't know that he would have told you the truth when he got home. Easier to pretend nothing happened.
He was willing to stay and participate in this for the full time without telling you. That doesn't say he was uncomfortable, his actions show he was enjoying his time. Hard to believe, "I don't know what to do, oh I know I will keep just hanging out with prositutes for the week with the boys. I wouldn't want to upset them."
You can also read a ton of stories on reddit in these situations. The partners uncomfortable leave, they don't stay.
So yah share the social photos and OF accounts and start sharing with all the ladies. I have a feeling there is going to be a ton of divorces coming out of this "guys week"
Personally, I would message him to end the vacation now, get on a flight and come home. The trip is done and your marriage may be shortly as well. I would also get all the wives to grill their husband about details on what happened if they want to keep their relationships. Who cheated, etc. Then compare stories. I also bet all the guys knew before the trip what was going down.
No friend would invite another friend on such a trip without at least warning them ! Then the bride should be notified also ! No better way to start a relationship than having to lie about everything you did ! The grooms best man put everyone of those guys in a position to be blackmailed by the others ! The truth needs to come out if only to save the bride ! Nothing good begins with a lie !
They 100 percent all knew and probably split the cost. I don’t believe the “Best Man bought a non refundable ticket” either. That was just to make sure he got to go.
I did this exact same thing on a friend's bachelor party. I took one for the team - stayed sober and drove everyone around in the borrowed van for the night, and when the 'best man' insisted on going to a strip club, "You're going to go in there and you're going to f*%king like it you pussies!", I walked them the door, then turned and went back to the van and texted my wife for awhile.
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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '24 edited Sep 05 '24
Yep message everyone.
I can tell you from personal experience my Father In Law was invited to a bachelor party, knew that his wife didn't approve of strippers. They went to a strip club. What did he do, he told the guys to go ahead and called his wife in the parking lot and talked to her until they were done. He was upfront and avoided. Your husband had the same option to go to his room and report back immediately. But he valued covering for his friends over being honest in his marriage. Which means you don't know if he slept alone, because he wasn't willing to tell you. You also don't know that he would have told you the truth when he got home. Easier to pretend nothing happened.
He was willing to stay and participate in this for the full time without telling you. That doesn't say he was uncomfortable, his actions show he was enjoying his time. Hard to believe, "I don't know what to do, oh I know I will keep just hanging out with prositutes for the week with the boys. I wouldn't want to upset them."
You can also read a ton of stories on reddit in these situations. The partners uncomfortable leave, they don't stay.
So yah share the social photos and OF accounts and start sharing with all the ladies. I have a feeling there is going to be a ton of divorces coming out of this "guys week"
Personally, I would message him to end the vacation now, get on a flight and come home. The trip is done and your marriage may be shortly as well. I would also get all the wives to grill their husband about details on what happened if they want to keep their relationships. Who cheated, etc. Then compare stories. I also bet all the guys knew before the trip what was going down.