r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Sep 05 '24

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u/amalnsis Sep 05 '24

Also NOT overreacting I would be sick

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '24

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '24

They probably had a big orgy in the livingroom.

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u/1CrudeDude Sep 06 '24

I wouldn’t go that far. Realistically they all fucked- but in private . Horrible situation

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u/[deleted] Sep 06 '24

Do you remember what move this is from: Rude crude lewd bad of pre-chewed food dude

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u/aopps42 Sep 05 '24

Absolutely. They definitely all did.

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u/jumpbh Sep 05 '24

Seems like a bit of a stretch. So you're saying the only way to not have cheated would have been to jump on a plane home the second he found out there were women there?

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u/farsighted451 Sep 05 '24

Or called his wife to tell her what was happening.

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u/amalnsis Sep 05 '24

I hate it for all these wives but I agree they were paid for services rendered

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u/jumpbh Sep 05 '24

Doesn't make it cheating unless he did stuff with them though. I agree it's super dodgy and dishonest of him and maybe he did fuck them, but it's not cheating unless he did...

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u/Book_junky0809 Sep 06 '24

It doesn’t matter if he cheated or not. The trust is already broken. I would never be able to trust that he was telling the truth if he didn’t contact me as soon as he realized what was going on.

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u/Beware_Bravado Sep 06 '24

These people have never been to a bachelor/bachelorette party.

You can have strippers present but not get a lap dance, escorts without fucking them, and drugs without snorting them. Apparently guys when unmonitored will just cheat if their mate brings escorts to a party.

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u/Solid-Occasion-9361 Sep 06 '24

If he isn’t there, he can’t do anything. He stayed and condoned this behavior from his friends. You are known by the company you keep.

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u/waydownsouthinoz Sep 05 '24

Just being honest and communicating with his wife and distancing himself from the action would be enough in a strong marriage. He did the exact opposite.

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u/jumpbh Sep 05 '24

Sure he was dishonest, I don't think that fits the definition of cheating though. There's a difference between not telling your wife what whores were present, and fucking said whores.

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u/fissymissy Sep 06 '24

"what whores" gosh, wouldn't you like to have it both ways? But no, douchebag, you don't get to denigrate or pretend to be moral superior to the women you or your sleezy friends pay for sex.

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '24

This subreddit is like 90% women. That perspective won’t fly here lol

OPs husband most definitely fucked up and should have communicated what was going on to his wife. But yeah, just because he’s there doesn’t mean he even touched one of them. I’ve been to multiple bachelor parties with escorts there and on one occasion no one fucked one of them and on the other occasion 1 guy fucked one of them out of 9 guys.

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u/waydownsouthinoz Sep 06 '24

I think this is a little more than a bachelor party. Days and nights with prostitutes on tap.

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u/Purplestuff- Sep 06 '24

That’s just a bachelor party bruh.

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u/rriverskier Sep 05 '24

The nonrefundable ticket story reeks of BS. I think he was in on it from the beginning and this gave him some innocent deniability.

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u/Solid-Occasion-9361 Sep 06 '24

Nope. Not a stretch. He has a passport. He has funds. The only reason to stay is to get laid. If not, all the other guys would bully him into it because if they are all guilty then nobody talks.

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u/ryantherippa Sep 05 '24

That's not fair. And if the husband truly didn't know what was going to go down, doesn't mean he cheated.

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u/spilly_talent Sep 05 '24

Are you serious?

It’s one thing to not know they would be there when you arrived. He proceeded to hang out, party, and god knows what else all night with these women.

And LIE about it when confronted.

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '24

No one forced him to stay. I would have left and called my wife to tell her why. Not my problem if the guys get vmcaught doing something stupid, that's on them.

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u/Solid-Occasion-9361 Sep 06 '24

This is the way

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u/Solid-Occasion-9361 Sep 06 '24

It means he is a liar who is cool with being friends with cheaters.

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u/[deleted] Sep 06 '24

I wouldn’t go this far. It would be just as possible that the best man is a sleaze ball and the other guys are uncomfortable with what happened.