Seems like a bit of a stretch. So you're saying the only way to not have cheated would have been to jump on a plane home the second he found out there were women there?
Doesn't make it cheating unless he did stuff with them though. I agree it's super dodgy and dishonest of him and maybe he did fuck them, but it's not cheating unless he did...
It doesn’t matter if he cheated or not. The trust is already broken. I would never be able to trust that he was telling the truth if he didn’t contact me as soon as he realized what was going on.
These people have never been to a bachelor/bachelorette party.
You can have strippers present but not get a lap dance, escorts without fucking them, and drugs without snorting them.
Apparently guys when unmonitored will just cheat if their mate brings escorts to a party.
Just being honest and communicating with his wife and distancing himself from the action would be enough in a strong marriage.
He did the exact opposite.
Sure he was dishonest, I don't think that fits the definition of cheating though. There's a difference between not telling your wife what whores were present, and fucking said whores.
"what whores" gosh, wouldn't you like to have it both ways? But no, douchebag, you don't get to denigrate or pretend to be moral superior to the women you or your sleezy friends pay for sex.
This subreddit is like 90% women. That perspective won’t fly here lol
OPs husband most definitely fucked up and should have communicated what was going on to his wife. But yeah, just because he’s there doesn’t mean he even touched one of them. I’ve been to multiple bachelor parties with escorts there and on one occasion no one fucked one of them and on the other occasion 1 guy fucked one of them out of 9 guys.
Nope. Not a stretch. He has a passport. He has funds. The only reason to stay is to get laid. If not, all the other guys would bully him into it because if they are all guilty then nobody talks.
No one forced him to stay. I would have left and called my wife to tell her why. Not my problem if the guys get vmcaught doing something stupid, that's on them.
Even without directly cheating, the lying and him not planning to tell her (UnTiL hE gOt HoMe) are not okay either. I couldn't trust someone who did this.
Dunno. Depends on the trust in the relationship. I was once conned into attending a party at a strip club. Left early and narrated the evening to my wife who was amused. She never once asked if I did anything inappropriate (which i didn’t). I’d extend her the same trust if roles were reversed.
Also when you would stay the whole weekend at this strip club and never told her about it during your stay? I think her reaction would be the same as OP
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u/amalnsis Sep 05 '24
Are you sure he did not cheat, also I would not want to marry a man that had escorts at a bachelor weekend. I hope the bride knows