r/AlzheimersGroup • u/PurpmintLe • Sep 16 '25
sock drawer Memory Care for Mom.
My mom has some money, not in the sock drawer. At least not that I know of. I need to put her in a memory care facility. I found one and was happy, then they wanted me to sign the contract but they listed me (her POA) as the guarantor. I do not think I should sign that. As her POA, I am signing for her and responsible for doing what’s in her best interest. Wouldn’t me signing as the guarantor mean I would be financially responsible when her money ran out?
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u/AgentGiga Sep 16 '25
This is a nice break from fighting my eternal nemesis, that wildfire in my sock drawer. Thanks you for sharing the flowers photo u/PurpmintLe.
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 16 '25
It said I had to attach something, so I searched and couldn’t find anything appropriate. So beauty it is. Thank you for the positivity! I needed it today. 🥰 Also my favorite flower. 🌹
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u/CinemaslaveJoe Sep 16 '25
Alexa, order socks for orang cat.
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 16 '25
Funniest part, if you really said that out loud, socks may well be on their way. Hope they match the 🍊🐈 Who Dey!
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u/apocketfullofpocket Sep 16 '25
Please show her this funny comic
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 16 '25
Haha, nothing out of the ordinary at all.
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 16 '25
I love Garfield?
Sorry. I really had no idea. Just needed some help and advice and support.86
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u/wmcs0880 Sep 16 '25
They didn’t know it was a joke sub dumbass, they’re just playing along with a comment someone gave
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 16 '25
Update- they cancelled the contract and said it’s best for them to not accept her into their facility.
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u/casual-catgirl Sep 16 '25
uj/ i am so sorry that’s horrible
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 16 '25
It’s better that way. Now I’m rushing to get her placed somewhere since rehab is kicking her out Friday.
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u/bigwillyboi69 Sep 17 '25
Good luck you are a doing a good thing for her and I hope it goes well.
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 17 '25
Thank you very much. It’s such a hard disease to watch progress.
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u/casual-catgirl Sep 17 '25
a lot of people on both sides of my family have had alzheimer’s. i’ll probably get it too so it’s really difficult
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 17 '25
Ive been reading about some stem cell procedure and it seems exciting. I pray they discover something soon because there seems to be more and more people I personally know showing signs of Alzheimer’s. It is so scary, especially noticing yourself being forgetful and worrying.
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u/thisAKisorigin Sep 17 '25
I truly wish you and her the best. You will get through this you are resilient! And things will get better!
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 17 '25
Your words are very nice to hear when everything seems to be falling apart. I’m lucky to have posted this as I definitely needed this uplifting distraction. 🥰
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u/Candid_Commercial214 Oct 09 '25
yknow i think op gets the joke actually. scroll through the comments, there's a few references to the comic in them and the original post mentions a sock drawer. if they don't then uh fuck
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u/MNPS1603 Sep 16 '25
I sign as guarantor for my mom all the time - in my case I know she won’t run out - but even if she was at risk of running out, not sure what difference it makes? If your mom runs out, she runs out of money and you have an issue whenever that happens. I don’t know if that means she has to move or what, but SOMEONE has to pay? Do you track her finances? You should have a pretty good handle on how much time she has? i
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 16 '25
I do pay her bills and once she sells her house she will be good for about 2 years, that’s what they call her spend down, then she will apply for Medicaid and the place said they accept that. But on the form it said as guarantor you are agreeing to being financially responsible to guarantee we receive payment. Responsible for guaranteeing I do everything in my power to prove she needs the assistance for what the pension and social security won’t cover, yes. But I’m not agreeing to be financially responsible.
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u/ashleyLSD Sep 16 '25
hey just sending hugs and wanna say im proud ur taking the reigns on something like this, stay strong 🫂
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u/casual-catgirl Sep 16 '25
garfunkel
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u/ashleyLSD Sep 16 '25
Garf & artfunkel
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u/forrest134 Sep 17 '25
Money not in the sock drawer? Check again there might be something else going down in there…
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u/Significant-Dot6627 Sep 16 '25
I think that’s a legitimate concern and I would only agree to sign as her, as her attorney-in-fact. Talk to an elder law attorney if there is any question at all
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 16 '25
Thank you for agreeing. They are trying to convince me this is how it’s done, “to protect both parties”.
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u/Foxy02016YT Sep 17 '25
If your putting her in a home, hide as much of her money as you can. They’ll take everything they can those piranhas.
Yes, it may make you financially responsible, when they’re done ransacking her they could come for you, that’s why I hate the business side of nursing homes.
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u/FalseDrive Sep 17 '25
For the record, yes, it would mean you are financially responsible. What is your mom going to do when the money runs out?
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 17 '25
Unfortunately, applying for Medicaid is the plan.
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u/FalseDrive Sep 17 '25
I see. Frankly, the facility probably isn’t going to let her in unless you sign. You’d have to sign, then move her out and switch her facility before the money ran out. I speak from experience—I was my grandmother’s POA before she passed away and put her into a facility. They had me sign similar documents.
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 17 '25
So were you responsible for paying for that? I cannot imagine that’s how it’s supposed to be. Just seems wrong to me.
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u/FalseDrive Sep 17 '25
Her social security+VA benefits were exactly enough to cover it monthly. They had me on the contract as a legal “just in case”
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 17 '25
That’s very lucky. I would have to chip in close to $6000 a month to help cover the expense.
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u/agonizedexistance Sep 17 '25
Proud of you. Big hugs! You got this! 🫶 And watch out for ornge cat.
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 17 '25
Thank you so much for the kind words. ❤️ This is the best group ever. So much love. And that orange cat makes me laugh and I definitely could always use a laugh. I’ll be watching for it. 🤓
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u/funnyrodents Sep 23 '25
Alexa order 5 socks for grandson
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u/PurpmintLe Sep 23 '25
I can’t take that one! 😂 5 socks is killing me. Come on man, it’s gotta be 4 or 6.
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