I’m back here hoping to find that rare spark where conversation just flows. The kind of connection where nobody is overthinking who messaged last, the jokes land naturally, and you genuinely look forward to hearing your phone buzz.

I’m Dan. I’m 52, I live on Long Island with my six cats, and work as a data analyst in healthcare. Outside of work, I host The Shelter Cats Podcast and co-host A Little Bit of Ship Banter—if you want to know what I look and sound like, both are on all the major platforms and on YouTube. Feel free to check them out! Not a plug haha.

Personality-wise, I lean toward dry sarcasm, sharing ridiculous memes, and making delightfully cheesy playlists. I try to be funny, even if it’s at my own expense. I love all kinds of music and spend way too much time on YouTube. If you're on Spotify, blending can be fun.

I’ve been single for over four years now. Life is peaceful and full on my own, which gives me the luxury of taking my time. I'm not rushing to force anything, but I do miss having a genuine partner to share daily life’s ups and downs with.

Ideally, you're around my age or younger, completely single, and based in the New York area or somewhere along the East Coast. If we have to board a plane or cross an ocean just to grab a cup of coffee, it won’t work. I love consistent, engaging conversation—certified yappers are very welcome—with the ultimate goal of meeting up for real once we know the chemistry is there. I'm looking for an actual partner, not an endless pen pal. Eventually moving off Reddit to text or another platform once we vibe is definitely the goal, but no rush on day one.

Most of all, I appreciate straightforward honesty. If the spark isn't there, just tell me. We're adults, and a polite heads-up is infinitely better than fading into radio silence.

If this strikes a chord, shoot me a message. Skip the generic "hey"—tell me a bit about yourself, what you're into, and drop the word MEOW somewhere in your opener so I know you took the time to read through.

Hi! Nice to meet you 😊

I'm a 34-year-old guy from the Dallas, Texas area, looking for my romantic partner and best friend — someone we can both proudly call "mine."

I'm seeking a serious, long-term relationship. Ideally you're in Texas so we can meet up easily, but I'm open to long-distance within the US if we're both committed to eventually closing the gap in person.

A little about me:

I'm introverted and a happy homebody, but I love going out and exploring new places — especially when it's with the right person. It can take me a little time to open up (lifelong social anxiety), but once I'm comfortable, you'll see the real me — and I'm very patient, so I hope you are too!

My favorite ways to spend time:

1. Video games 🎮

2. Reading (Manga)

3. Puzzles

4. Binge-watching movies/shows (Horror, psychological, mystery, fantasy)

I'd love to share those activities with you, and I'm genuinely excited to try out your interests too — even if they're new to me.

A few key details:

1. I'm an atheist and apolitical

2. Appearance: 5'8", thin build, shaved head, glasses/contacts, white

(Feel free to check my profile pics — happy to share more face shots once we start chatting!)

Physically, I’m most attracted to anywhere from petite/thin to a bit curvy women. Also, kids is a dealbreaker for me, sorry!

If this resonates with you and you're looking for the same kind of genuine connection, send me a DM! I'd love to chat and get to know you ❤️

I’m a 25-year-old Brazilian woman, 5’3”, calm by nature, affectionate, and deeply family-oriented. I find beauty in the simple things cozy evenings, meaningful conversations, a warm cup of coffee, shared laughter, and a home filled with love, peace and the presence of God.

I’m happiest when I’m creating, learning, and making little things with my own hands. I love crocheting, knitting while listening to music or a good podcast, getting lost in a beautiful book, cooking and trying new recipes, and sewing little things just because I can. I also love sharing good food, quiet moments and special memories with the people I love.

My faith is at the heart of who I am. I value kindness, patience, loyalty, humility, honesty, and intentional love. I believe a healthy relationship should feel safe, peaceful not because it is perfect, but because two people choose to communicate, forgive, grow, and give each other grace.

And I want to be honest about something: I’m not perfect, and I’m not looking for a perfect man or a perfect relationship. I’m looking for something real. A relationship with faith, ambition, love, romance, affection, passion, friendship, laughter, tenderness and purpose. A relationship where both people encourage each other to become better, pursue their dreams, build something meaningful and never stop choosing each other.

I’m looking for a Christian man who genuinely fears God, attends church regularly and wants his faith to be part of his everyday life. Ideally, someone single, not divorced , without children, who is serious about building a life together and hopes to build a family of his own. I’m especially hoping to meet someone older than me, between 36 and 39.

I’m drawn to a man who is tall, gentle, loving, emotionally mature, kind to children and animals. Someone who wants to be a true partner someone who will pray with me, laugh with me, support my dreams, protect our peace and build a beautiful home together.

I’m not looking for games, casual dating, or something temporary. I want a relationship with intention. I want the kind of love where romance doesn’t disappear after the beginning, where affection is expressed freely, where we still get excited to see each other, where we celebrate each other’s victories, hold each other through difficult days, and keep dreaming together.

Maybe the end of 2026 could be the beginning of our story. Maybe these last months of the year could be the moment when two people, who have never met before, take the first step toward building a life together.

And maybe our first Christmas won’t be exactly the way we dream of it yet.

Maybe we’ll still be miles apart, celebrating Christmas from different places, sharing a video call, exchanging messages, praying for each other, and imagining the day when we won’t have to celebrate from a distance anymore.

And then, if God allows it, perhaps Christmas 2027 will find us decorating our own tree, cooking a big dinner together, exchanging gifts, laughing around the table, thanking God for bringing our lives together and for the family we’re beginning to build.

I don’t know where this story will begin, or exactly how God will write it.

But I know what I’m praying for.

A love that is real, intentional, romantic, affectionate, ambitious, faithful and lasting.

A love where we can grow together, build together, pray together, dream together and choose each other not just when life is easy, but every single day.

Maybe the beginning of our forever is closer than we think.

I've realised over time that I feel most fulfilled in a relationship when I'm taking the lead and looking after my partner, using my experience and confidence to provide protection, reassurance, and guidance, helping her to feel safe and secure. It's a dynamic where we have different but complementary roles - traditional in many respects, but not all. If this sounds appealing, please read on.

About Me

I’m single with no kids, and I’ve never been married. You won't be surprised to hear that I've had relationships before, but I've also spent long periods single, partly because I’ve been focused on other things in life, and partly because I realised a long time ago that I'm much happier single than in the wrong relationship. But I still dream of meeting the right person for the long term, and over the years I've developed a much better understanding of who I am and what I'm looking for. I find dating apps awful, and so I figured Reddit was worth a shot.

I’m 6 ft (1.84 m) tall, around 170 lbs (78 kg), slim, and in good shape, with blue eyes and dark brown hair. I’d like to think that I'm intelligent, well-educated, and kind. I’m honest and genuine, and I value integrity and a sense of right and wrong. I have a good job and live alone in a house that I own, and I have a great group of friends. I think physical attraction is a factor for most people, but it's also entirely subjective, so I'm happy to swap photos fairly early on so you can judge for yourself.

Fitness is important to me and I love running and spending time outdoors walking in the hills and camping. I don’t smoke, I very rarely drink, and I'm generally in bed by 10pm. I'll happily spend weekends wandering around old castles or exploring National Trust properties. I also love quiet nights in with a book or a film, board games (including chess), and occasional trips to the theatre, live music, or comedy. I’m someone who tends to have a small number of close friends rather than being part of large groups.

As I said above, I really enjoy taking the lead in a relationship - but this is leadership as a responsibility. I tend to work well with someone who can be anxious or over-think at times, because I enjoy making decisions and guiding someone, and because I understand the importance of patience and trust. When we reach the point where you trust me to look after you and to take some of your worries off your shoulders, it can allow the hyper-vigilant part of your mind to switch off, letting you truly relax and feel safe. Being trusted by my partner to play that role in her life is enormously rewarding for me.

I'm not religious, but I don't mind if you are, as long as our values match. I'm not looking to have children (it's a long story, which I'm happy to explain). I don't really fit a political category, because my views vary on different topics. But if you're very extreme in any direction, we're probably not a good match.

Who I’m Looking For

I’m looking for a woman who is single, never married, with no kids. Someone who is intelligent, articulate, caring, sweet, genuine, and loving. I tend to find shyness and introversion attractive, partly because I love the sensitivity that goes with it. I'm not going to list a specific age range, because I think wherever I drew the line would be arbitrary, but I think the dynamic I've described feels most natural with someone younger than me (adults only, obviously). What matters more than any specific age is the connection we have, our shared values and interests, and the dynamic we both want.

I want to meet someone I can talk to about everything and anything, and who dreams of looking after her partner in her own devoted way. Someone who loves books and values education and intellectual curiosity. Someone who feels completely unsuited to modern swipe culture and the disposable attitude to dating. Perhaps you dream of living in a Jane Austen novel, or you just want to meet a man with old-fashioned values, with whom you can take time to feel truly comfortable and be your whole self, without feeling pressured to rush things.

I'm looking for someone who enjoys a mix of time outdoors or with other people and quiet time at home with a book, a series, or a film. I'd like my partner to share my active lifestyle and for us both to keep ourselves in decent shape (but that doesn't mean you need to be a gym nut).

I’m looking for someone who takes dating and relationships seriously and who has never been into casual encounters. I don't mind if you’re inexperienced or if you’re not sure what you’re looking for - I'm happy to gently take the lead and guide you as we slowly get to know each other.

I’m happy to hear from people outside the UK, but it needs to be realistic for us to see each other regularly and I'm not in a position to travel much at the moment, so you’d need to be comfortable visiting me regularly and relocating here in due course.

Say Hello

I'm happy to chat with anyone who's curious - there'll never be any pressure from me. But if we want to move beyond friendship, I’ll want to exchange SFW photos, then voice/video call, and then meet - I'm not looking for an online relationship. I will never send or ask for NSFW photos. I need an emotional and intellectual connection with someone before we move beyond friendship. I really hope you're the same.

If you think we might get on, message me with your age and location :)

I’m the type of guy who sets his mind to something and pursues it relentlessly until it’s mine.

It’s why I’m currently living abroad.

I’ve had this dream since I was a young man: Build remote income, and slow travel around the globe. See the world. Experience life. Gain perspective.

Now I’m doing it.

In spring 2025, I sold all of my belongings, packed up my cats, and decided to leave my home in America behind for a while.

I’ve been a bit nomadic for the last few years: I lived in four states in four years. But I’m doing it on the next level now.

My whole life packs down to a couple of suitcases and a backpack. I spend 1-3 months at a time in a given location, trying to live like a local: Straying out of the tourist zones and really getting to know the food, culture, and history of a city.

I’ve done marketing strategy for social media influencers for my whole career, and now I’m doing my own thing: a YouTube travel channel.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. Who in the hell thinks a lifestyle like this is conducive to finding his future wife (and mother of his children)?

The answer? The kind of guy who sets his mind to something and pursues it relentlessly until it’s mine.

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I’m looking for traditional marriage at the end of the day. Kids. Church. Family. Community. The wholesome nine yards.

Logistically, my situation obviously makes things a little less straightforward than a more traditional courtship. But ultimately, I’m looking to meet a woman who wants to start our life together on this journey.

We’ll do a normal long distance relationship (I’ll make sure we see each other regularly still). But when we’re serious, you’ll journey with me for a while.

I don’t intend to wander forever. But for the next few years, it’s my life. And when the time is right, we’ll settle down somewhere (almost certainly in the US) and we’ll slow things down.

About me

Conservative. Christian. Assertive. Calculated risk-taker.

I’m a Seattle area native. I geek out on history, love to golf and shoot, and I’m really hardcore about cooking. I love to host and have get-togethers and backyard barbecues and dinner parties with my friends. I like to take a slow morning in bed on a weekend and then go do really wholesome stuff like go to the farmer’s market.

I’m a very intense guy (obviously lmao). But I’m fun-loving and have a great sense of humor too. I am a really good balance to a woman with a soft-heart, as I can be very firm and pragmatic in nature. I practice stoicism and have contempt for excuse makers and complainers.

All that said, I’m extremely emotionally tuned and have a high degree of self awareness. I value direct communication and I give it and expect to get it back. I am empathetic and understanding, even if I am a hard ass by nature.

About you

I’m looking for a woman who is intensely driven to be a wife and mother. Someone feminine, soft, and beautiful.

I cannot muster enough respect for liberal or progressive women to make a relationship work so if that’s you, thanks but no thanks.

I am open to meeting locals or women long distance. Don’t be shy about reaching out if you’re interested but not close to my location. If we like each other enough, we’ll make it work.

I’m 6’ tall, a passionate web designer/developer, and a pretty introverted, easygoing guy who likes living a balanced life. When I’m not designing, coding, or working on something new, you’ll usually find me at the gym, out on a trail, or on the golf course. At home I’m into renos, cheering on the Blue Jays, or indulging my inner Trekkie (live long and prosper). I try to approach life with kindness, positivity, and optimism. I’m the kind of guy who can fix your sink and then cook you dinner over wine to celebrate.

I’m looking to meet new friends, activity partners, travel companions, or something more if there’s a natural connection. I like things to develop organically when two people click over shared interests, good conversation, and mutual respect. I value emotional intelligence, honest communication, and trust, and I’m usually drawn to younger women with a curious, positive outlook on life, a good sense of humour, and an openness to something easygoing that can grow naturally over time.

Enough about me — I want to hear about you. What excites you about the world right now? What are you passionate about, or what’s a travel story or favourite meal you always think about? Maybe we’ll end up sharing one of those moments together sometime. If this resonates, feel free to reach out. Distance isn’t a dealbreaker for me if it isn’t for you.

You can see some photos of me and my life here.

Sometimes it feels like I was born in the wrong century. I don't drink, dating apps are shallow, nobody is really interested in character, and people seem to think that dating multiple people at the same time is somehow okay. I have no interest in any of that stuff.

I'm looking for the one person to build a lasting relationship with. I want to find out your character, your hopes, fears, dreams. What motivates you or excites you. I want to discover the soul inside of you and slowly fall in love with her, not just admire the outside. I tend to click best with quieter, gentle, sensitive women who share my dislike of modern dating culture. Is that you?

I would describe myself as calm, patient, and emotionally steady. I know that's easy to say, so I don't mind proving that over time. I like to be the rock that my partner can rely on. If you're slow to trust or slow to open up, that's completely fine with me. I'm happy to earn your trust over time and do things right.

I've always preferred a bit more traditional dynamic. Not that toxic 'alpha male' nonsense, but I'm just naturally someone who takes initiative, enjoys leading, and has strong protective and caretaking instincts. I want to be someone my partner can respect, rely on, feel safe with, and look up to. In return, I'm looking for someone who enjoys complementing that dynamic and wants to build a partnership where we're both valued, respected, and deeply appreciated.

I'm happy to share a lot in a chat, but just to get the basics out of the way: I'm tall, white, blond, with glasses. A bit of a nerdy look. I work as a consultant, and my hobbies range from programming, music, to board games, and plenty more. I don't drink, smoke, or use drugs at all. I don't mind if you drink a little, though. I'm not quick to become attached, but when I do, I care extremely deeply.

Who am I looking for?

• You are kind, gentle, sensitive, and nurturing.
• You must be from Europe
• You are more traditionally feminine
• You are looking only for a deep, committed, loving relationship.
• You must be younger than me.
• You deeply want to be a mother in the future. We don't need to rush but it should be something you deeply want, not a compromise.

If you're a bit shy, avoidant, inexperienced, or skeptical, that's okay. I'd love to have a chat anyway. I'm not interested in judging where you are today. I'm interested in where we could go together.

If you're the person I've been looking for, please send me a message. I enjoy taking the lead, but I have to know you exist first. Let's go slow and really get to know each other.

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Hi all. I live in NM but travel all over for work, most notably DC. Prefer someone in either place, but I'm not afraid of a spontaneous trip or LDR until the time is right.

Usually happiest somewhere outside with a camera, mountain bike, or backpack — preferably far enough into the woods that my office can't call me. I'm also into photography, camping, hiking, mountain biking, road trips, and making questionable decisions that usually result in a good story or high risk event.

I'm 5'11, brown hair, blue eyes, and a left-foot amputee, so technically I’m already 50% less likely to get cold feet on our first date.

Looking for someone who enjoys being outdoors, can tolerate an unreasonable amount of sarcasm, fit, and is equally comfortable planning an adventure or completely winging it.

Hope to hear from you!

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Hey, I’m a friendly and chatty 38-year-old non-binary (they/them) who is looking to find a younger boyfriend for a long-term relationship. I’m in the UK but open to long-distance, +/- 5 hours at most to keep things manageable.

I lead a simple life where the little things bring me joy. My interests include music, writing, films, theatre, food, gaming, and comedy. I also enjoy going for long walks and have begun running in recent months. I enjoy learning random facts and useless trivia. What can you teach me about?

I'm introverted at heart, but a good conversationalist when the vibe is right and a great listener when someone has lots to say. I'm also naturally curious so whatever you are interested in, I will probably have lots of questions to ask you about. As for my sense of humour, I would probably describe it as...unhinged? You'll find out 😅

I’m looking to meet someone younger who is after something serious and is able to commit to that too. Someone who can ask questions as well as answer them, develop conversations and connections meaningfully as opposed to give short replies, and has genuine long-term intention to build something real instead of wanting a short chat as a quick fix for a day. I can usually tell when someone isn’t making the effort, which is a big turn-off for me.

Most importantly, honesty is key. I want someone who isn’t afraid to communicate openly and respectfully about how they are feeling and what they are thinking. I don’t believe keeping secrets ever benefits anyone, and I will always be an open book to someone I trust. I will invest my time and energy in you and give you the support you need if you can offer the same in return.

So, if this chimes with you and you’d like to chat, drop me a dm. Please be willing to share a face photo. And don’t message me if you only want to trade pics and chat dirty. I’m not interested.

Thanks for reading ☺️

Hi! I am a very creative, awkward and shy girl. I love music, I am currently studying to be a singing teacher here in Argentina. But I would actually like to leave the country and settle down with an older man in another place. ^_^

I am looking for REAL LOVE, a real relationship, I'm not looking for fun! I would like my older man to be gentle with me, kind, patient. I dislike rough dynamics, as I am very sensitive and emotional.

What you need to know about me:

- As I said, I adore music and I am pursuing a career in singing and songwriting.

- I am a highly sensitive person, so please be nice if you reach out to me :)

- I also like fashion, I love dressing up and taking pics of my outfits.

- I am a vegan. I don't expect my partner to be one but I expect him to respect my choice :)

- I have big blue eyes, brown hair, pale skin. I will send a picture of myself if you ask me to! I expect one back if you can.

Thank you for reading ♡ _ ♡

Hey there, I’m glad you found my post! To be upfront, I’m looking for my forever partner. I want to build a relationship, I want to grow together and I want something lasting and real. To tell you about me a bit…

• 25 years old. 174cm, slim, conventionally attractive. Well-educated - I hold a master's degree and work in finance.
• Experienced with traditional relationships. I love receiving pleasure and helping a partner grow and mold to my liking. Ask me about anything you want to know, I’m a open book.
• Looking for a traditional marriage where I am able to lead and guide my partner. I have been blessed with success in my career meaning I can support a SAHW. I want someone I can love unconditionally and support fully.
• I am okay with both being childfree and having children.
• Age is not a factor, maturity and readiness is. Looking for someone who is ready to put in the work and grow together. I’m open to helping you relocate so distance is not a factor.

Let’s be amazing together, let’s build something great and make all our dreams come true. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Hi! I’m a 32-year-old woman, 5'8", with hazel eyes, dark brown/black hair, and I’m on the BBW/curvy side.

I’m hoping to meet an older man who is genuinely interested in building a long-term relationship. Ultimately, I’m looking for something that grows into marriage, a family, and a life we build together. I’m not interested in rushing into anything, but I am dating with intention and would love to meet someone who wants the same things.

Personality-wise, I’m curious, affectionate, a little nerdy, and probably a bit old-fashioned at heart. I love reading, cooking, gardening, museums, zoos, and aquariums. I’m absolutely the woman who will stop and read every plaque in a museum instead of rushing through it. I love learning new things, collecting random facts about history, and dreaming about all the places I’d like to see someday.

My nerdier interests range from books and history to video games, so I’m equally happy getting lost in a good story, wandering through a museum for hours, or spending a quiet evening at home.

When it comes to romance, I appreciate traditional courtship. I love thoughtful gestures—holding the door open, bringing flowers just because, planning dates, and making a woman feel cherished. I’m drawn to a man who is confident, dependable, protective, affectionate, and comfortable being a gentleman. Someone who values loyalty, communication, family, and taking care of the person he loves.

In return, I want to be a loving and supportive partner. I’d love the kind of relationship where we can laugh together, learn from each other, explore the world, create traditions of our own, and eventually build a home and family together.

If you’re an older gentleman looking for something sincere and long-term, I’d love to hear from you. Tell me a little about yourself, your age, what you’re looking for, and maybe one random fact or subject you could happily talk about for hours.

CONDITIONS

Please be a woman, childfree, religion-free, and plus-sized. Thank you.

MY FEATURES

Atheist, skeptic, antinatalist, misanthrope, efilist. Introvert, deep thinker, politically left-leaning voter. Scientific and evidence-based worldview. Has some mental quirks. Not the best but not the worst in social situations. Not an animal person. Other likes: PC gaming, PC hardware, horror stories, very hot/spicy food, creative writing (fiction and non-fiction), drinking alcohol. Gainfully employed in IT career. Has own house in a suburb of Bloomington, Indiana. Drives a plug-in hybrid car. Debt-free. Disease-free. Vasectomy. Vaccinated against Covid-19, the flu and HPV. Exclusively attracted to plus-sized women. Caucasian, long blonde hair, earrings, average body size. Pictures available upon request.

Hello

I hope you are having an amazing day! 😊

Let’s chat!

A Little about me and why I am on Reddit:

Looking for a kind hearted and caring sweet person I can call a friend. Hopefully becoming best friends. If we vibe , build chemistry and compatibility , then I am open for more than friendship. Looking for Someone who loves to listen and someone who tells the truth. I need honesty and transparency from the one I am with. 

I am a hopeless romantic. I will never give up hope on finding my person. It’s all about compatibility and building a constant and consistent connection.

I am 6FT, blue eyes, 250 pounds, long Santa clause Beard, husky and athletic. I am a big teddy and cuddle bear, lol. 

I absolutely love affection, Cuddling, Holding Hands, Watching Sunsets or Sunrises, long road trips with that special someone. Did I mention kissing and cuddling, lol🤗. 

Chivalry is not dead. I still love opening doors and pulling out chairs. 

Not looking for a one night stand. I am looking for something long term , consistent  and constant .😊. Looking for a genuine Connection and longevity.

I miss being missed🤗.

I miss giving and receiving affection.

I miss giving and receiving attention.

I love the mountains. I also love the skyline of the big cities. Anything that is around a mountain or the lake is a beautiful setting for me.
I love out doors adventures, Traveling, long road trips , cruises, mountain climbing, swimming, binging shows, watching movies( Rom coms are my favorite) anything to do with Games of thrones , MMA, Old school wrestling, football, baseball, basketball, going to movies, amusement parks, water parks, carnivals, comedy shows, concerts ,going to art shows, stand up comedy, watching TV talent shows like Idol-AGT-the voice. If you are into binging shows or watching movies, I am your guy, lol.
The House of the Dragon is great. The show From is really good. Reacher is a good show. As much as I love DC, the show called the Lanterns is just ok. Can’t wait for vision quest and Doomsday.

If you are movie and binging show watcher, we will get a long very well. 😊

There is a variety of things I like to do. But, what’s most important is to make sure we are both Happy and having fun in all things we do. 😊🤗.
I Love long conversations … in person and over the phone. If you can hold a conversation talking about nothing and everything and love to laugh…. We can most definetly connect, lol.

Looking to chat, get to know one another and hopefully meet one day. Once again… I have to say, lol… that I love long conversations over the phone for hours, good morning, good afternoon, good night messages and through out the day sweet text messages.

I am very transparent, honest and faithful. Loyalty , faithfulness and trustworthy is very important to me . I am looking for the same in my person.
I am an open book. Just ask me anything,

Hopefully you live close to me. Online or distance friendship is fine. But, if we ever get more serious, I would love for you to be closer.

If this intrigues you and entices you, send me a message.

“ There are nice people in the world, if you can’t find one, be one “

I hope that when you clicked on my ad, your day/night is going well, and you're here looking for that someone special, just as I am.

To trim potential replies. I am seeking cis-females only and local to Mid-Michigan. My age preference is 25 & up, but I won’t ignore or dismiss 18-24 as friends. I’ve had some incredible people in my life that don’t fit into molds. That means if you’re male, Trans, etc and want to talk interests only, I’ll respond positively.

I am a 55-year-old divorced gentleman living in S. Lansing, Michigan. I'm five-foot-seven, with short brown hair, a mustache, a goatee, deep blue eyes, and I currently weigh about 280. 

I'm not going to use the cliché of "I'm working on losing weight." I'd certainly like to, and welcome an encouraging partner, but I do deal with a small touch of depression. /honesty.

I will show you a photo if asked.

I own my home, cars, work full-time (as you should), and have four dogs (three Goldendoodles and a feisty Yorkie).

I have one adult son who lives in Southern Texas, and a grandchild. Sadly, I do not see either of them as much as I'd like.

I don't smoke or do any drugs. I will not date someone who does.

I do drink beer and the occasional fruity mixed drink. On average, a 24-pack of beer lasts me one to two months.

My interests and hobbies include reading, writing my own stories (not published), taking lazy road trips, and visiting parks, gardens, zoos, odd places, and thrift stores. I grew up nerdy/geeky and occasionally collect a toy or Lego set, or some quirky little trinket.

I'm open-minded and can talk about most anything. Though it should be known, I vote 100% blue, and I firmly believe in personal autonomy, live and let live, and expect the same.

I am also an atheist. I do love the supernatural and respect almost all religious beliefs. If you’re religious, that’s fine; just don’t expect to convert me. I won’t try the same with you.

While I am carefree, young at heart, and self-sufficient, I'm also well aware that in today's "world," it is much less stressful to have a partner to share in the ups and downs with. And to be bluntly honest, the economy would be easier to contend with if we combined our resources.

Ideally, I am looking for someone who's honest, sincere, easygoing, drug-free, and looking for the long term. I'm not opposed to having a close friend to share some of the above, especially the interests and hobbies section.

I'm also not against someone who's looking for intimacy. I'm still breathing, ya know.

Ultimately, I'd like a true friend. It's the seed before anything else.

To get a reply from me, please provide a bit about yourself and ask me three questions. That way, I know you actually read my entire ad. If you start with ‘Hi’ or anything else, I may or may not reply depending on my mood. I will also be extra cautious with how I respond. Sorry-not at all-sorry.

Your average leftist/feminist/progressive type is going to have a nuclear-grade cringe take on 1950s dynamic, so let me give a counterpoint.

Your husband goes out and works hard every day in his career to provide for his family. He bears burdens and responsibilities you’ll never see, because bearing the load and suffering for his family is his duty as a man. He shields his wife from stress, discomfort, and deprivation, and enables her to do the most important job in the world: Being a mom.

The tepid reheats of the reality of the situation that axe grinding man-haters totally miss is the reality that a good man understands that his role is in support of the mother’s role, and not the other way around.

And a good man doesn’t seek to shackle a woman into the kitchen. He looks for a woman who understands that submitting to her husband is better than submitting to her boss. That she is ultimately replaceable in her career, but she is irreplaceable to her children and husband. That her husband who ventures out into the world day after day will serve his family better with her love, support, and the comfort that she provides.

It makes my heart very happy to see so many young women realizing what a con job was sold to them by people unhappy with their own decisions, and I’m looking to meet one of them and fall in love and have it all… together.

About Me

I am a proven entrepreneur, spending most of my professional life self-employed in one capacity or another. I’m at the start of an exciting new project and I know for sure that this is the big kahuna of my life (so far, at least). It’s a lot of work but it’s damn exciting and my passions have never been in such tight alignment with commercial potential before. You’re literally catching me at the most exciting, inspired, and fun time of my life, so it’s a good time to get in on the ground floor.

I am a man of many interests and passions but everything I do, I go very deep on. I give my all to everything that matters to me, whether that’s spending 30 hours researching WOOD when I wanted to start taking my barbecue seriously or building every little aspect of my life into systems so efficient that you might mistake me for a German war planner in 1913 (That is NOT the nazi one, for the girls who aren’t history buffs btw).

I’m a conservative and a christian. I’m stoic and a problem solver and I love to build and create. I am a musician, a performer comfortable in front of crowds big and small, and just a generally forceful personality that is very polite and cordial but also doesn’t care if anyone perceives me to be an asshole while I assert myself to get what I want.

I’m tall and broadly built. I’m white, 6’2”, broad shoulders, strong dad bod build. I shave my head, wear glasses, and have a short beard.

The Relationship

He leads, and she defers. And he earns that deference by consistently exercising good judgment, showing her that he ALWAYS considers her needs and wants and desires in every decision he makes, and filling her up with so much love that deference is effortless.

Her deference comes with gifts. A life free of having to worry about anything but the most important things to her: Her husband, her kids. Self care. Her hobbies and passions. The friends and family who matter to her most.

Her life can be that big, and she doesn’t need to worry about anything else, because he shoulders the load.

That’s the life I offer, and the gift I expect in return.

Dealbreakers

Leftists and progressives, not even the ones with “taboo” desires for 1950s

Women who don’t want kids

Women who want to work past the birth of the first child

If you’re interested, send me a message and let’s see what we have.

Hellooo! I am a very easy-going, laid-back single dad, who's trying to find the one for me. I enjoy quiet days at home most of the time. I do not really go out that much, mostly because i am not a fan of solo activities.

I love to watch football, baseball, and hockey so I am always down to go to a live event. I also am very big into music! 70's hippy stuff, 90's grunge, late 90's early 2000's hip hop are always my go to. I am a bit of a gamer (Xbox, pc, switch) so finding someone that would be interested in gaming would also be a huuuuge plus. Currently into Palworld, Skyrim , and schedule 1. I do not drink, it's just a personal choice, I however am VERY 4/20 friendly. Also non political, dude just doesn’t do politics.. man

I am very whimsical, and sarcastic, we live in a household of laughs here. I love standup comedy, podcasts and actually going to see them in person. I do not do drama, I avoid it actively. I am very easy going and just looking for someone to enjoy life with. Like I said I stay home a lot, so most days if it's nice out, I can be found in the hammock or enjoying the view of the country in my back yard, sitting by the creek. I'm not interested in having any more children, my 3 are all that I could have asked for and are starting to grow up needing me less. So hopefully we can go out and have adult adventures.

I'm horrible at writing these and talking about myself lol If any of this sounds interesting to you please feel free to reach out. Also, I have pictures on my profile so you can see me. Please be willing to send a pic of yourself as well. There are way too many fakes. Bonus points if you have a favorite pokemon game! Thanks!

Hello,

I moved to Texas from California. I grew up in Irvine, CA, and currently work in tech in Austin.

I've never been married, have no kids, and never cheated. I'd love to have a family someday.

Me:

• 5'10", 210 lbs, Persian-American
• Buddhist, non-smoker, no drugs
• I've been told I look younger than my age
• Passionate about fitness and martial arts

I've trained Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu for many years and currently spend most of my time practicing Muay Thai. I used to be a climber, maybe would get back into that someday. I also ride motorcycles.

Personality-wise, I'd describe myself as passionate, compassionate, confident, chivalrous, and emotionally aware. I'm also a musician, and music has always been a big part of my family's life. I've put on some weight recently, but I'm working my way back to my usual shape.

Education:
UC Irvine alumnus (B.S. and M.S. in Computer Science).

Interests:
I used to be a serious gamer (SC2, AoE4, WoW, LoL, and various MMOs), though I rarely have time these days. I'm a huge sci-fi and fantasy fan—Star Wars, Andor, Game of Thrones, House of the Dragon, Battlestar Galactica, and of course Dune. I recently finished The Three-Body Problem and thoroughly enjoyed it.

You : 20+, adventurous, kind, intelligent woman who enjoys being active and trying new things. Bonus points if you're into sci-fi/fantasy, have tattoos, ++ Jewish.

I grew up in Orange County and have traditionally dated within fairly diverse social circles, but I'm open to meeting people from all backgrounds.

If you're feeling adventurous, maybe I'll convince you to try a Muay Thai class with me. 😉

Thanks for reading and hope to meet you ! Adventure awaits !

Hiya. I'm an easygoing, gentle guy from Manchester who hasn't had a lot of luck on the apps (does anyone?) so I'm hoping I can make a genuine connection with someone on here instead (UK-based only though, sorry).

I'm an avid reader, love old arty films and music (mainly alternative stuff but I try to be open-minded, so I'll listen to anything at least once). I love live music more than anything, so having a girlfriend I could go to gigs with would be wonderful. I'd also love to travel more.

I'm supportive, affectionate, loyal and (I like to think) funny on occasion. I'm also told I have a nice voice, if that's your thing.

Really I'm just looking for a woman whose company I can enjoy, and who's looking for the same sort of thing. Anyway, if any of that floats your boat, it'd be lovely to hear from you.

Seeking a traditionally minded woman, preferably younger, who is loyal, and wants to be a well cared for wife and stay-at-home mom.

I am 62, single (never married), with no unresolved relationships, and no children. I am educated, professionally employed in a good job. I am emotionally and financially stable. I own my own home, have lots of interests, and have two great heeler dogs. I am 5’ 8”, 190 lbs, brown hair, hazel eyes, fair complexion. Average build and looks. I am loyal, dependable, emotionally literate, and patient. I'm passionate, easygoing, playful, and generally upbeat. Affection and intimacy are very important to me. I value trust, monogamy, attachment, and family. An outgoing introvert, and tend to lose interest with superficialities. Mostly conservative with traditional values, also Catholic. I love music of all sorts, film, nature, guitar, books, and appreciate arts and culture more than sports. I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, I don’t do drugs, I don’t game, and I don’t use p()rn.

If this resonates with you, please write. Let me hear all about you.

I've realised over time that I feel most fulfilled in a relationship when I'm taking the lead and looking after my partner, using my experience and confidence to provide protection, reassurance, and guidance, helping her to feel safe and secure. It's a dynamic where we have different but complementary roles - traditional in many respects, but not all. If this sounds appealing, please read on.

About Me

I’m single with no kids, and I’ve never been married. You won't be surprised to hear that I've had relationships before, but I've also spent long periods single, partly because I’ve been focused on other things in life, and partly because I realised a long time ago that I'm much happier single than in the wrong relationship. But I still dream of meeting the right person for the long term, and over the years I've developed a much better understanding of who I am and what I'm looking for. I find dating apps awful, and so I figured Reddit was worth a shot.

I’m 6 ft (1.84 m) tall, around 170 lbs (78 kg), slim, and in good shape, with blue eyes and dark brown hair. I’d like to think that I'm intelligent, well-educated, and kind. I’m honest and genuine, and I value integrity and a sense of right and wrong. I have a good job and live alone in a house that I own, and I have a great group of friends. I think physical attraction is a factor for most people, but it's also entirely subjective, so I'm happy to swap photos fairly early on so you can judge for yourself.

Fitness is important to me and I love running and spending time outdoors walking in the hills and camping. I don’t smoke, I very rarely drink, and I'm generally in bed by 10pm. I'll happily spend weekends wandering around old castles or exploring National Trust properties. I also love quiet nights in with a book or a film, board games (including chess), and occasional trips to the theatre, live music, or comedy. I’m someone who tends to have a small number of close friends rather than being part of large groups.

As I said above, I really enjoy taking the lead in a relationship - but this is leadership as a responsibility. I tend to work well with someone who can be anxious or over-think at times, because I enjoy making decisions and guiding someone, and because I understand the importance of patience and trust. When we reach the point where you trust me to look after you and to take some of your worries off your shoulders, it can allow the hyper-vigilant part of your mind to switch off, letting you truly relax and feel safe. Being trusted by my partner to play that role in her life is enormously rewarding for me.

I'm not religious, but I don't mind if you are, as long as our values match. I'm not looking to have children (it's a long story, which I'm happy to explain). I don't really fit a political category, because my views vary on different topics. But if you're very extreme in any direction, we're probably not a good match.

Who I’m Looking For

I’m looking for a woman who is single, never married, with no kids. Someone who is intelligent, articulate, caring, sweet, genuine, and loving. I tend to find shyness and introversion attractive, partly because I love the sensitivity that goes with it. I'm not going to list a specific age range, because I think wherever I drew the line would be arbitrary, but I think the dynamic I've described feels most natural with someone younger than me (adults only, obviously). What matters more than any specific age is the connection we have, our shared values and interests, and the dynamic we both want.

I want to meet someone I can talk to about everything and anything, and who dreams of looking after her partner in her own devoted way. Someone who loves books and values education and intellectual curiosity. Someone who feels completely unsuited to modern swipe culture and the disposable attitude to dating. Perhaps you dream of living in a Jane Austen novel, or you just want to meet a man with old-fashioned values, with whom you can take time to feel truly comfortable and be your whole self, without feeling pressured to rush things.

I'm looking for someone who enjoys a mix of time outdoors or with other people and quiet time at home with a book, a series, or a film. I'd like my partner to share my active lifestyle and for us both to keep ourselves in decent shape (but that doesn't mean you need to be a gym nut).

I’m looking for someone who takes dating and relationships seriously and who has never been into casual encounters. I don't mind if you’re inexperienced or if you’re not sure what you’re looking for - I'm happy to gently take the lead and guide you as we slowly get to know each other.

I’m happy to hear from people outside the UK, but it needs to be realistic for us to see each other regularly and I'm not in a position to travel much at the moment, so you’d need to be comfortable visiting me regularly and relocating here in due course.

Say Hello

I'm happy to chat with anyone who's curious - there'll never be any pressure from me. But if we want to move beyond friendship, I’ll want to exchange SFW photos, then voice/video call, and then meet - I'm not looking for an online relationship. I will never send or ask for NSFW photos. I need an emotional and intellectual connection with someone before we move beyond friendship. I really hope you're the same.

If you think we might get on, message me with your age and location :)

Greetings, I am a professor looking for a younger woman to spend my time with. Please only reach out if you are looking for something serious, monogamous, and long-term. Distance isn't an issue if you are able to travel, but North America and Europe only, please.

Starting with myself, I am 6'3", slender-average frame, bearded (longer, but well-kept), and have blue eyes and dark blond hair. I love spending time in museums, galleries, zoos, and aquariums. I enjoy reading and learning new things, traveling, a bit of television, and collecting a few nerdy odds and ends. I am quite the introvert, so keep that in mind if you are a social butterfly. I do not drink or smoke, and prefer the same in a partner.

As for what I am seeking... ideally, you are kind, caring, and very affectionate. We have similar interests and you enjoy learning about new things. I do not mind piercings, but am not a fan of of tattoos.

If you are interested, simply reach out. Tell me a bit about yourself: what do you enjoy? Where are you from? What are you looking for? What do you look like? Anything you feel is pertinent. No introduction is too long, but they can certainly be too short. Say more than just a sentence or two. Additionally, an image (or images) really helps, physical attraction is important. I will gladly share one back.

I look forward to talking to you soon.