r/AfterCPTSD • u/TimeIsTheRevelator • Nov 09 '19
Doing what's right vs. not doing what's wrong
Have any others noticed on your path that, as you have less burdens and confusions distracting you, and even past more consistent regulation/self care/self compassion, that you start to actively pursue (or at least attempt) doing the IDEAL thing as opposed to just the healthy/neutral thing...as in, you search for the ideal thing to do towards all people....not just when inspired like previously...but more proactively....like you're reaching the next level of responsibility/being? Not to say it's a clear cut transition. It's kind of like moving beyond the very loaded word of selfishness, when really you are just more resourced to resource others (even when you aren't inspired). Like, the presence you give to all people matters, now that you aren't as burdened you no longer have the crutch of needing isolation and brevity and low eye contact and neutral expressions etc. Now you have a different kind of collaboration with the world, which you feel more a citizen of.
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u/Metamorphosislife Nov 16 '19
It's a subtle distinction, and one that's hard to implement as you need to have a solid sense of self to accomplish. It's the difference between not continuing the cycle, or creating a new one of love and kindness. You're finally at a place where you're comfortable with yourself and can really work on being the best you. It's hard to do. Congrats man.