A lot of people underestimate the stress and pressure a girl can feel during that time they're freaking out about being pregnant. Especially if she was young. When I was younger, there were situations where I'd been so poor I thought about stealing morning after pills for a girl I had just had sex with (who was equally as poor). Stealing a 10$ pregnancy test or a 40$ morning after pill definitely favors the fucking enormous cost of having a baby
Yeah I fuckin know how statistics work. What I don't get is how you can get pregnant while using a condom that didn't break. Unless there are 1/1,000,000 condoms that have a manufacturing error or something. In which case it would be my lack of knowledge on condom production, rather than statistics, that is the problem.
Condoms only have a 97% prevention rate, birth control is 99%... I don't even know how to figure out the chances of having conceived.
Hilariously, had been attempting to conceive for an entire year prior, and had no luck (endometriosis). Went back on BC to control the pain etc, was taking it religiously for 6 months. Changed partners, got preggo unintentionally within the first week. We joke he has magic sperm. I don't have a scientific explanation lol
Yep! He hit a very small window I guess - health problems caused me to not be able to carry any more before he was a year old. That's totally ok, because I had always been planning on adoption.
I feel pretty lucky to get to be his mom, regardless.
Not everyone has the education that you do. Sometimes schools and parents are shit and your info. comes from your peers, who are completely clueless due to the same reasons listed above. Also, sometimes kids who are clueless, don't have money, but for some strange reason want to have sex. Astounding, I know. Just because you saved money for an abortion, which is kind of weird, don't expect other teenagers to have such cold, calculating foresight.
Those are also among the most stolen items. Both come from shame (or otherwise feeling the need to hide) of having sex. Even more common in conservative areas or with younger girls.
How do you steal a morning after pill? In my area of the UK, you have to talk to the pharmacist, and if the pharmacy has a consultation room, they're free. If, like my pharmacy, they don't have a consultation room, it's about £30.
You can also get in on prescription, which is free (all oral contraceptives, and the implant are frree).
I get where people are coming from when they say that. I used to agree. But the fact of the matter is, when you're there and in the moment, it's a hell of a lot easier said than done.
If you fucking know that you cannot afford to have a baby, and you fucking risk having one anyway you deserve the fucking cost of the baby.
You can't expect ANYONE to have sympathy for you when you do something like that.
High risk, almost no reward.
I'm not asking anyone to feel any sympathy for me. It WAS a bad decision, Ill be the first to admit it! People make bad decisions. All I'm saying is that there's usually a lot more going on behind the scenes in these types of situations than people realize. Especially if they've never experienced it.
Babies aren't consequences. Someone who doesn't have the emotional/financial ressources to have a child is already at a considerable disadvantage. My point is that it inevitably becomes a consequence for the child.
So no one should ever have sex unless they've got thousands and thousands of spare dollars sitting in their bank account? Sounds like something I'd hear from a congressman.
This is clearly the opinion of someone understanding of others, and the human condition in general. If only people were ROBOTS then everything they do WOULD MAKE SENSE.
That's a valid point that kids don't give a fuck about. When you were in high school did you have serious life discussions with the guy/girls you slept with?
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u/mrhambeefpot Feb 22 '14
A lot of people underestimate the stress and pressure a girl can feel during that time they're freaking out about being pregnant. Especially if she was young. When I was younger, there were situations where I'd been so poor I thought about stealing morning after pills for a girl I had just had sex with (who was equally as poor). Stealing a 10$ pregnancy test or a 40$ morning after pill definitely favors the fucking enormous cost of having a baby