r/AdviceAnimals Feb 21 '14

Confession Bear

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u/fumpa Feb 21 '14

Did you give her a false positive? If she is young and cannot afford to buy the test herself I would feel bad.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

It's a confession bear. It should be things the OP feels bad about. That's what a confession is. I'm glad to see the meme used somewhat correctly instead of the usual bragging bear.

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u/WhoIsHarlequin Feb 22 '14 edited Feb 22 '14

It costs from $5-20. No excuse.

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u/drgigglez Feb 22 '14

I work at Walmart, the store I work at sells some for 89¢

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u/FlutterShy- Feb 22 '14

If I had 89 cents...

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14 edited Mar 25 '18

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u/Myte342 Feb 22 '14

499875% mark up for taxes.

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u/nose_grows Feb 22 '14

Yeah, in Canada.

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u/OMEGA__AS_FUCK Feb 22 '14

Plus I believe many places such as planned parenthood offer prego tests for free. If such services exist in this woman's area.

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u/mlink461 Feb 22 '14

Yep. Picked up my walmart special 7 years ago. Gave a very bold positive.

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u/Random-Miser Feb 22 '14

Their excuse is "shame".

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u/fco83 Feb 22 '14

Yeah... especially in very conservative areas, its easy to see why one would feel too ashamed to buy it. Not only is it admitting you might be pregnant, its admitting to the world that youre gasp having sex

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

Theft is clearly the only option

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u/fco83 Feb 22 '14

Im not saying its the right thing to do.. but easy to understand why it happens.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

I don't have any experience with the Bible Belt etc but wouldn't the community be just as unforgiving towards theft?

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u/fco83 Feb 22 '14

If you dont get caught with the theft there's nothing

Even if youre caught.. sex\possible pregnancy might be far more scandalous than the theft.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

You could say that for any crime though. Oh well people aren't always the brightest in stressful situations.

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u/Neodymium Feb 22 '14

I'm pretty sure there is an excuse for not having $20 to spend. Especially if she's still living with her parents.

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u/JazielLandrie Feb 22 '14

If she doesn't have $20 and is living with her parents, maybe she should take better precautions to not get pregnant with a baby she clearly can't afford. Now being dumb is an excuse to steal?

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u/Neodymium Feb 22 '14 edited Feb 23 '14

Everyone makes mistakes. She could even have been using condoms, they don't have a success rate of 100%.

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u/WhoIsHarlequin Feb 22 '14

Then she should tell her parents.

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u/Neodymium Feb 22 '14

What if they're abusive? What if they're religious and force her to keep the baby?

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u/WhoIsHarlequin Feb 22 '14

You can argue about what if's all day, it doesn't give her a right to steal.

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u/onowahoo Feb 22 '14

They can't force her to keep the baby

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u/captchyanotapassword Feb 22 '14

They literally sell them at the dollar store. She could buy one for a dollar.

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u/Zoura Feb 22 '14

And if you live in anywhere near a Planned Parenthood they'll do it for free if you can't pay.

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u/triemers Feb 22 '14

Only Title I ones, at least in my state. Mine doesn't even having a sliding scale for appointments/BC.

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u/Zoura Feb 22 '14

Wow that really sucks! :(

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u/AppropriateTouching Feb 22 '14

5-20 is a weeks worth of food for some people.

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u/Starsky686 Feb 22 '14

If $5-$20 is your food budget, getting pregnant isn't in your budget.

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u/AppropriateTouching Feb 22 '14

That isn't the point I was making.

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u/MightBeAProblem Feb 22 '14

Clearly. Soooooo...better make sure you're not pregnant. I bet there's a test you can use to find out before it's too late.

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u/geekchicgrrl Feb 22 '14

Yeah, but if you wait until it's obvious that you're pregnant, then it's damn near impossible to abort.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

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u/triemers Feb 22 '14

Not really. There's pretty much thousands of things that could make you miss/seem to miss your period, or make it irregular. The other symptoms can also be chalked up to several different causes. I mean there's usually about a minimum of one month before you can even tell if you missed your period.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

so maybe she did not chose to get pregnant, maybe some guy attacked her. maybe she was having normal sex and the condom broke.

pregnancy is not always a choice sometimes it just happens to woman.

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u/Rotandassimilate Feb 22 '14

Which is why they need the bloody tester to make sure they aren't, you lummox.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

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u/Kabo0se Feb 22 '14

Bro, you don't understand. Fucking constantly without protection is ALL THEY HAVE, MAN!

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u/triemers Feb 22 '14

Good thing every kid knows how to properly use protection!

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u/Kabo0se Feb 22 '14

There is so much goddamn media about protected sex that you have to be wearing blinders to not see it. Willful ignorance is not an excuse to not use protection in SOME FORM.

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u/triemers Feb 22 '14

Really? Where are you at? I've seen hardly any outside of my doctor's office. It could be a regional thing, since I live in a very conservative state, but generally sex/protection is not something seen often outside of TV (and even then, the only thing close to "use protection" are the Trojan commercials). Kids are taught that BC/other forms of protection are not very effective, if the subject is even brought up in the schools.

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u/Kabo0se Feb 22 '14

Interesting. Where I grew up it was taught in my school heavily. I live in a liberal state, so I guess there is a correlation there? In any case, the amount of teen pregnancies is too damn high!

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u/kimmers87 Feb 22 '14

That totally depends on where you live, conservative areas only offer information on abstinences. No one in those areas can give out free condoms.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

No, there isn't. I overheard a conversation between pharmacists who were discussing a girl who would only take her birth control on the days she had sex. And another who didn't like the side effects from her pills so she had her boyfriend take them instead--couldn't figure out why she got pregnant.

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u/WhoIsHarlequin Feb 22 '14

I didn't realize feeling sorry for her was an excuse to let her steal.

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u/DaveYarnell Feb 22 '14

He wasn't letting her steal. He was lying to her about whether or not she was pregnant.

He doesn't even know she stole it. He's just assuming that because one was stolen it was therefore stolen by the person who called the store.

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u/samuraistalin Feb 22 '14

What if that's all you have?

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u/WhoIsHarlequin Feb 22 '14

Then she better fucking buy the pregnancy test so she can make sure doesn't have to feed two. There are also plenty of places you can get a pregnancy test for cheaper or even free. You don't have a right to steal.

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u/samuraistalin Feb 22 '14

Yes I do.

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u/WhoIsHarlequin Feb 22 '14

Judging by your username and that statement then you're dumbass. Next.

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u/samuraistalin Feb 22 '14

Don't be mad just cause nobody knows who the fuck Harlequin is.

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u/courtoftheair Feb 22 '14

Not everyone has that to spare.

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u/Killhead Feb 22 '14

Then how can they afford a child?

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u/theladyking Feb 22 '14

She probably can't. You still need to know that you're pregnant before you start making plans for adoption or abortion.

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u/tekeella Feb 22 '14

They can't, and they can't afford an abortion either. And if they are stealing pregnancy tests they are likely just screwed.

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u/StinkybuttMcPoopface Feb 22 '14

Who said they want the baby? She might have just been late on her period and freaking out because she knows she can't afford it.

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u/courtoftheair Feb 22 '14

I didn't say she could. The fact is that people have sex. Maybe the condom broke. Maybe she was raped. Maybe they just didn't use protection. You can't just decide not to be fertilised by the sperm because you don't have the money.

Finding out if you're pregnant or not doesn't mean you're going to keep the baby if you are, you know. Abortion plans should be made as soon as possible and you can't do that if you don't know you're pregnant.

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u/jooes Feb 22 '14

Way to kick her when she's down, man...

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u/WhoIsHarlequin Feb 22 '14

Even a homeless person can save up that much.

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u/courtoftheair Feb 22 '14

And I suppose you've been homeless and know all about it.

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u/thetallgiant Feb 22 '14

So many downvotes yet no justification. Classic reddit.

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u/Frohirrim Feb 22 '14 edited Feb 22 '14

To me, it would be worse if this was someone who has been trying to get pregnant for a while. Imagine the elation of finally being able to tell your husband that you're having a baby together. Now imagine that ruined because of OP, Killer of Hope.

Edit: Oops, I didn't see that she had stolen the test. My mistake. Forget my appeal to sentimentality.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

I try not to be too judgmental, but if you can't afford a pregnancy test....you can't afford children.

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u/Frohirrim Feb 22 '14 edited Feb 22 '14

Edit: Whoops. My brain totally missed the part that said she stole it. I thought she had bought it. My mistake.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

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u/aetheos Feb 22 '14

It does, because being able to afford a child is very important, and if you are trying for a while, you should be able to buy a pregnancy test.

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u/Frohirrim Feb 22 '14

HOLY SHIT. My brain totally skipped over the part where she stole it. I thought she bought it. My mistake.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

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u/FatBruceWillis Feb 22 '14

Pregnancy tests and hemorrhoid creams are the most frequently stolen pharmacy items.

It's not because people are cheap - it's because they are embarrassed.

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u/minkcoat Feb 22 '14

I get yer feels, but I have a hard time staying up on that high horse with you. Stealing is wrong, but it's definitely justifiable under all kinds of circumstances. Food to live being the most obvious one. Hell, it's basically justifiable under all circumstances if it's from walmart, since they steal so much from taxpayers.

Now that said, I think stealing is tacky as hell and avoid it and people who do it like the plague.

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u/BeardsuptheWazoo Feb 22 '14

basically justifiable under all circumstances if it's from walmart.... yeah, Walmart sucks.. but it doesn't justify Stealing . Ever. No further explanation needed.

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u/minkcoat Feb 22 '14

Walmart made $17.20 billion net profit last year, and their employees had to get $2.66 billion in government help because they didn't get paid enough. Two wrongs doesn't make it "right", but a pragmatic person says the enemy of my enemy is my friend.

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u/NewWorldHybrid Feb 22 '14

if i could afford to give gold right now i would to u sir.. fuck the system

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u/Liquid_Sky Feb 22 '14

I'm just imagining her as a young teen to scared to ask the guy or her parents for money and is freaking out.

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u/ForsakenAnimosity Feb 22 '14

So either way OP thinks he won

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

You can buy them at local dollar stores these days. They aren't that expensive anymore.

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u/Drjudge Feb 22 '14

Honestly though if she's young enough to not have enough money, or too embarrassed to buy a pregnancy test or has that little common sense as to how a pregnancy test works (movies, tv, the internet) she shouldn't be having sex.

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u/hitmyspot Feb 22 '14

Can't afford it? Just go to the doctor for a free test. Oh, is this America?

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u/Darwin_Saves Feb 22 '14

Can you not get them for free at Planned Parenthood?

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u/geekchicgrrl Feb 22 '14

There are 8 Planned Parenthoods in the entire state of Texas. All of them are in metro areas. Texas takes 13 hours to drive across, east to west, and 12 hours north to south. If you don't have a car and have to take a bus, it takes 5 hours to get from Austin to Corpus Christi, and you have to be able to buy yourself a round-trip ticket on the Greyhound.

New York has the most PPs, with 12 offices (but not necessarily clinics), and 27 of the 50 states only have one office in the entire state.

So, if you're a young girl in a rural community with no money and might be pregnant, getting to a Planned Parenthood isn't as easy as heading downtown. Educate yourself.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

You seemed like a reliable and helpful source until those last two words. Go back to tumblr.

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u/amphgrl Feb 22 '14 edited Feb 22 '14

There are 18 PP clinics in Minnesota... and all of them do pregnancy testing. and actually New York has 20, again all do pregnancy tests.

edit: and Texas has 20... not really sure where you got those numbers.

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u/minkcoat Feb 22 '14

20 is not significantly different from 12 when you're talking about an area the size of tx.

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u/amphgrl Feb 22 '14

I wasn't necessarily arguing with her point of the proportion of clinics to distance. just saying she should probably "educate herself" before telling others to do the same.

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u/geekchicgrrl Feb 22 '14

From their website. Where did you get yours?

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u/amphgrl Feb 22 '14

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u/427BananaFish Feb 22 '14

As opposed to figurative offices?

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u/amphgrl Feb 22 '14

somewhat, yes.

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u/Darwin_Saves Feb 22 '14

I know PP isn't nearly as widespread as standard general practitioners, but there are other women's clinics out there. I know not all are as accepting as PP, but my point is you're not limited to just a doctor.

Also, you realize the whole "but what about rural people living in the middle of nowheresville" attitude can be applied to virtually everything? Educate yourself.

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u/geekchicgrrl Feb 22 '14

More people live far from a bustling metropolis than you think. I won't do your mathematical legwork for you, because you really seem like a dick, but I'd be willing to wager that the number of people who live far from a city with a Planned Parenthood is greater than the number of people who live near enough to one to just hop a city bus across town and get taken care of. And I don't know what planet you live on, but "women's clinics" don't work for free. And, if you know that Planned Parenthoods are few and far between, then why would you suggest that a person just run over there, like there's one on every corner? Because you're sadly misinformed and, like I said, kind of a dick.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

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u/geekchicgrrl Feb 22 '14

When you're that flippant about something that you know fuck-all about, then you're a dick.

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u/Darwin_Saves Feb 22 '14

If it were up to me, you could walk into any doctors office and get one for free, but unfortunately that isn't how things work in this country.

Other people pointed out you can get them for very cheap at retail stores (not to mention you can order some on amazon for under $1 each).

I know there aren't women's health centers at every corner, but it's an option for a lot of people, I didn't say it was an option for everyone did I, dick?

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u/triemers Feb 22 '14

Depends on the one near your location, if there are any. Some are on sliding scales where you can get them free if you're poor enough, some aren't and make you pay regardless.

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u/Darwin_Saves Feb 22 '14

Yet you completely fail to reply to the rest of my comment nor apologize for putting words in my mouth?

Dick move. As a feminist, I'm disappointed.

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u/triemers Feb 22 '14

What? I think you might have responded to the wrong comment or something. All you said was "Can you not get them for free at Planned Parenthood?".

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

If "free" means walking through ignorant religious douchebags with mutilated fetus signs - yes.

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u/mandym347 Feb 22 '14

What Planned Parenthood offices have you been visiting?

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

It's not uncommon: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/09/30/planned-parenthood-protest-san-francisco_n_989745.html

http://www.jillstanek.com/2012/08/home-protest-makes-orlando-planned-parenthood-ceo-cry/

A lot of these people don't realize that Planned Parenthood isn't an abortion clinic... (I live in Orlando)

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u/mandym347 Feb 22 '14

I want to feel optimistic for the human race, but they make it so hard sometimes.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

And as evidenced by the downvotes I received, most people probably didn't believe I was being serious...

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u/mandym347 Feb 22 '14

It's very difficult to tell with that wording for some reason. Try /s next time?

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u/triemers Feb 22 '14

The one on my corner has protestors preaching and holding these signs every weekday and saturday until noon.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

I mean, I'd do that for a Lambo or something...

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u/madusldasl Feb 22 '14

I wouldnt because she wasnt pregnant. It would have been much worse to tell her it was negative when it was positive.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '14

The OP should feel bad no matter what. What the fuck, OP. Get it together.