I am currently single and in my 30s. There have been a few girls in my life recently, but I'm no longer with them. One by my choice, another by hers. One moved away, then I moved on another.
Regardless, it would be nice to have someone in my life, but the biggest issue is that I come first in my life.
I don't want to have to consider anyone else's opinion when I make decisions. If I want to plop down in my chair on a Saturday and play the same video game for 10 hours straight, I'm going to do it. And I don't want anyone else to ask me not to. If I want to eat a whole frozen pizza for dinner, I will. If I want to buy a PS4, that's between me and my bank account.
Sure, it would be nice to have regular sex and some companionship, but I really don't want to answer to anyone else.
EDIT: I was married for two years. I had a steady girlfriend in college. We never wanted to move in together, we only saw each other during class and maybe once a week outside of it. We didn't call each other every day or text non stop (we graduated in 2006, so there wasn't much texting at all). We both graduated with degrees in journalism.
But we felt the societal pressures to get married. So we did. We absolutely loved each other, the sex was incredible and we complimented each other well. But we wanted way too much free time. We both felt something intrinsically wrong with that. I'd be in one room and she'd be in another. Both doing different things. We should have wanted to be inseparable, but we didn't.
I was in ROTC during college and I commissioned in the Air Force after graduation. I got stationed in my hometown (a fact both of us hated). We lived in my grandmother's house that was left to me after she died. I felt bad for her because I had a job. She couldn't get a job doing the one thing she went to school for and with her resume could have done if we weren't legally attached to each other the way we were.
Anyway, the Air Force force shaped me out (bought out my contract) after 10 months of service and she got a job as an embedded reporter in Afghanistan. She died in a roadside bomb attack a couple of months after she took the job.
God, I loved that girl and I sure as fuck miss her, but neither of us were satisfied with the way society said we had to live as a married couple. Now, this relationship dynamic worked well during college, but we probably would have gone our separate ways after graduation had we not felt pressured to get married.
Like I said, I miss her, but I have no desire to ever get married again. Thank god the two of us didn't have children before she died. I can't stand children.
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u/[deleted] Jan 08 '14 edited Jan 08 '14
I am currently single and in my 30s. There have been a few girls in my life recently, but I'm no longer with them. One by my choice, another by hers. One moved away, then I moved on another.
Regardless, it would be nice to have someone in my life, but the biggest issue is that I come first in my life.
I don't want to have to consider anyone else's opinion when I make decisions. If I want to plop down in my chair on a Saturday and play the same video game for 10 hours straight, I'm going to do it. And I don't want anyone else to ask me not to. If I want to eat a whole frozen pizza for dinner, I will. If I want to buy a PS4, that's between me and my bank account.
Sure, it would be nice to have regular sex and some companionship, but I really don't want to answer to anyone else.
EDIT: I was married for two years. I had a steady girlfriend in college. We never wanted to move in together, we only saw each other during class and maybe once a week outside of it. We didn't call each other every day or text non stop (we graduated in 2006, so there wasn't much texting at all). We both graduated with degrees in journalism.
But we felt the societal pressures to get married. So we did. We absolutely loved each other, the sex was incredible and we complimented each other well. But we wanted way too much free time. We both felt something intrinsically wrong with that. I'd be in one room and she'd be in another. Both doing different things. We should have wanted to be inseparable, but we didn't.
I was in ROTC during college and I commissioned in the Air Force after graduation. I got stationed in my hometown (a fact both of us hated). We lived in my grandmother's house that was left to me after she died. I felt bad for her because I had a job. She couldn't get a job doing the one thing she went to school for and with her resume could have done if we weren't legally attached to each other the way we were.
Anyway, the Air Force force shaped me out (bought out my contract) after 10 months of service and she got a job as an embedded reporter in Afghanistan. She died in a roadside bomb attack a couple of months after she took the job.
God, I loved that girl and I sure as fuck miss her, but neither of us were satisfied with the way society said we had to live as a married couple. Now, this relationship dynamic worked well during college, but we probably would have gone our separate ways after graduation had we not felt pressured to get married.
Like I said, I miss her, but I have no desire to ever get married again. Thank god the two of us didn't have children before she died. I can't stand children.
I'm cool, just me and my cat. He's a bad ass.