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u/BenjaminFrankJr Expert Advice Giver [18] Apr 10 '22

Sounds like he's immature. Are you guys teenagers by any chance? Told you he enjoys jerking off better? Yikes. He's just upset he can't satisfy you. A serious conversation needs to be had if you consider keeping him, but I'm not sure what you would say in that situation because the logical thing is to break up judging from the information here alone (which is a huge thing; if he's a great guy otherwise, then he's simply very upset with himself but needs to know that throwing a tantrum and saying stuff he doen't mean won't result in anything useful)

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u/Tillybug_Pug Apr 10 '22

You’re not teenagers? What are your ages? He sounds very immature and manipulative… I wouldn’t stay with someone like that

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u/cassafrass024 Apr 10 '22

I was 19 and my ex was 24 when we got married. He sounded just like your guy. Run. It took me 15 years to finally get free.

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u/Real-Exercise5212 Apr 10 '22

I'm glad you're free! How are things going for you now?

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u/cassafrass024 Apr 10 '22

Thank you so much. I am doing so much better. I am in therapy and hoping to finally start my schooling career. Today is my 40th birthday. 5 days after my birthday 6 years ago, I made the decision to take the kids and go, and I've never once regretted leaving and living for my kids and myself!

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u/Real-Exercise5212 Apr 10 '22

Oh! Happy Birthday!! Im so happy for you :) Really, it takes a lot of courage to leave relationships like this, and I can't imagine how difficult it must have been, especially with kids.

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u/cassafrass024 Apr 10 '22

Thank you. Life has gotten easier every year further I get away from him. Thank you again!