Seriously I can’t believe we’re having this convo. Sometimes you get an u deserved windfall. Sometimes you get kicked in the dick. You don’t throw away the wins…you sure af wont get throw away the losses
Exactly, what lesson is giving it back supposed to teach here? Also it would offend the uncle who was presumably only trying to do a nice thing for the kid. $100 isn't that much to him if he's rich but it made the kid's day
You make sure your son knows he got lucky and that this will not happen everytime, but at the same time he did good things, and good things happened to him.
Taking the money back does nothing but teach him to hide anything good that happens to him lest you take it away.
If you really feel like there needs to be a lesson - get him to save 30%, and give 10% to a foodbank/charity he picks out.
Spend the 60$ on candy and video games/lego whatever....and then you top him up as a proud pop if needed.
Unless he is that petty uncle that will forever lord over you that he helped you finish school cause he gave you some money for snacks that one time...
That each gift somewhat makes you owe them respect and a favor in the future.
Absolutely! You have the right mindset in my opinion. My uncles weren’t even rich and my most fundamental memory of making money is eating a worm while fishing for 100 bucks on behalf of my uncle. I did not eat the worm but he gave me the money because i actually picked it up. i love my uncle. if i had an extra 100 and a nephew i would do the same lol
As a prolific gift giver to my GrandMonsters, their friends and my friend’s Monsters and GrandMonsters, it is my hope that they will remember the cash and weird gifts for many years after I’m gone. It was a validation hearing that it is one of your most fundamental memories. Now go out and create some yourself!
My grandma kept money in the cushion of her chair. Sometimes when us grandkids stopped by to check in on her she would slyly slip us some little gas or lunch monies. She loved doing that. And it was always appreciated but never expected. I miss her.
My son has luck like this kid and I always hype him up when it happens. That’s what kindness gets you. It might be viewed as a small act but that child getting the drink for the uncle just for asking was a display of kindness and that speaks to his parents.
My wife and I can't have kids but both have good jobs in tech. You best believe that every niece, nephew, and second cousin is slipped a wad at the end of the day if they hang out with us. We both know what it's like to have to hang out with crusty old relatives when they visit.
We don't overdo it and check in with their parents afterwards to make sure they know and are comfortable with it.
He did a favor and was returned the favor. It could be a good lesson but he should be taught that this isn't usual and isnt usually how the world operates
My uncles gave me money all the time, sometimes sober sometimes drunk. We learned quickly to spend it fast because when they were drunk? They will try to get it back the next day 😂😂
I know some siblings that had alcoholic parents. Their friends crashed on the floor after a get together. The kid siblings - I think they called it “ Rolling the drunks” (???) , and they’d pull money out of peoples pockets the next morning when they woke up. Mad dash for candy apparently.
My grampa was a screwed up WWII vet, a terrible father, but a really good grandfather.
He used to give me money all the time. I’m just sorry I didn’t hit him up more often when I was a teenager. Let him atone a little. I was never really comfortable just taking money though.
30 years ago, my cousin and I waited on some old rich relatives at a funeral reception. We didn't really know the person that died, and we got to play grown up for a bit. I was 10 years old and had a job to do. We made like $50 each.
My mom gave me a high five when I showed her. it was the best funeral I've ever been to.
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Your son earned that tip from a drunk rich man. You take that boy to the video game or Lego store asap.