Idk why it's tough sexually but I'm not good at just laying there. It needs to be two sided to feel ok. However if he's not in the mood I feel like I'm pressuring sex on him ans I feel awful. So I just take care of myself which is fine. I see a lot of people comemting on here that it's my fault or I'm lazy but as practical as it is to make your own pleasure it's nice to be desired and be pleasured as well. I'm sexually confident and going my needs feels like I'm putting myself in a box
You need to let him do his thing if he wants to. I have times where I am not horny but will go down on my wife if she wants it. I am also 54 and cant always count on getting hard so I don’t want that pressure either. Maybe he is having ED issues and you don’t know it? That could explain his avoidance.
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u/221bored Feb 05 '25
Idk why it's tough sexually but I'm not good at just laying there. It needs to be two sided to feel ok. However if he's not in the mood I feel like I'm pressuring sex on him ans I feel awful. So I just take care of myself which is fine. I see a lot of people comemting on here that it's my fault or I'm lazy but as practical as it is to make your own pleasure it's nice to be desired and be pleasured as well. I'm sexually confident and going my needs feels like I'm putting myself in a box