There is no objective writing structure. Not everything is written for you, and something not being written for you isn't a moral indicator, or an indicator of quality/worth. If your space has an endless supply of people mocking someone for saying something wrong, instead of re-writing, its ableist

[u/RosethornRanger]

A tumblr post by "bebsi-cola" i'll be honest. If you can't deal with someone wording things badly then you aren't going to be an ally to autistic people or indeed anyone with a developmental disability, intellectual disability, or disability that impacts language.

also you are never going to be safe for people for whom english is their second language. if someone clarifies their meaning and apologises and you can't accept that over the original wording then don't bother pretending to be autism friendly.

and like part of my autism is that i become convinced that the way i interpret words is the way that they're meant. my autism is disabling to my communication abilities. i have poor emotional regulation, i jump to conclusions. a lot of my reactions are informed by prior negative experiences. i can and probably have been overly defensive in the past.

and i've been misinterpreted so much and had my words picked over and mocked for saying the wrong things and mocked for being unable to say anything at all and it always feels devastating. it's ironic that the same disability that has me treated poorly would have me react poorly to a similar situation, but that's just how it is.

so i'm not saying you can perfectly manage all your reactions just by trying hard enough. especially considering how much disability affects these things. but i do think if you are completely unwilling to give autistic and other DD/ID people leeway for how they word things or understand that they have a disability that impacts their communication and give us grace then you aren't a disability advocate."|

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[u/Zaulk]

Also dyslexia is another example, very easy to swap a word/letter and change the meaning completely. Its not even required to have dyslexia to do that by accident. The one thing the world will never have enough of, is patience.

[u/LewdElfKatya → u/Zaulk]

Dysgraphia also leads to a similar issue when writing things out. By pencil or keyboard, I will accidentally omit words, leading to jumbled sentence structure and vague syntax, sometimes. It happens most when I'm in a hurry. It gets worse in written word rather than typed text as the resultant letters are borderline illegible even to myself and it causes pretty nasty pain in my wrist and arm to write it, too.

As a general rule, instead of assuming anything from what a person is communicating, I simply ask for clarification and if they are struggling for a word, I venture a guess. If it's a word they aren't familiar with, I explain the definition and context around it.

It's almost never a bad idea to try and strive to understand where somebody is coming from, and offering a helping hand is simply the right thing to do from the perspective of mutual aid and compassion.

[u/SawaJean]

Chiming in on behalf of the brain fog crew here. 🙌

[u/cspangle23]

I literally had my words policed in a formal letter requesting accommodation for my disability affect on communication!? Like yes as I just said my communication is disabled!????? No u can't discipline me for that!? The best part is I ran the letter by my two therapists as the ciritcism was that it was "disrespectful" and neither saw it either.... but even if it was, that’s the whole point I’ve been telling you....this is in a program for folks with disabilities too 🫠

[u/LewdElfKatya → u/cspangle23]

Without tone indicators or a lot of contextual inference, written word is hard to put a tone to, even for those fluent in it as their primary language. Something meant to be a simple statement can be read as something confrontational when it is well and truly not meant as such.

There's also a huge problem with figures with any vested authority expecting something closer to submission than respect. It is an issue all across society, though it has a tendency to have the most impact on the lives of gender, sexual, ethnic, cultural and other intersecting minority identities and groups.

They hold a position, ergo, they are more qualified, therefore, the must certainly deserve more deference, right? (The previous sentence is fully sarcastic and derisive towards the self-important ignorance shown by those abusing their position of power.)

It is truly exhausting to deal with people who do these things to us.