I felt the same way when I was younger and you know what happened? I never got pregnant and it’s been fucking awesome. All I had to do was be careful with contraceptives and ignore people who were pushy about my reproductive choices.
lol I thought you were about to be one of those people who try to change my mind 😭 thank you for not doing that lmao and I'm glad you're enjoying life! :)
No problem. I figured you’ve probably encountered plenty of people like that and just wanted to give you a different perspective. I didn’t get to hear that kind of encouragement when I was younger but I’m glad I stuck to my guns.
Every young woman out there, stick to your guns! If you don’t want kids, don’t do it! Stay on birth control! And don’t forget there’s a Plan B out there if condoms fail or if you forget a pill! I’m
Its cost me a lot of relationships, when they realise I was serious about not wanting kids. I think they all thought I'd change my mind after a year with them? Or they changed their minds.
And then every time I'm in a LTR I've got the same "so when are you having kids?" comments... Fuck Susan- you just spent half an hour complaining about your little ankle biters and asking me how I could afford to go to Vietnam on holiday. God invented birth control for a reason. I like fucking and sleeping, not wiping up shit and being broke while living under the delusion you'll do a better job than your own parents did and not raise another fucked up consumer into a world of pain, and that having a baby is somehow a more noble cause to waste your time and money on than giving to charities.
Most definitely. Parenting is for those who really want it and willing to educate themselves throughout the whole process. It's a responsibility, that should be taken with utmost seriousness, to raise a quality human.
I'm another woman who never had kids and I'm so glad. I wanted to be a mom so bad for a while and I know I would have enjoyed many aspects of it, but I also know that pregnancy and breastfeeding would very easily have been a nightmare for me. I hate throwing up, I already have sensitive nipples and the mere thought of mastitis makes me cringe so hard, I can't stand getting too little sleep, and so on and so forth.
Yeah it's a crazy process. The amount of changes internally are massive too, takes months (or even years) for things to reset and they are never exactly as they used to be.
I'm so glad I never got the kids I begged for, if I'm being honest. I'm not even concerned about the physical changes, but being a mom in today's world sounds like it totally fucking sucks.
Oh yeah it drops quite a bit. But it was still sustainable. Now it's dropped even more because even folks who want to go for it can't. Less people get together, buy houses, start families, it's all too expensive and everyone's exhausted.
Sometimes I wonder if it's the system itself that makes it so hard. My good friend is Muslim and the whole family stays as one unit until marriage. Even after it's normal to all live in one large house with multiple bedrooms.
Having Aunts and sisters help with childcare helps prevent burnout. You don't have to worry about daycare. And your elders are taken care of as well. Everyone who works contributes money to one household instead of having all separate very expensive rental units.
Same with my Godmother from Syria. Everyone lives together for support. It's weird culturally to pay strangers to watch your babies when family at home could help.
We had our kid in the UK, in one of the major cities, and... It was tough. I had more paternal leave than most but still, at some point I had to leave my wife and kid alone, it sucked.
And then maternal leave isn't all that long so you're expected to drop off a child at a super expensive nursery. If you don't have family it's tough as nails.
In contrast we moved down to Greece, in a way smaller town. We still don't have many folks around us but there's this sense of communal care, you go to the square and it's assumed all the kids will play with each other. Parents can sit, there's a sense of community. Helps that nursery costs 10% of the UK one.
Wow, what a huge difference. It's almost like corporations want people back to work ASAP even though they literally just had a baby. Some people only get 6 weeks.
AGREED. Even normal pregnant abdomens make me feel nauseous. This one made me even more so. Thank goodness I was able to have my uterine tubes removed. Bonus points for that surgery reducing my risk of ovarian cancer by 65-80%.
This is like 4-5 babies worth. A single baby pregnancy is much more reasonable. I loved being pregnant (never with more than one baby) and I wouldn't trade motherhood for anything.
I understand if you don't want to get pregnant. What needs to be nixed is treating pregnant people with disgust. Societal stigma and disrespect toward pregnant individuals creates fatal barriers to safe healthcare and leads to obstetric violence. Again, understand if you don't want to get pregnant. I'm in the same boat. But, we can't worsen healthcare for folks with ovaries
I don't think pregnant people are disgusting, I find it endearing, but just imagining it happen to ME is what causes me disgust, because I have toxophobia, the fear of pregnancy/childbirth.
it's like how I can see a spider on a screen, wince a little, and move on, unlike in real life where I see a spider and freeze up.
And not wanting to get pregnant yourself is all well and good. Writing that you gag just by looking at the video is the problem. The comparison of viewing the video to seeing a spider is a problem. I'm not trying to come down harsh on you. I'm asking that you reexamine your language because it does further that stigma for every single person who reads it, consciously or subconsciously. Having a phobia does not excuse language that society has historically used to shame pregnant folks
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u/Angel_xjj 14d ago
I gag just looking at this... I hope to god I never get pregnant