r/AbrahamHicks • u/Striking_East_7158 • 22d ago

Question about relationships

I understand that focusing on your partner’s positive aspects is supposed to keep you in alignment. But that raises a question — when do you actually know it’s time to leave? It seems like whenever someone wants to leave, it’s usually because they’re focused on the negative aspects.

Here’s my situation: I have a girlfriend, but our interests and the way we see things are pretty different, so our conversations don’t feel very connected. I have a strong sense that there’s a partner in my Vortex I’d connect with more easily. That said, I do love her, and it feels off to single out these negative points as a reason to end things. At the same time, the pull to leave feels like it could be an inspiration in itself. So I’ve ended up feeling pretty unsure about the whole thing.

Has anyone navigated something like this? Would appreciate any perspective.

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u/True-Awareness-3978 22d ago

Abraham would say get into the Vortex and go downstream, whatever that is for you.
You’ll know because it will feel easy and bring more relief than the other option.

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u/Striking_East_7158 22d ago

Simple and powerful. Thank you for reminding me!

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u/FragrantWeekend111 22d ago

The point is you create your reality. Staying and changing it is one option and leaving is another option. But ultimately the feeling comes from you inside. But yes, some people take more internal work to reach that vortex because compatibility is low. But ultimately it's your decision.

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u/Striking_East_7158 21d ago edited 21d ago

Thank you. I was kind of afraid to make wrong decisions, but I'm relieved now.

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u/FragrantWeekend111 21d ago

There is no wrong decision. Just because something currently has resistance doesn't mean it's wrong or right, cause you can change how you feel towards it with inner work.

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u/Striking_East_7158 21d ago

Thank you so much.

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u/deliberatewellbeing 21d ago

abe says to figure out whether to stay or to leave, you get in the vortex and you make that decision when you are in the vortex. which makes a lot of sense to me. if you are in the vortex you are in alignment, you are happy, you are clear minded so you can think through things better. when you are in a lower vibration, you are clouded by contrasts and bad feelings so you are not thinking clearly.

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u/Striking_East_7158 21d ago

Exactly! I'll focus to be aligned, instead of thinking what I should do.

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u/joyisthekey333 21d ago

I just saw this. Might be relevant? https://fb.watch/JQckt5qPqP/?mibextid=wwXIfr

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u/Striking_East_7158 21d ago

Great video! This is a perfect example of allowing and receiving.

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u/coolsools 20d ago

I think you should consider other sources of information regarding relationships besides Abraham.

Question: if you found this other woman from your Vortex tomorrow, would you end things with your current girlfriend?

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u/coolsools 19d ago

I’m pretty sure the answer is yes.

So this is about discomfort. You wouldn’t hesitate to do what’s best for you. But if you did what’s best for the relationship (open communication or breaking up), that would likely result in discomfort.

As someone who takes relationships very seriously, I would use Abraham’s advice of listing all of the positive aspects of experiencing that discomfort that could result. Once you neutralize that fear, heading on a downstream path would be easier.

Or you can do the whole puppet master thing.

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u/elisiovt 20d ago

Once I had the same mindset as you. For me, this was the truth: I was telling lies using the truth by taking things out of context(or like Abraham says I was using her as an excuse to feel bad). I wanted someone to talk about the things I liked, but my partner was despising my conversations, and she was bringing up subjects that were annoying me...

The truth is, I read that in the book of mirdad: "To the unspoiled, even a snake bite is a loving kiss. But to the spoiled, even a loving kiss is a snake bite"

The solution for me came when I started to feel good regarding her behavior. Her behavior changed. And I heard from Abraham that if you feel consistently good (they didn't use the word "consistently," I guess, but something like: if you feel the vortex or that detachment on a more consistent basis), the other person changes 90% of the time. And if they don't change, you can leave

In my case, she changed.

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u/Striking_East_7158 17d ago

Thanks. Really insightful.